Never Fucking Mind

[gulfcoastliberal]

My bad.

[Skittles]

1. you know what? I think she is a lucky girl

nt

[WindRavenX]

2. ditto

Good lord I hope this guy is sarcastic.

[bicentennial_baby]

3. agreed

:eyes:

[Nay]

4. So do I.

[Maiden England]

5. I'm with you Skittles...(nt)

[Stew225]

7. Ditto that tenfold. eom

[sleepyhead]

me too n/t

[Bjornsdotter]

19. Very lucky...

...and I wish her better luck next time.

She'll find someone to love her for who she is...

Cheers,
Kim :toast:

[Maddy McCall]

22. I do, too.

God jeezus don't get me started. :grr:

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[WindRavenX]

9. I love you Skittles

:yourock:

[Skittles]

13. BACK AT YA MY SWEET

:hi:

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[gulfcoastliberal]

20. Hey that's not nice

She wouldn't call me that. She still wants to move ack in. I think the moral of the story is don't move in with someone too quickly. Give it some time.

[Skittles]

23. the gal needs a major dose of self-esteem

and I don't know WHAT *YOU* f***ing need

[Maddy McCall]

28. Oh, I know what he needs....

but I am too nice to say it. :-)

[Skittles]

32. a good ass-kicking would be a start

nt

[Maddy McCall]

37. And only a start...

but a good start. Too bad big bro was so nice. :-)

[gulfcoastliberal]

12. That's true

That was lame of me to say. But it did turn me off. If your partner couldn't perform for you, this wouldn't matter?

[Skittles]

17. well I think I might discuss it with them

and not broadcast it on a f***ing internet board. Do all us gals a favor and find your perfect mate - someone who has the self-esteem of a freaking paper towel.

[getoffmytrain]

81. I'm a

paper-towel and I have very high self-esteem.

I accept your apology.

[WindRavenX]

18. No, it wouldn't

If I loved my partner, that's all the matters. Sex should not be the basis for a relationship, and I speak from experience on this.

[TexasLady]

21. dude...

if my partner, whom i adore, had his tallywacker chopped off, and his tongue removed surgically, sure i would feel sad, but i do love him...hell NO it wouldnt matter!!!

how the hell did i get suckered into this one anyway? ok ok ya got me...

[Jack Schitt]

41. I'd have to agree with you...but...

you could've worded it a little better.

I agree with what you said about your ex-gf unable to perform for you. If you aren't getting the pleasure you need/want, and you're not married, why stay with her? You would've probably cheated on her. Cheating on someone is a lot worse, IMO.

We're humans. We need a certain level of satisfaction in normal, human processes.

But I think you may be using this as a copout too. Who knows. :shrug:

You should've probably broken up with her right away instead of dragging it out.

[gardenista]

10. May you soon find the woman you truly deserve.

I'm hoping that she has a big, wet sociopathic streak as large as your own.

[Droopy]

11. Things that make you go, WTF??????????

That's what this post did to me. I think you need to be honest in your relationships.

[WindRavenX]

15. oh he was honest

That wasn't the problem. His attitude towards his ex is his problem.

[Maddy McCall]

26. Not just his ex, but women in general.

:puke:

[Droopy]

27. He wasn't really broken up about them falling apart

He played with her emotions. That's where he was dishonest.

I agree with you that he had a narrow minded view of his girlfriend.

[Blue_Tires]

14. can you put in a good word for me???

sounds like someone i'd be interested in

[LoZoccolo]

24. You should have told her it was because of the kinky stuff.

You'll get a bunch of PC responses like you've already gotten, but I think you should have told her it was about she wasn't willing to do the kinky stuff. That way, she might think it over and realize it's important enough to get comfortable with it for the next guy. If we all cooperate like that, we'll have a wealth of kinky women out there to choose from. It's like replacing your divots or recycling your oil or returning the tank for the gas grill.

[WindRavenX]

29. oh BULLSHIT

I'm sorry, if this is all because she wasn't comfortable with doing 'kinky' things, then this guy is a freakin' pig.

