Never mind; I wasn't really looking for lectures n/t

[Frogtutor]

[xfundy]

1. Uh

Why break the law (speed) just because she did? Why compete in such a meaningless game? Why post about it here?

[Frogtutor]

4. self delete

[kiraboo]

5. She can have somebody come out and give you a warning.

But I have to say, you behaved as badly as she did. Why be part of the problem? What if a third vehicle or God forbid, a child, somehow got in the middle of your wrangle?

[skygazer]

2. I don't think she can

But what a fine example you've set for your son. Was he still around when you were calling her a stupid bitch and a fucking liar?

Sorry, don't mean to be harsh but judging from your story, you pretty much turned into exactly what you were angry about in the first place.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

3. She can't do anything that would actually stick.

I did get a ticket once because some lady went to the police station and said I went through a stop sign. They mailed the ticket to my house, but I wasn't even driving on the day it happened, so it got rescinded.

[ScreamingMeemie]

6. Complete bullshit. No worries.

If it wasn't, I'd deny it anyway and accuse her of harassing and stalking...which she is. :hi:

This is also the reason why I dread each school morning. Parents in school parking lots are assholes...never thinking until somebody is injured.

[ScreamingMeemie]

7. I'm sorry Frogtutor....but perhaps there was a grain of truth in some of

what was said. Although I do not feel I have lectured you. :shrug:

[Frogtutor]

9. No, you didn't

But others did, and now I'm sitting here feeling like crap and wishing I hadn't said a word.

[ScreamingMeemie]

11. Don't worry. I've felt like you've felt towards the idiot parents at my

son's school many a time. It'll be okay. None of us DUers are perfect although we all pretend to be at times. ;) :hug:

[Frogtutor]

13. Thanks, Mrs. G n/t

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

15. I understand why you'd feel like crap, however...

I don't feel like anything that was said was truly out of line or a personal attack. We all make mistakes, and that's fine, but you have to learn from them and move on. You didn't seem to have understood where you might've been wrong in the situation you described, so others at DU offered a bit of healthy criticism. That's a good thing! Without a little criticism sometimes, you never learn from your experiences.

It's alright to be wrong sometimes. Chalk it up to experience and move on. That's all.

[Frogtutor]

16. But I did admit to being wrong in my original post...

I know what I did was wrong, and I said so. I think that's why people's comments, while not exactly hostile, hurt my feelings anyway. I take for granted that no one here really "knows" me, so I didn't explain in detail that I am normally a very nice, courteous person, RARELY confrontational, and I am very sensitive. I overreacted to a thoughtless (albeit dangerous) driver, and came here to vent. Maybe I didn't sound very remorseful about it at the time, but my emotions were still high. Besides, I was looking for information, and if it wasn't too much to ask (which apparently, it was) a little commiseration for the whole situation. I wasn't whining "poor, pitiful, me"; I didn't want a pat on the back or anything, just kind of like Mrs. Grumpy posted, basically that it's ok, we all make mistakes, I understand how frustrated you felt, etc. I realize now that it was wrong for me to expect anything, and that I should probably keep things like this to myself, or very close friends and family from now on, especially if I don't want my feelings hurt.

I appreciate your comments.

[kick-ass-bob]

8. just take a deep breath and move on.

it'll be OK.

[Frogtutor]

10. Thank you, you are kind

[Fridays Child]

12. She can do nothing more to you than you can to her...

...which, as you found out, is pretty much zilch.

From your story, it sounds like she got your goat at the very beginning, when she had you doing 60 to try and keep her from passing you. Believe me, I know how that can happen. But you just have to chill out, especially when children are in your car. Just back off and let assholes like her have their way. Eventually, she'll get busted for following too close, speeding, or whatever.

[Coyote_Bandit]

14. A Question and an Observation

Those kind of drivers hack me off really bad. Who do they think they are?

Could your response have accelerated the incident? Perhaps the other driver would have been happy to pass you at 30 mph. Instead, you both ended up accelerating from 20 to 60 mph in a school zone.

I understand your anger. But I cannot encourage your behavior. Somehow I feel like if I offer my sympathy for any possible consequences that I am validating your response.

[Frogtutor]

17. Absolutely

But I still was going to the same place as her (the school) and I still feel like I would have to say something to her. People that do things like that need to be held accountable, or they'll just keep driving like idiots. Well, they might drive like idiots no matter what, but you get what I'm saying.

Anyway, see my post above (#16) for details, but I did confess my wrongdoing in the original post, and would never ask anyone to condone my behavior. I deleted the post as soon as I started getting so much negative feedback; I felt like I was under attack because no one seemed to understand my motives for posting.

If I ever see that same woman again, I'll even apologize for my behavior, while still letting her know that her driving behavior is unacceptable.

I appreciate your sentiments, as well.

[Coyote_Bandit]

18. Believe Me

I understand your frustration. And I've had a few unpleasant road encounters of my own - including a couple of incidents that escalated to the point where I was being chased by raving lunatics. I've become a defensive driver - something that encompasses everything about anticipating another driver's actions.