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HereSince1628 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 07:10 PM
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I failed as a parent...
My (freepish) daughter helped hang a jury that was otherwise pretty much ready to acquit.

What is the chance a prosecuter will try again on a case with a 10-2 jury?
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Fixated Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 07:11 PM
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1. ...
Just distance yourself from her. I did the same when my friend started going to pro-life marches. Not only that, but I killed her.
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HereSince1628 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 07:14 PM
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3. That was severe!
I admit to being disappointed though.
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luckyluke Donating Member (186 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 07:50 PM
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15. I think the severity...
...is a satirical reaction to your severe post heading "I failed as a parent". Differences of opinion are hardly indicative of "failing as a parent"... if anything, they're healthy. Your only mistake that I can see is trying to control your daughter's decisions after she has reached adulthood. You've done your part - now let go. -ll
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Systematic Chaos Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 07:15 PM
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5. Killed her?
Um, okay....

:scared:

:evilgrin:
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gyopsy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 07:40 PM
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11. How strange
The part about "killing her"...was that supposed to be funny?
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Fixated Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 07:44 PM
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12. ....
No, it was supposed to point out overreacting to someone's personal beliefs, jackass.
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HereSince1628 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 07:49 PM
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14. I had hoped so, but since Columbine that ain't a great tactic anymore.
.
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CMT Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 07:14 PM
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2. what was the trial about?
and what were her reasoning for voting to convict?
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HereSince1628 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 07:20 PM
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7. She thinks she was following the judges directions about the letter
of the law.

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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 07:23 PM
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9. She (and everyone) should know about "jury nullification".
Once you get into the deliberation you can do WHATEVER YOU EFFING PLEASE!
google it.
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bluestateguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 07:15 PM
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4. Can you enlighten us as to the case?
Sometimes hanging a jury is agood thing. I'd hang a jury if it was a marijuana possession case or a trial of the RIAA vs. a 12 year old girl who downloaded music.
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 07:17 PM
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6. slim
Unless it was a really high-profile case.
Give us some more info, please?
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HereSince1628 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 07:27 PM
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10. I think I can't reveal much...
I'm embarrassed to say that having baited everyone.

There were lots of plea bargains, the defendent didn't bargain.
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sybylla Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 07:21 PM
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8. Your daughter is an adult, making adult decisions
This does not bear on you. If we are lucky, we have about 10 years to influence our children and after that who they are is up to them. You may not be proud of her but she is still your daughter. Let her know you are disappointed by her attitude and then move on. Be honest but not overbearing and perhaps in time she will begin to question her own beliefs, motivations and thoughts.

A freeperish child must be pretty difficult to deal with and I sympathize with your position. The way I see it, the only influence we can have over our adult children is to lead by example and hope they get the picture. Anything more intrusive will only destroy whatever relationship you currently have.
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luckyluke Donating Member (186 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 07:46 PM
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13. Her only mistake...
...seems to have been discussing the case with you, which IIRC jurors are not supposed to do while a case is ongoing. Other that that, she's the juror, not you, and you should not attempt to influence her decision either way. -ll
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HereSince1628 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 07:51 PM
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16. I wondered about that too. I know the jury was released from duty
I don't know what instructions she was given...
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liberalnurse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 08:15 PM
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17. Don't be to hasty. She had her duty to perform
and maybe the defense just didn't make their case, she viewed it as beyond a reasonable doubt....

I'm trying to not let this divide you and your daughter. She can grow from this experience.
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Mari333 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 08:59 PM
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18. As the mother of an adult son who is 20
and was in trouble all summer until I made him go live on his own, I can assure you, you did not fail as a parent..when we are young, we always change..someday your daughter may be more like you, and this is her way of rebelling by being different..
My son is 20 and thinks he knows everything and I know very little...I used to be the same way at 20..
someday they will have kids and I intend to sit and cackle as I watch my own children go thru hell with their kids...
I cant wait.
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nothingshocksmeanymore Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-19-03 09:06 PM
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19. Hung jury ain't the worst thing
One of my friends was stabbed to death by her husband a few years back. The entire jury was ready to acquit out of sympathy for the kids but for 2 people. They HUNG it..he was retried and convicted.
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