Life kicks me in the kishkas again...

[AlienGirl]

Well, today I found out that my ex-husband has met someone.

He says it's a casual thing, they haven't even slept together yet, but he introduced her to the kids. From his description, I can't imagine anyone I'd rather have replacing me in life--she's 30, a former nanny, no kids, unmarred, with a good sense of humor--so it's good from that perspective; but it hurts. And my superstitious side is wondering whether there's any omen in someone so perfectly qualified entering the kids' lives--could things be getting set up so I can die without leaving anything undone?

Between that, the fact that I had a nightmare of the Ten-Foot-Giant-Spider kind last night, and the way I sweated through my sheets and woke up with a low-grade fever, I called in sick to work today. I think the manager's very displeased, but I just couldn't take it any more....

Tucker

[NightTrain]

1. Sorry you're having such a rough time, but look at it this way...

At least you haven't seen "Gigli!" :hi:

[radwriter0555]

4. It sucks when they move on..

before you do.

Take some aspirin, kick the fever and get to work young lady. You're kicking ass and taking names! I LOVED your post about the freeper chick. That was AWESOME.

Now get up and get out and DO something.

[Skittles]

2. Tucker, I think you need to move on from your ex

I know he's been your only, but he isn't THE only. You have a lot to offer - get out there and start dating.

[GOPisEvil]

3. Sometimes things are just things, and not significant of other things.

Try to think positively about your life - things are starting to turn for you. Just wish your ex well, and move on getting your OWN HAPPINESS going! :-)

[JitterbugPerfume]

5. hurts like hell to see

another woman with your kids, but ya know what Tucker? They just have one mom, and sweetie that is you.

A step mom tried her best to entice my youngest daughter away from me but it didn't work, because the bond is to strong

You are a lovely and talented young woman . A whole new world is out there for you if you will just GO FOR IT

((((((( hug )))))))

[Don_G]

6. Look At This Way

You're special to your kids, to us here at DU and to a lot of other people you know but don't suspect....

Just keep that in mind first and foremost and never forget that you have a lot of support here.

:loveya:

[Eloriel]

7. When my first husband remarried

a year after we separated, it was to a first grade teacher.

She was always absolutely wonderful to my son, who was about 6 at the time his father remarried. She was the one who sent birthday gifts and remembered Valentine's Day and things like that. She treated him great when he visited them. All in all she was a very nice addition to my son's life, especially nice since his father wasn't very good at being a father. It was absolutely wonderful for me to know that he would be treated so lovingly and attentively when he visited them all the way across the country.

I appreciated her so very much and will always love and respect her for loving my son the way she did. What a gift for all of us that was.

I hope you are lucky enough to have someone like that in your children's lives. It's okay if they form a bond with her -- you will always be their mother. And sometimes it might be rocky or difficult, but there will come a time (as I used to tell myself when I had to stick up for my son's father and try to smooth over his broken promises) when your children will understand EVERYTHING. "When he's 29," I used to tell myself...

And when that time comes, you will want to have been the gracious and magnanimous one. ;-)

Eloriel

[grasswire]

8. heh

News came to us last week that my ex is divorcing his younger wife. Shocking. Who can explain men?