How good do you think matchmaking websites are?

[mvd]

I've been to demdates.com and find it promising. In these times, no wonder there are matchmaking sites based on politics. Are matchmaking sites generally worth the time? If so, any ideas? eHarmony.com wasn't worth my time.

[unblock]

1. i met mrs. unblock on the internet

i posted on an aol personals site.

it can and does happen!

[Kat45]

2. I'm on eHarmony, and haven't met anyone yet.

They've made plenty of matches, but none have gone anywhere. One of the problems with the site is that when filling out the form, everyone elects to be matched with people living anywhere in the country (if not the world), but they don't mean it. Your matches end up being from all over the country, and people close communication before it starts because the distance is too far. :shrug:

[mairceridwen]

4. salon.com

worked for me. the matchmaking service is the same one you find at nerve.com and other on-line rags. Before meeting my partner, I loved internet dating. It's a good way to assess certain levels of compatibility, I think, without having to spend too much time on horrible dates. I think if one keeps his or her expectations reasonable and approaches it as a way to broaden the social circle, then there shouldn't be too much disappointment. Advice I gave my friend was, don't go into it looking for your soulmate...play the numbers, try to find as many interesting people as possible, go on lots of coffee dates, have as many conversations with as many different people as you can find. That way, if you don't meat your soulmate, you'll still have stories and you can't ever beat yourself up for not trying.

I still keep in touch with several of the friends I made though the various sites I used. Match.com is one, but since then their demographic has been kind of moderate and mainstream, and their format is boring.

I don't like leaving the site to do the matching for me...I like to plug in a few characteristics in the searching section to narrow things down and then look at all the different people to see who is out there...well, I used to...not so much anymore.

[mvd]

5. I went to eHarmony and didn't get any matches

There was nothing wrong with my personality profile, and I answered that I was reasonably attractive. Go figure. :shrug:

[Deja Q]

3. Well,

I'd been on 5 services.

Nobody responded to my ad, which is LTR-based.

So I started responding.

Over the last 7 years:

I sent e-mails to 40 guys.

28 didn't respond at all.

I met 12.

I met 4 a second time.

I met 4 a third time. (well, I have dates set up with both of them, so right now it's really just 2 who I'd seen a third time... but even I am confident that I'll see the other potential interests again. Especially the first one!)

I ultimately had a 'relationship' with one, but he broke it off. (which I can retrospectively understand, he had 'coming out' issues and I was naive.)

Another I started a relationship with (he made the request back in May) but he disappeared shortly after. Oh well.

I've two possible choices right now, if things continue to work well.

But, at $80/yr, those services are pricey for what amounts to little more than a hookup service.

Oh, if you're gay, planetout.com and gay.com are owned by the same company and the premium services are NOT interchangeable.

[MrScorpio]

6. If I was single again, I wouldn't even bother with them

All I would is hang out in in Wash DC.

I'd have a date before the end of the night.

That's what life was like before I met MrsScorpio. I was a great big dog in DC.

I love that town.

[EmperorHasNoClothes]

7. I met my wife on match.com

I had actually joined briefly a few times, but never met anyone - she was the first. I wholeheartedly recommend it, but results may vary. It seems to be more and more common all the time - we know several other couples who also met that way. It really is a great way to find someone you're compatible with.

[henslee]

8. My sister met a guy on one she's been dating for a year . Bad news....

He sneaked into her email and discovered she had contact with an old boyfriend and then blew up on her. Of course she moved in with him.

[BlueJazz]

9. This sounds juicy...Did she move in with the old boyfriend...

...or the Guy who read her Email?

Boy..you can tell I've been stuck inside for 2 days because of Hurricane Francis. Even this meager bit of Gossip sounds exciting!

[henslee]

13. new guy. To make it even worse. the new guy emailed the old guy

and went ballistic on him. The old guy digs all the attention because he is such a loser. I told my sis to forget both of them that any guy over forty that is fucked up and weird is pretty much unchangeable, that it took him forty plus years to get that fucked up and you aint changing him. Life is too short for psychos...

Radicalliberal, you must have cabin fever to think this is that saucy. I have no idea why some women, especially the good looking ones like guys prone to agro behavior. Its fucking retarded.

You must be down south. My buddy was evacuated from Vero Beach. He is in Alabama and now the storms hitting him there real soon.

[Digit]

10. Maybe volunteering for Kerry could help

Maybe you could meet some nice person that way....and help the cause at the same time!

[Waverley_Hills_Hiker]

11. I did manage two fetish encounters via alt.com.

...its a site for BDSM/crossdressers and such...kinky fetish stuff.....

on edit..this is a paysite, and ive had better luck via the yahoo adult groups....which are free....

[fudge stripe cookays]

12. reprehensor and I met through personalpossibilities.com

and we've been married 4 years!

But, as those disclaimers say: Results may vary!

He and I were both at a point in our lives where we were ready for a truly serious relationship, we both wanted to be dedicated and honest, and it worked for us. It worked so well he moved from Calgary, Alberta to Texas to be with me.

I don't think results GET much better than that, actually.

Good luck, if you decide to try it.

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[NeoConsSuck]

14. I got a "Page Not Found' for that site.

[fudge stripe cookays]

15. Yeah, unfortunately, they went tits up a few years ago.

But they worked for us! They weren't anything special, anymore than the other sites like match.com or eharmony.

Just offering some hopeful news for anyone needing to know that it can work!

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[MaryBear]

16. Met my honey on FriendFinder.

would do it again. they have levels at various prices. i chose the free one.

[WillyBrandt]

17. All I know is I can't stand eHarmony's ads!

"He had a beautiful heart..." Yeech!!

[bikebloke]

18. Tried them

And I still have a couple profiles floating around out there. Just in case. The few women I met turned out to be liars or we just didn't click. I'm content on my own.

The rule of thumb: If someone sends you a message and you have to pay to reply, there's a good chance it came from the outfit running the web site. It's not like the FTC regulates them. One site, LavaLife is padded with bogus profiles using stocks pics from a modeling agency. Be wise rather than wishful.