[LoZoccolo]

34. Pig? Why?

So people have different interests and he moved on. Would you prefer he be sexually frustrated for the rest of his life? And the purpose of that would be what? Or just cheat and get what he wants on the side? After all, he wouldn't be taking anything away from her if he did that - she didn't want to.

[WindRavenX]

40. You do this early on in a relationship, fine

You establish sexual norms then. But this long, to dump her for sexual reasons, is completely selfish because the poor chick has allergies fer chrissake.

[gulfcoastliberal]

52. It's called "happiness"

I wasn't happy anymore. Gee, seems like no one here realizes 50% of marriages end in divorce, usually over things a lot worse than this.

[WindRavenX]

64. You know what?

Maybe if you said "I woke up one day and realized she no longer made me happy" you'd get a little more sympathy instead of focusing on "humping" problems.

[LoZoccolo]

72. That's just a euphamism.

You wouldn't fault him with covering up if he said that instead?

[gulfcoastliberal]

33. Good point

I tried so very hard to get her to try things... always failed. When we had "the talk", I didn't want her to make it seem like I was making it her fault. I did want to say something though. We need more kinky women.

[Skittles]

58. no

we need fewer assholes

[GingerSnaps]

25. You sound like a very nice guy

:puke:

[peacefreak]

30. Gee, thanks for sharing.

You might do the women in your area a break & try celibacy for awhile--oh like for the next 60 years or so.
Either that or some psychological help.

[LoZoccolo]

31. Sub-question for "sensitive" PC dittoes.

At what point has this guy promised to be with this woman for the rest of his life? Usually people use the marraige ceremony to designate that, but you people seem to think it passively happens at some time without the parties even realizing it. Answer me that.

[WindRavenX]

36. It has nothing to do with that

And you can cram the "sensitive PC dittoes" bucko.
This guy is dumping this woman for completely shallow reasons- fine. Just don't expect ANY FUCKING SYMPATHY from me or any other woman if you post it on DU.

[LoZoccolo]

42. Women reject men for shallow reasons all the time.

I don't complain about that, nor should I - I just remember I have the right to do that myself.

[WindRavenX]

44. So that makes what this guy did ok?

Way to dodge the discussion :eyes:

[LoZoccolo]

47. Straight answer: yes.

Unless you're married, you're not under any commitment.

I don't whine about women who've dumped me because that would be pathetic.

[WindRavenX]

49. That doesn't mean what he did was ok!

THAT'S my ENTIRE damn point. She got treated like SHIT because she wasn't 'kinky' and she had allergies and KY wasn't good enough.
That's pretty fucking low.

[LoZoccolo]

56. If he found out he was gay, you would not be saying stuff like that.

So how is that different than the kinky thing? That's a sexual preference.

[WindRavenX]

57. omfg

You have GOT to be kidding me.
You discuss sexual norms AT THE BEGINNING. If you drag it out and then dump someone because of that, YOU ARE AN ASSHOLE. MAN OR WOMAN.
Is that clear enough for you??

[LoZoccolo]

60. If he found out he was gay, you would call him an asshole for dumping her?

Do I have this right?

[WindRavenX]

61. Yes and what's the point?

What's the point to this?

[LoZoccolo]

65. I'm getting a feel for the "rules" as you see them.

Also, I'm seeing if you're consistent with them.

So a gay guy is supposed to act like he's straight for the rest of his life if he goes out with a woman long enough?

[WindRavenX]

67. Um no

He shouldn't do that to a woman- he should get this out IN THE OPEN EARLY ON.

[LoZoccolo]

69. So that governor from New Jersey should be ashamed of himself?

He was married and everything.

[WindRavenX]

71. What are you rambling about?

You are avoiding discussion of the topic at hand.
I have no idea what you're talking about.

[LoZoccolo]

73. What am I avoiding?

I was making the point that you should be able to break up with someone because of your sexual preference, be it gay or kinky, even though I think it was irresponsible of that governor guy to extend it until past when he was married - but gulfcoastliberal wasn't married.

[WindRavenX]

77. Being gay and being kinky are TWO COMPLETELY different things NT

[LoZoccolo]

78. Some kinky people would beg to differ with you.

They talk about realizing their kink one day just like gay people talk about it.

You know, I bet that guy who writes Savage Love would agree with me.

[WindRavenX]

79. Whatever

This conversation is over.

[gulfcoastliberal]

63. Thanks LoZoccolo

Geez, logic is out the window on my confessional. I specifically told this girl I did not intend to marry or have kids - she was ok with it.

[Skittles]

53. check it out WindRavenX

two of them in one freaking thread.

[WindRavenX]

54. Ayup

Men are great. These guys are boys.

[Maddy McCall]

66. LOL!

:-) Check out the alpha female thread if you really want to be repulsed...fat ugly single mother man haters are alpha females. :puke:

[WindRavenX]

68. I saw that

I swear to god, DU is not making me very hopeful for men tonight :cry:

[Jack Schitt]

45. I couldn't agree with you more.

I got dumped because I was 5" shorter than my ex. And this was on more than one occassion.

[Maddy McCall]

46. And if they come to DU and air their dirty laundry here...

I am certain they would get a similar response.

The "humping" thing was the camel back-breaking straw for me.

Disgusting.

[Skittles]

38. it has nothing to do with a permanent relationship

it has to do with treating people like HUMAN BEINGS.

[Maddy McCall]

43. And with attitudes.

And his attitude toward women could use some, ummm, adjusting.

[Rabrrrrrr]

35. Gosh . . . I think I see why your relationships end every 1-2 years

if it were me, I wouldn't be asking "Is it genetic? Is that I haven't found my soulmate yet?" and I would be asking, "every relationship goes by the same pattern and ends in disaster - could it be ME?"

I think you've very well spelled out in your post what is happening.

All you have to do is get yourself out of yourself, and read what you wrote, and you should have a lightbulb going off in your head in the epiphany you are about to have.

If not, then God help the next woman.

[Maddy McCall]

39. Please don't credit DU with your epiphany.

We really don't want credit for your despicable behavior, k?

[Bobbie47]

74. good one

[exJW]

48. Women need to be attracted to someone in order to lubricate

...but I'm sure this was just her allergy medication. Why would any woman not be attracted to you?

[Maddy McCall]

50. OMG! Fanfuckingtastic response.

:thumbsup: :thumbsup:

[GOPisEvil]

55. Pfffffftttttt! *spit take*

Awesome.

[Droopy]

59. LOL! Fuckin-A right! That's the best laugh I've had all night.

Thank you.

[GingerSnaps]

70. You made my night

LOL :thumbsup:

[exJW]

76. Glad to be of service, but it kinda wrote itself ;-)

Geeeeeeeeeeeez!

[Nevernose]

51. I feel for you, Gulfcoast

I don't necessarily AGREE with you, but I feel for you. These things are never as black/white as people assume them to be. You've got issues; I'm sure she has issues of her own.

From what you posted, the only thing I would condemn you for is the fact that you waited too long to break things off. For instance: you damned well she wasn't kinky enough for you on the second date. There's nothing wrong with you thinking she's not kinky enough; there's an issue with dragging her out for months and motnhs, though.

Better luck next time.

[Jose Diablo]

62. You know you can use onion extract if you need to weep

in some future problem you have a problem with.

Somehow, I sense a coldness. I doubt we could be friends.

[GingerSnaps]

75. Here's a thought

She might have been allergic to you and the only reason that she staid with you is because she didn't have to pay rent.

Her best friend could have been her boyfriend and you were being used and the only reason that she left without putting up a fight is because she was already on her way out.

Sorry to be so negative but shit happens to all of us.

[gulfcoastliberal]

80. That's so stupid

Firstly she had sever allergy/sinus problems that required surgery before we met, we split bills 50/50, she never cheated on me with a dying person, and lasty... never mind.

[oxymoron]

82. Locking

I find this thread offensive on so many levels. I am locking due to it's anti-women stance. It is also turning into a flame war.