just got back from a wedding of a older woman and younger man

[laura888]

The woman was older by at least 25 years (she was about 65 and he was about 40) . She was very wealthy - and altho I didn't know the whole story, it seems like he might have married for money.

Of course, if they're both happy - that's wonderful!

What do you all think of this?

[greatauntoftriplets]

1. Whatever floats your boat.

I wish them many years together.

[SOteric]

2. I think people marry for a host of reasons

and the tabu, the social stygma that was once attached to May/December romance and marriage is breaking down. Rightly so. If the situation were reversed, if the woman were 40 and the groom 65 and wealthy, little speculation would enter into the formula.

If it's possible that they love and care for one another, I would wish them well and support their union emotionally.

If it turns out that one is selfishly using the other (in whichever arrangement), then I will either support my friend or have the good sense to shut up about it. People that age are well able to make life decisions for themselves.

[laura888]

3. of course your'e right!

women aren't the only ones who marry for financial security!

[darknemus]

4. I have no problem with it.

My wife is 10 years my senior.. heck, my step-daughter is only 10 years younger than me. But our relationship works - and we're happy with it :)

-darknemus

[Rowdyboy]

5. At the age of 55, my great aunt married a man

28 years her junior. She had very little money but she was a super-charged individual who could make you feel like the king of the world and the only person in the room. She died within 10 years of breast cancer but he stayed with her and nursed her until the end. Love is love is love is love...I won't try to define it for you if you won't try to define it for me...

[DuctapeFatwa]

6. Age differerences tend to fade with time

I know a very happy couple with a 12 year age difference.

When they met, I suppose it seemed like a lot, but now that they are both older, it seems much less.

And when she is 85, he will be 73, which doesn't seem remarkable at all.

[blondeatlast]

7. As long as they are both happy with the arrangement, no problems here.

I'm 12 years older than my hubby and believe me, we married for love, neither of us had any money! We've been married almost 8 years now, dated for three years before that, and we are still crazy about each other. We also have a wondeerful almost 7 year old son.

:toast: to the happy couple!