Etiquette when greeting newbies...new DUers please advise

[cally]

Many, many DUers graciously welcome new DUers to this board. I hope that makes new DUers feel welcome because this can sometimes be a rather intimidating place.

But...I'm annoyed when someone welcomes someone with over 50 to 75 posts to the board. Sometimes someone is welcomed when they have over a 100 posts. It seems condescending to me. After the first 25 posts, they are no longer new. They are part of our community. I know when I got my first 100 posts I felt like I was part of the community and I would have been insulted if I was still considered a newbie.

[gospelized]

1. someone just welcomed me again

and i thought it was sweet.

i wouldn't worry about it.

[Rabrrrrrr]

5. Welcome to DU gospelized! And congrats on 100 posts!!

:hi:

[RevCheesehead]

2. It never hurts to be polite.

There's so much ugliness out there.

[Rabrrrrrr]

3. If I haven't seen someone before, I will sometimes say hello

even if they have a somewhat higher post count.

Just as we would in a room full of people, it's still nice to greet the newbies, even if they have been here a bit. Especially since it's just a "Hi and welcome to DU!"

Always appopriate, I think. I've been at jobs, working in larger offices, in which I might meet someone for the first time after being there a couple months. And have often been welcomed to the company by those people. I thought it was nice.

:hi: Cally!

[cally]

11. Hi Rabrrrr

LOL...You're right. It's nice to be noticed. I'm getting the message that I'm wrong on this.

[RFKHumphreyObama]

41. That would be my motivation as well Cally

I couldn't have expressed it more eloquently than Rabrrr. It's not meant to be condescending or offensive and I hope it hasn't been intrpreted in that way by the person who is being welcomed

And now I understand what Rabrrr started that other thread for you

[faithnotgreed]

13. yes that was my thought also. sometimes i havent seen them before

so when i do i want to say hello

[trof]

4. If it's the first time I've seen 'em

I welcome them and give them a :hi:
To me, less than a few hundred is still a newbie.
No offense intended.
:hi:
on edit: I don't call 'em "newbie", just say "Welcome".

[unblock]

6. welcome to du, cally!!

:hi:

sorry, couldn't resist :evilgrin:

[cally]

12. Welcome to du unblock

:hi:

[gollygee]

7. I still feel kinda like a newbie (m)

I certainly felt that way at 75-100 posts. I think it's just a nice gesture :)

[Chovexani]

8. Hmm.

I try not to be condescending. If I welcome someone with 50-75 posts, or say around 100, it's not that I don't think they're part of the community. It's just that I probably haven't seen them around before.

I figure it's more of a better late than never type of thing. I'd be curious to see how others felt about it. I don't mean anything bad by it but if it's offensive I'll stop.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

9. Why should it matter . Really , let people say " welcome " when they want

Often times I see someone with 50 or so posts that " I " myself may have never seen before ... They may post in other forums that I might not post in . No one should ever be intimidated or insulted to be a newbie . After all we are were one at some point . No one is born with 1000+ posts . Let people welcome people as long as they want , let people be nice as long as they want , thats the DU way .

[mairceridwen]

10. ahem...

What's a newbie anyway?

Someone could post 50 times in two days while it might take someone with less time to spend on the internet, or with less to say, two weeks to post that many. Others, like myself, have been coming here a long time to read articles but just recently joined the forum.

I don't think it's insulting to be considered a newbie even if you are not...Why should it be condescending? So what if after 100 posts, someone still thinks you are new?

talk about a molehill. the LAST thing we need are rules of etiquette. that just makes it seem more phony anyway.

and in closing...

WELCOME TO THE DU CALLY!

[cally]

14. This was just a post to get some welcome to Du

posts. Kidding. Thanks for the welcome.

[Rabrrrrrr]

18. Welcome to DU mairceridwen!

What does your name mean?

And congrats on darn near 100 posts!

[mairceridwen]

28. in welsh it means

bitter (mair) fair poetry (cerdwen) or something like that.

[Rabrrrrrr]

29. Thanks! I like it. And congrats on your 100th post!!

WOO HOO!

[lakemonster11]

30. yeah

I can't understand how some people build up their post counts so quickly. I've been making a conscious effort to post whenever something occurs to me, just to up my post count, but I'm still woefully short.

Nevertheless, I don't mind when people greet me. I think it's kind of nice.

[Rabrrrrrr]

32. Welcome to DU, lakemonster11!

:hi:

Don't worry about the post count thing - took me forever to get to 100, then to 700, then to 1000. After about post 3 or 4 thousand, though, they started flying out willynilly at an amazing pace.

And it seems that it just gets to be faster and faster and faster.... esepcailly as I became comfortable with more people, and more people with me, and I could start making inane senseless comments.

[mairceridwen]

40. welcome to DU

I just started posting the other day.

I dunno how my post number went up ao quickly.

I made a lot of stupid jokes which saved me the trouble of having to say anything thoughtful.

The Lounge threads are good for that kind of thing

[tigereye]

48. uh silly rock and roll and prurient posts?

;)

those are what sucked me in and inflated my post count. And I think as you come to know more people, you respond more to what they say.

Although, I do chime in on serious matters that I feel strongly about.

