I am32 and still can't get a boyfriend, WHAT THE HELL

[Deja Q]

is wrong with me? :cry:

[CatWoman]

1. Patience, Grasshopper

:D

:hug:

[TheDebbieDee]

2. I don't know, but if you find out......................

let me know, cause I'd like a boyfriend, too. %^)

[SmileyBoy]

3. Maybe your standards are too high???

Just find the next guy who walks up to you.

[Massacure]

4. Stop trying to get republicans.

:P

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

5. Nothing.

It is better to wait for a MAN than to get drug down by BOYS. I didn't have a boyfriend until I met the most fantastic gentle man at age 38. We've been happily married for 15 years.

[mahina]

10. How did you meet?

I love happy endings/beginnings....

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

16. Dances of Universal Peace/Sufi

weekend in the Ozarks. It was love at first sight.

[Nimrod]

6. Explain further

Can't get one, or can't get a quality one?

[Deja Q]

9. Both, but for the last 7 years I've been looking for a LTR

and have not been afraid to say it.

I may have wasted 7 years of my life, but oh well. :-)

[Nimrod]

20. Three rules that I've learned to live by

1) Never look specifically for an LTR - it greatly reduces the chances of your finding one. Other people can sense someone looking to "get serious" and will automatically head for the hills even if they thought they were looking to get serious too.

2) If you're having fun, it doesn't matter where the relationship is going. You can't second-guess these things anyway, because the universe will do the opposite just to prove you wrong. If you're happy and he/she's happy, that is NOT a cue to "take it to the next level". The next level might well turn out to be the pint of ice cream and late night TV grief management program. Take happiness as a cue to be happy, not to worry about how to define your relationship to satisfy your rumbling feeling of "What we SHOULD be doing at this age".

3) Never NEVER date anyone more neurotic than yourself. This requires a good amount of self-awareness.

Best I can do.

[Jim__]

22. "Never NEVER date anyone more neurotic than yourself. "

If everyone followed that rule, there'd be a lot less dating going on. :-)

[ronnykmarshall]

23. What's a LTR??

Buck up, baby buck up.

When I was 32 I had a boyfriend that beat the shit out of me. You're better off.

Someday he'll come along, the man you love .......

[jukes]

7. not a damn thing, H/T

it's just a big fucking ocean out there, & it takes a little fish a long time to circumnavigate...



your day will come, friend.

[terrya]

8. There's nothing wrong with you. But the adage is true:

It happens when you least expect it. That's what happened to me. I thought I'd be alone forever...until 5 years ago when I met Doug, my b/f, online. :-)

Don't give up hope, honey. It will happen.

[sundog]

11. Welcome to the club...

Self-depreciation usually works pretty well for me, but I wouldn't necessarily recommend it. :P

[crispini]

12. WROD!

Join the club. Me too! I think it's hard for activist intelligent interested women to find the right guy, not just ANY guy.

That's my story and I'm stickin' to it! :D

[Onlooker]

13. You have to learn to love

Meet someone you should like and learn to love them, learn to see them for their qualities (not the qualities you want them to have), learn to see them through your own eyes (not the eyes of judgmental or jealous friends or conformist media), learn to see their beauty (even if it isn't apparent at first), and you'll meet someone. There's nothing wrong with you. You probably just don't really know the kind of person who is right for you, and when he comes along, you're not giving him enough of a chance. This advice comes from experienc!

[stupid grin]

14. I met my husband in K-Mart.

It was mother's day, he was out shopping for his mother (nice, I know) and I was just browsing through the plant section with my little girl. He stalked me to the toy dept, and it's all history from there. I'm his blue light special.

Seriously, I don't normally advocate for grocery and departments as being great places to meet people, but you just never know.

[ladjf]

15. All you have to do is to find someone with matching psychiatric

pathologies. (I'm not trying to be "cute".)

[Jobu]

17. Patience pays off...

Or at least I keep telling myself that. I am 36 and single, but I'm cool with that. I know she's out there somewhere and eventually we'll meet. Besides, I wanted to do a few things before I married (buy a house, get a good job, finish a masters), and I am just about finished with all that, so perhaps she is just around the corner (must always stay optimistic).

So..Buck Up! Your day will come too. Good luck!

[Placebo]

18. Don't Worry, I am 18 and Can't get a Boyfriend!

WHAT THE HELL :shrug:

[AlCzervik]

19. My best friend from high school is 37

she's never been married or had a good lasting relationship up unitl a year ago. She finally met someone, it was at a news stand and they were both reaching for the same magazine and boom a year later they are together and from the sounds of it pretty damn happy. So you'll find someone or someone will find you in time, so hang in, and enjoy yourself.

[NightTrain]

21. Don't feel bad. I'm 38 and still unattached.

Trust me, it's not the of the world! :pals:

[latebloomer]

24. I needed several years of therapy

to figure out why I was attracted to the wrong men. Finally got ready, at age 37, to be able to accept someone who was at least halfway sane (my darling husband) and we work on our neuroses together!! (which involves MORE therapy!)

[arwalden]

25. I Was 34 When I Met My Husband... At A FUNERAL Of All Places!!