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Preamble: I have mixed feelings about abortion, also. I don't believe a zygote is a human being, but feel that aborting a late-term fetus is probably morally wrong. *shrug* I have learned that the difference of opinion is due to when people ascribe life to that fertilized egg. Some people allow their religious leaders to tell them when a person becomes a person (before sex, upon conception, etc.) Others try to figure it out for themselves and come to a multitude of different conclusions. My conclusion is sort of a "naturalistic" idea, although I'm still open minded on the issue.
Anyway, as I said: I don't have problems with religious people who are open-minded. By definition they are NOT fundamentalists. Fundamentalists adhere to a fixed dogma, dictated by God for all time and preached from pulpits every Sunday (or Saturday) and sometimes Wednesday nights.
Also, my question was directed mostly at ex-fundies who know how excruciating it was to extricate themselves from such a narrow-minded, dogmatic view.
I will probably be able to maintain "surfacey" relationships with fundies, but I think close relationships are out. When I really needed this person to be there for me, he tried to convert me when I was down and vulnerable. That's pretty bottom-of-the-barrel if you ask me, especially since he promised never to do so.
Fundies see non-fundies in one of two ways: 1) temptations, or 2) potential converts. Once they realize you aren't going to convert, they drop you like a ton of bricks. When the proselytization fiasco went down and I stormed out of the fundy's house, he apologized, then distanced himself from me. I returned the favor.
I just wanted to see if any ex-fundy could have a close relationship with a fundy. I don't think it's possible for me, but I'd like to know how others feel. It seems even non-fundies have a real problem with being constantly preached at. For ex-fundies, it is excruciating.
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