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(though it must have been a pain to redo) - just let you recommit to yourself that this thing (in all of its glory and misery) is what you really wanted to do. The one constant I have witnessed, in those who have made it through with the least deep scars, is that they REALLY knew, deep down, that this is what they wanted - and thus that they weren't going to take any of the bumps in the process personally. That mindset really has launched a thousand ships/careers.
Per myself, when I left my program (top in its field in the country - lots of ego tied up in that which made leaving very hard)... I ended up working at another U as an analyst. Profs on the project treated me as an equal (where I had left being a "grad student"), but kept trying to get me to reconsider ... or start over at their (lesser prestige - in the field) U. It was very hard for them to understand that I like research, am good at it, and in someways find that world very intellectually seductive... but that I had walked away for a bigger desire - and that for me the desire was not academe. Almost like I had to go through a last seduction and be so certain in my heart that this isn't what I wanted, to be certain now (several years later) that as I pursue my dream, that there are no doubts about the path not taken/backed away from. Way more info than needed here - but an affirmation of how freeing it feels when one gets through the guantlets (and while it is different, starting a viable organization from scratch also includes a lot of hurdles) and finally be doing, what one has long longed to do. May you find that satisfaction. I wish it for everyone.
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