Are you close to your parents ?

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

Are you close to your parents or have you disowned them for the sake of your sanity and that of your kids ? Its not that I want to disown my mom but I am tired of seeing her making the same mistakes over and over again . She constantly tells other people what their problems are while at home she has a husband who is cheating on her and who does not work at all . Helps with nothing in the house . But yet she is still stuck in la-la land and will not wake up . I mean , how much is enough ? Its been a weird situation , everyone tells me that I have been more mature than she is and I am the daughter . The only thing I can do is not take her phone calls and not talk to her , because it is bringing me down . Sorrow stories start to sound the same when you don't help yourself . Argh - I have to live my life and she does not understand that . That was the reason why I moved far away overseas and stupid me , I came back . I feel bad for wanting to put everyone on " ignore " status but something has to give .

[amazona]

1. you deserve time to yourself

I'm not a close-type person, I need distance not because of any fault of my parents or loved ones but because I just need more space, but I have friends who act as your mother does (making the same mistakes and just complaining and changing nothing) and you're right -- sometimes you just have to "Put them on Ignore."

[Lavender Brown]

2. Very close, but that is not to say that we don't argue a LOT

We are very different in outlook. Moving away (even a short distance) has helped my relationship with my parents a lot.

[gollygee]

3. I'm not very close to my parents but I do keep in contact with them

there's just way too much drama. I don't like to get caught up in it. So I keep my distance, but I still see them a few times a year.

[demnan]

4. I'm very conflicted about my family's choices as well

and I would like to see my family in a better financial situation and I think my mother would be better off if she didn't support two of her sons, sold her house and got into an assisted living place now while she can still make choices - but it is her life. She is 83 and she can do what she wants, she is healthy for her age, though legally blind, and still right in her mind.

I wish my one brother would get a job, and I wish the retired one would get help for his depression and move out and get a life for himself.

I have my own life and my own place and I just try to help if I can.

[Crunchy Frog]

5. I'm very close to my mom.

My brother, on the other hand, has completely disowned her, along with the rest of the family. My sister almost disowned her at one point, but they are close now.

My dad died several years ago, but I was not very close to him. It's hard being close to someone in end stage alchoholism.