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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:46 PM
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Why are good single men so hard to find?
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supernova Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:47 PM
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1. Wish I knew the answer to that
but I don't.
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Booberdawg Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:47 PM
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2. And hard men so good to find
:D
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:48 PM
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4. Yes. I know one who wears this tight jeans....well let
me just say that it leaves NOTHING to the imagination.
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Dookus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:48 PM
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3. cuz...
we're all gay ;)
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:49 PM
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5. Damnit!
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unblock Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:49 PM
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6. because we marry
that's usually one of the prerequisites for being "good": being the kind of person who's ready for marriage.
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searchingforlight Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:49 PM
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7. Because you're looking!!!
Concentrate on making yourself someone you would want to spend the rest of your life with and you will be desirable to many good men.
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:51 PM
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11. I am already perfect...Hee hee.
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searchingforlight Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:01 PM
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29. I hope you believe that.
I am serious. We women get sold on being "whole" with a good man. We are driven by our hormones (a good thing and thanks to Kinsey and women's lib we can admit it).

I have a few years of experience in this and I can tell you that the most important thing you will do for yourself and the man you end up with is to make sure you love and respect who you are.

Date, enjoy, indulge but don't be in a hurry.
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:03 PM
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35. I just want regular sex, a good father for my children and someone
who is blonde and bland for my political career...Just kidding with that last part.
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searchingforlight Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:12 PM
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39. You can get all or some or none of that.
I married a man with whom I had great sex, he is a great father and I thought a good husband. Found out he had numerous one-night stands throughout our marriage and had one long affair. I really had no clue. You never know. He is still a good father and he is a good friend. He is just weak in a particular area of his character.

I say again, develop yourself. We come into this world alone and we leave alone. All the happiness in-between is our responsibility.
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:16 PM
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43. I know I will be somewhat disappointed by anyone I marry...
just as they will be with me. No one is the be all end all to anyone...I do want someone who I do not want to change...
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searchingforlight Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:21 PM
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46. That is a good thing to know
Good luck.
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:23 PM
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47. Thanks..
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Lorien Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:33 PM
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51. I know MANY fully developed single women
talented, beautiful, successful, intelligent, funny...yet they all are over thirty (and many over fourty) and there are no dates for them out there other than the occational man who wants to use them and toss them out like yesterdays trash (my friends are too savvy for them though, and would rather remain dateless than be used). There simply isn't the supply out there to meet the demand, and that's why so many women "settle" for men who treat them terribly. (I am not including you among them, btw-having an otherwise good man with a "weakness" is by no means ideal, but it ain't as bad as being beaten or being treated as if you are perpetually insignificant). Also, many perfectly acceptable men are intimidated by my friends, and don't bother asking them out. Hell, there are many actresses and supermodels who havn't had a date in years!

The other trouble is society-we just don't connect anymore. Work hard, buy stuff, turn on the idiot box and consume that microwave dinner...people aren't socializing as they once did. Consumerism and exhaustion may be to blame, but I don't know what the cure is. Tried volunteering, setting weekly lunch dates with friends, movie nights, etc.-it's all an uphill battle.
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:37 PM
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53. That is true...most of the guys I am attracted to never
leave their houses.
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leftist_rebel1569 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:49 PM
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8. why are good single women so hard to find?
there's my problem....
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:52 PM
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13. We keep being sent to the Moon.
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leftist_rebel1569 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:57 PM
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oh...well, that explains it.
better start saving for the 20 million it's gonna cost to get me into space, then to the moon...

maybe you can find good single guys there, too...

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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:00 PM
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27. Nope...just women.
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TennesseeWalker Donating Member (925 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:04 PM
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36. "Moon Babes from Outer Space"
Sounds like a really cool Ed Wood movie.
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:04 PM
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38. I would see that porno...
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SaveABug Donating Member (289 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:50 PM
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9. more and more are overseas
yep
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TennesseeWalker Donating Member (925 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:50 PM
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10. Define "good"
Because bad is good sometimes....;)
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:51 PM
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12. mature, responsible, funny, fun, good father, sensible about
money, likes to clean....
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TennesseeWalker Donating Member (925 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:55 PM
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16. Ah! I see the problem! "Likes to Clean"
Disqualifies most of us.
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:56 PM
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17. I happen to find watching a man clean a turn on.
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TennesseeWalker Donating Member (925 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:57 PM
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19. Well, I wouldn't look too good in that skimpy little maid outfit....
...but whatever turns you on! :)
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:57 PM
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21. Just be nude...that makes cleaning yourself up easier too.
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TennesseeWalker Donating Member (925 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:58 PM
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22. Woo Hoo!
Just gotta be careful with that vacuum cleaner hose....
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:59 PM
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25. What my mouth? hee hee...
sorry just had to say it.
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TennesseeWalker Donating Member (925 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:00 PM
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28. Will you marry me?
"What light through yonder window breaks? It is the EAST, and dorktv is the sun!"
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:01 PM
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32. How many letters in your last name?
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TennesseeWalker Donating Member (925 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:02 PM
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34. Six (6).
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:04 PM
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37. Oh...I need nine...Um...do you have curly dark hair?
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GOPisEvil Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:56 PM
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18. Good father? I'm disqualified, then.
Oh well...:shrug:
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:57 PM
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20. So you never spend time with your kids?
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GOPisEvil Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:58 PM
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23. I have no kids with whom to spend time.
I'm not all that keen to have kids either.
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:59 PM
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24. Ah...At least you are responsible enough to avoid them right?
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GOPisEvil Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:00 PM
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26. Responsible and lucky.
I've dodged a few bullets over the years. I'm much more responsible now. :-)
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:01 PM
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31. Well just have the image W. in your head...he is the most
effective birth control device ever.
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Lindacooks Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:53 PM
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14. Do what you like to do; hobbies, political stuff,
dog training classes, volunteer work, and you'll find good men there.
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 09:54 PM
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15. Yeah...but they all have girlfriends, or just got a divorce so
need time to heal...damn it!
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baldguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:01 PM
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30. I'm right here!
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:02 PM
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33. My friend Amanda likes bald men...And she needs a man...
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Lorien Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:13 PM
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40. Because
the last statistic I read went something like this:

Percentage of America that is female: 57%
Male: 43%
Percentage of men who are gay: 12%
Percentage of women who are gay: 2%

Then we can cut out all the repukes, abusers, players, married men, etc....I think there's about five guys left. I wish I knew who they were!
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:14 PM
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41. I know a great guy...just he is not single.
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leftist_rebel1569 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:16 PM
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42. oh, do you know anyone in high school
looking for a nice single guy?

cuz i'm not really having the best of luck...:(
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:16 PM
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45. She is too busy for you dear. sorry. :(
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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:16 PM
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44. Because they're already taken or straight?
:shrug:
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TreasonousBastard Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:32 PM
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48. 'cuz they're being good somewhere...
and you're looking somewhere else.

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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:33 PM
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50. So I need eyes all over my head?
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kodi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:32 PM
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49. might one consider that they are hiding until they get what they too want?
it's dumb to think that members of the opposite sex are akin to wheat growing in a pasture just waitng around for someone to come by. they might well be well aware of what they see coming to try to harvest them and find it inadquate to their needs and high tail it out of the situations as quickly as possible.
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dorktv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:37 PM
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52. That is true...Most men want to avoid getting anything long term.
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kodi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-08-03 10:50 PM
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54. sorry, most men are more concerned about hooking up with a looney
than worrying about whether the relationship is "long-term."
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