[Beware the Beast Man]

15. 2,600 posts later, I still feel like a newbie.

Especially when I hear about 1-year vets getting tombstoned.

[tigereye]

49. I have only been here about 10 months.

I still feel that way a bit, too. Despite my addiction to this place. I have missed the tombstonings.

[happyasaclam]

16. everyone feel free

to welcome me from now until I have 1000+ posts. :)

[cally]

17. Welcome to DU!

And the question of the day...are you working on the election?

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

19. Welcome to the DU happyasaclam :)

:bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce:

[Rabrrrrrr]

20. Welcome to DU happyasaclam!!

May you have tens of thousands of posts more, and may they all be brilliant and filled with wisdom, like most of the Lounge posts!

[wryter2000]

23. Welcome

Always nice to have someone who's happy. :hi:

[wryter2000]

21. Over 100, I don't welcome

But it is possible for someone to post several times without being welcomed. Just to make sure, I'll welcome anyone with 50 or fewer posts. An extra welcome doesn't hurt.

[LynneSin]

22. Welcome to DU Cally!!!

:hi:

:loveya:

:P

[cally]

24. Ummm...thanks

I deserved this response from most DUers.

[LynneSin]

31. but only because we love you

:D

[wildeyed]

25. So when do you start welcoming newbies to DU?

I only ever see folks with 1000+ do it.

BTW, being relatively new here myself, I always liked getting welcomed or any kind of positive response. I never felt condescended to.

[Exultant Democracy]

26. Welcome to DU NSMA!!!

I wish you were aleady on this thread but I think I found your keys.

[Piperay]

27. Sometimes the person may have 50-75 posts

but the profile shows they joined a day or so before ago so I would still classify them as a newbie regardless of them having more than 25 posts.

[strategery blunder]

33. I posted in the Lounge asking if I was still a newbie with 1100 posts

I spent my first month here 24/7 in an attempt to rapidly build up my post count because I was quite intimidated at times, especially when the trolls would come and DU got paranoid. I also asked if I really belonged here while in the 700 Club for similar reasons.

So yes, it can be very reassuring to be welcomed to the board.

There are times when I still feel like a newbie, and I've been here for 6 months and have almost 2000 posts...

[LWolf]

34. I think someone ought to welcome me to DU.

It would make me feel, well..... welcome!

[cally]

38. Welcome to DU LWolf

I'm glad you are here.

[LWolf]

39. Okay, now we're both feeling

glad to be here.

:hi:

[Texasgal]

35. This is my 100th post!

and I am waaay new!

[Rabrrrrrr]

36. Woo hoo! Congrats, and welcome to DU!

:hi:

[LDS Jock]

45. Welcome Texasgal!!..... another Austinite

Never have enough dems down here in Texas.

[TOhioLiberal]

37. Some times I feel like a newbie....

:hi: so I try to say hi to as many people as I can.

[Shananigans]

42. I guess everyone seems like a newbie...

until they reach that 1,000 goal. But yeah...it took me years to reach it and sometimes I still feel like a newbie.

[MaryBear]

43. Interesting question, cally.

I've wondered same, both from viewpoint of greeted and greeter.

On DU, as in life, I sometimes feel like a newbie and at others like an old timer.

Overall, I'm glad to be greeted and, when I notice, I greet.

:hi:

[Arugula Latte]

44. We should all give Khephra a "welcome"

What is he on, post # 328,558 or something?

[barackmyworld]

46. given how many posts people here have...

I think 100 or so is still kind of "newbie" status. Sometimes people post mostly in one forum too, so they are "new" in other forums. It's nice to feel welcome, but that's the democratic style :)

[grace0418]

47. I understand what you're saying but I don't mind too much

I got welcomed after my 60th or so post by someone. It seemed odd for a minute because I already feel pretty deeply immersed in this site, but it was still a very sweet gesture. Certainly compared to 40,000 posts I AM a newbie! Anyway, it's always nice to be greeted warmly. Maybe if you come across someone for the first time but they've already posted 50+ times, you could say "Hi , this is the first time I've run across one of your posts but I see you're settling in nicely here. I hope you're enjoying our little community..." or something like that.

In any case it was better than when someone called me a coward for considering moving out of the country if Bush wins again! I will say that this person seems to be in the minority though, most people have been very kind and welcoming. I got invited to a DU gathering in Chicago on my first day!

[Phillycat]

50. I think it might depend on the person.

I seem to be racking up posts pretty quickly (I just joined yesterday). But I bet that there are some people who it takes a year to get 100 posts. The thing is, you can't really tell how long someone has been a DU poster by their number of posts.

Feel free to welcome me, by the way. :)

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

51. I welcomed you yesterday but I will welcome you again :)

Welcome to the DU janesez :)

:bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce:

[Phillycat]

52. Thank you!

So far, I think I've gotten a potential girlfriend (eyesroll)--hope my BF doesn't mind--, I've had my favorite bands (lamely) insulted by screaming lord byron, and I've read an awful lot about porn clerks. I'm having a blast! :)

[flvegan]

53. Closing in on 100, still feel like a newbie

Feel free to welcome me over and over again!!!

[liontamer]

54. welcome to DU!

:hi: