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I don't know where to begin, this is a complicated matter that has been going on for about 3 years now.
Without going into detail I will try to make this as fast as I can.
It is I, my 16 year old brother and my mother that all live with my grandpa at his house that he owns.
3 years ago my mother started hanging out with a guy almost half her age who was on probation for stachatory rape. He was in jail for one year.
This guy has no place in society. He thinks he is a badass and he will become confrontational with anyone at the snap of the fingers.
He walks around with that stupid limp, can't communicate intellectually whatsoever, and his temper is ridiculous.
My mother used to be a great lady before this idiot came into the picture. Now her whole life is basically worth nothing. Its all gone to hell.
I have so many stories I could tell about my mom from the last 3 years of drug use, drinking, constantly telling me to die, that she should have gotten an abortion, etc. Threatening myself and my Grandpa. She is so unrational since she has been using crystal. She thinks she is the victim and can't comprehend anything logical.
She has a lot of hatred towards me because I am the only one that has the guts to stand up at my house and tell it like it is. I have exposed her for probably all that she has been doing. I could probably write 20 paragraphs, but I won't. One thing I have exposed her on is her leaving her meth pipe laying around and educating my grandpa of what it is, and showing him websites regarding meth users and how they act. And what seems to be her biggest problem is that I stand up and tell it like it is about her friend / boyfriend.
My Grandfather is pretty naive at times, he also admits that he just wants to keep the peace when things are calm at the house. At first he didn't really notice what was going with my mother and that guy. I would tell him things and he wouldn't see it, or he pretended he wouldn't see it. One day my Grandpa just woke up and realized that everything I had been saying was true cause he finally started to see it for himself.
The problem I have today.
As if what I mentioned wasn't bad enough already, and keep in mind that what I mentioned is only a small fraction of what has been going on this last 3 years. Almost constantly!
The problem is that her friend is a fucking terrorist of our household. Weather or not it was his fault that my mother went nuts right when they started going out, who knows. But what I do know is that my Grandfathers and my main concern is to keep that guy away from the house for the following reasons.
He was always trying to antagonize me to fight him. He got in my face a few times where I live trying to fight.
He has threatened my Grandfather.
He has been in the house, broke my brothers laptop, thrown coffee all over, and refused to leave.
He constantly comes over to the front of the house causing problems.
My brother said he saw him push my mother in front of his mothers house and hit my grandfathers car.
He is always trying to my family all the private sexual activities they do together.
Before my Grandpa had the guts to ban him from the inside of the house, it was like that prick owned it
The things I mentioned aren't as frequent anymore, but that guy insists on driving up and down our street at all hours honking the horn and he calls the house over and over and over again.
The sad thing is that my mother will defend this guy at all costs and he can do no wrong. She say she is a victim of us, and that he has nothing to do with it.
MY Grandpa and I don't have it out for that guy, all we care about is keeping him away from the house, and him not calling the house anymore.
Within the last year I have been calling the cops on this guy whenever he starts screwing around in front of the house, even for petty stuff. What I regret is not calling the cops when he first started going crazy. If only I knew then what I know now, I would have. In the beginning my mother would talk me out of calling the cops, that he wouldn't do it again, it was a one time thing. The after I started to wise up, she would start going really crazy and say stuff that if we get him in trouble that he would retaliate on her and other BS.
Todays situation is this. I and my Grandfather want to get a restraining order against him. Finally!
This last week has been another bad week and I just can't take it anymore. I have had all that I can take before I snap.
The idiots mother works for a lawyer and my mother supposedly gets advice.
Back 3 years ago before things got bad my mother introduced him to me. Well, I really tried, but I just didn't like the guy. His personality is horrible.
I should add that I play the drums, just for fun. The idiot played guitar and him and my mother talked me into jamming with him. Also, both him and my mother introduced me to 3 other people..2 guys and a girl. They were actually normal and and I liked them. Turned out that they didn't care for the idiot either.
Well I liked playing music with the new people and everyone agreed to kick the idiot out of the so called band.
Here is where I need advice.
My mother knows that my grandpa and I want to get a restraining order against the idiot because #1, he is a non stop problem to our household. And #2, my mom has shown signs of remorse on many occasions, and by keeping him away from the house would enable my mother, grandpa, brother, and I to work our problems out. We have tried before, but the idiot comes around and screws everything up.
My mother threatened my Grandpa that if we took the idiot to court to get the restraining order that she would say that my Grandpa allowed underage drinking during the 2 months those people were coming over to the house to play music.
I think one of the people were 20? I don't know how old they were. All they did was come over to hang out and play music, and I hanged out with them a few times outside of the house. These were people that the idiot and my mother knew, not me or my Grandpa. hell, my Grandpa didn't really want them over here to begin with but my mom had a fit cause these were her supposed friends.
My mom made it a point to always supply these people with beer to be a good host. I assumed she knew there age? Once I purchased beer and they drank most of it. But I thought they were over the age of 20? That 4th of july me and the two guys went to a bar and they got in so in my book that tells me that they were at least 21. I don't know about the girl though. The point is that I never even thought of knowing what their age was because here is my mother bringing them to the house and letting them drink.
Well supposedly at least one of them wasn't 21 and my mother wants to use that as blackmail against my grandfather to prevent us from getting a restraining order. I didn't know their ages and my grandfather hardly knew what was going on to begin with.
Any advice would be gratefully appreciated.
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