What do you think of this story? Please respond.

[coloradodem2005]

this girl used to say that she wanted to make me uncynical. Then she started talking about how hard it was to find a job and that she does not have friends. I have offered her comfort and confidence boosters. She seemed to take them well. She seems hurt by what people did to her. I expressed bitterness about my experiences with women and things that have happened to me the last couple of years. Now she is talking about having a misunderstanding with this guy that she is talking to online that she likes. And feels shitty over that. I ask her if she wants to meet up sometime. She tells me that she does not know. Because I seem really bitter and at least she has hope.

[allalone]

1. you're kidding right?

I befriended a woman like that once. I felt bad for her, but omg, the longer I knew her the more I could see it was her. I ended up dropping her as a friend because she was sucking the joy right out of my life with her negativity. Some people are just toxic.

[coloradodem2005]

2. Did I mention that this girl is a Republican?

I didn't until now. But the girl in this story is a Republican. Figures doesn't it? I was nice to her despite that.

[AmyDeLune]

3. How selfish of You!

---Don't you realise it's all about HER? <sarcasm>

She is an emotional Black Hole. She took your comfort and confidence boosters because that's what she wanted from you. She's not interested in your problems, she just wants someone to listen to her and tell her how none of her problems are her fault. At least that's the impression of her I get from your post.

My applause to you if you have the energy to keep supporting her, she seems like a very sad and needy person. Besides, cynical is not the same as bitter, being cynical requires much more work than mere bitterness. ;)

[coloradodem2005]

4. How does being cynical require more work than mere bitterness?

Elaborate if you please.

[Blayde Starrfyre]

5. It's important to learn to recognize people who always have problems

And never work to make them better. People who make the same mistakes over and over again aren't worth getting emotionally invested in because you waste time giving advice they won't take and comfort they don't deserve. Eventually, you will stop caring and they will start bitching about THAT.