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I'm basically okay with it, but I'm in a "shake my head at the stupidity" moment, so I thought I'd share.
She decided to end her (second) marriage, and had him served with papers around Thanksgiving. I'm not going to cry over it; he's a loser, too, but frankly no different than he was when she married him six years ago -- no ambition, likes marijuana, and frankly, kind of lazy. I know some of their problems had to do with different parenting styles, and I'm not going to pretend the ending was a surprise. Their marriage is their business, and I respect that.
HOWEVER, there are six kids involved -- four from his previous life, one from hers (who he adopted), and the youngest they had together. I'm not sure if her new "boyfriend" was around before her husband was served (again, around Thanksgiving), but he's been spending the night since (at least) mid-January (that's less than six weeks since she had hubby served) and is introduced to everyone as "her boyfriend." The new guy is at her home pretty much all of the time, and has been given authority over her children. (She has made no attempt to stay in contact with the four step-children; my husband and I are the only ones who got them Christmas presents this year!)
My parents have welcomed him into their home with open arms, and a brief conversation with my mother this morning was what told me that *I* am considered "the strange one" because a) I don't approve of adultery, b) paraded in front of her children, c) paraded in front of our parents, d) paraded in front of ME and e) I'm not interested in socializing with her and the flavor of the week while she's still married. I am officially a judgmental bitch, and I'm okay with that. (No, I'm not running around shoving everyone's nose into my opinion, but I'm not talking to these two either, and this is is just ONE of the reasons for the deafening silence when we run into each other at my parents' house.)
How do I know this stuff, that really doesn't impact me or my life? Well, my thirteen year old niece, and my six year old nephew talk about it with me. Originally, it was obvious that it was having a negative impact on them because they were both upset and wanted "daddy" home; now the thirteen old is hanging all over the New Guy, while the six year old is developing some "behavioral problems" because he ignores the commands / instructions / whatever New Guy says to "correct his behavior...."
Obviously, I'm not saying anything bad to the kids; I make the appropriate supportive noises, and say obvious stuff like, "I know your mother loves you; maybe you should talk to her about this," which we all know isn't going to do any good. I'm very worried about the niece at the moment, since her mother's latest marriage is the longest she's had a "stable" male figure in her life, and its starting to show as she enters into adolescence. Did I mention her adoptive father doesn't want to pay child support on her because she isn't his "real kid" and he's made a point of saying it TO THE CHILD'S FACE?
I just want to smack these people. My dead drug-dealing sister left us a teenage heroin junkie to deal with, and now Idiot Woman doesn't seem to get that her sexual hijinks may impact her children's views of adult relationships. I'm NOT going to talk with her about this, so I'll just come here and rant for a bit --
ARGH!!!!!
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