Does one send flowers for a neighbor that died even if

[gizmo1979]

you despised the man?

[Padraig18]

1. I would.

:)

[Lars39]

2. His survivors might appreciate them.

[SOteric]

3. The flowers aren't for the departed.

They're for those who do grieve his loss. It would be a nice gesture to send the flowers, but if he was really awful to you, don't feel obligated.

[ProudToBeLiberal]

4. it's a courtesy thing

:)

[Maddy McCall]

5. Yes.

[cheezus]

6. plant them in your garden instead

it'll make it easier for his estate to sell the home

[RevCheesehead]

7. no.

A card will do. Something like "thinking of you" is probably better than a sympathy card - and definitely better than a "Congratulations on your new move" (although that might make YOU feel better.)

If you feel a tangible gift is in order, then donate to a charity or organization in the name of the person. Most will acknowledge a memorial gift by sending a card to the family. No fuss, no waste, no hypocrisy.

[Book Lover]

8. No

You can support the family (the goal of sending flowers) in another way - giving them food, for example.

[blondeatlast]

9. Just be kind. Someone loved him, and is greiving terribly

right now.

Say that you are very sorry, and leave it at that.

[TyeDye75]

10. Two of my neighbours died today

I didnt despise them, but I didnt know them really well either, every time someone in the street dies...there is a collection...thats it really

[rooboy]

11. I think it depends on whether or not people know you despised him.

If they don't know, you can send flowers. Otherwise it may look a little insincere.

[gizmo1979]

18. definitely knows

I put a fence up because of him.

[rooboy]

21. In that case, a respectful lighting of fireworks will suffice. n/t

[DS1]

12. What the ever living fuck for?

:crazy:

[MissMarple]

13. Honoring life is a good thing. It reflects back on you.

You don't have to personally like the guy. The people we know are part of our human experience. Unless he was really, actually evil, or you would feel like a total hypocrite.

[bigwillq]

14. I wouldn't give flowers. Maybe bake a cake

or send a fruit basket.

[JVS]

15. How do you feel about those left behind?

They're the ones who the flowers are really for.

[gizmo1979]

19. Got in a fight with his two sons

we're talking fist fight.His wife was ok.It's not a close knit neighborhood.I just feel a weird feeling like I should make peace with them.If that makes sense?

[MissB]

20. The only advice my mother ever gave me was

to bake a cake for someone if I got into an argument with them. I always thought that advice was rather odd, though. Maybe it is a generational thing.

[Richard Steele]

16. Donate to a progressive org. in his name

[Stop_the_War]

17. Give them to his cats.

They'll be delighted.

[qnr]

22. Plant a tree in their name that neighborhood dogs can pee on? n/t

[CanuckAmok]

23. I donate to a cause in their honour, instead of sending flowers.

Flowers are useless.

[tinfoilinfor2005]

24. If you are close to others in his family, yes

If you are just friendly with them a card will suffice.
If you are just on a "hello" basis, no (or throw in if there is a collection in the neighborhood).