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Well, let me relate a little bit of background information that might be of some comfort to you. Coming, as I did, from what could be generously described as a "humble" background, I think I can feel your pain. I had the same issues with my parents' place, though I'm not sure if the words "humble" or "terribly messy" should be applied. Anyway, it sounds like somethig of a similar situation. For the longest time I tried to exist outside my roots in that place. (My parents were definitely what you'd consider blue-collar intellectuals.) But enough of this gibberish. Let's address the real issue here - is she concerned that her boyfriend might be uncomfortable/embarassed, or is she concerned that *she* might be uncomfortable/embarassed. What is the real issue - is it the b/f's reaction, or is it her own? My guess, based upon nothing but personal experience, is that it's the latter. It can take people a long time to become comfortable with their own roots - especially after making a major transition like rural->urban, hick->city. I have done this myself, and it was damned difficult. Hell, I'm 25 and I'm only now coming to terms with my own roots. When she's comfortable, she'll do it. No need to rush. It's perfectly normal for someone of that age to be concerned with that sort of thing (even if the concern is probably misplaced and unnecessary.)
As a parent, it can be difficult to deal with this sort of behavior from one of your own children, but in reality you've actually got a pretty good situation. She sounds like she's receptive to your input and not totally averse to the idea of having some sort of generation-to-generation family life. In that respect, you're lucky.
As for dead cars, maniacs, and goats...well, what the hell? Are there better ways to live? Probably. Are there worse ways to live? Most certainly. These things are all just added *character* Don't worry about it. Enjoy it. Revel in it. Be yourself.
-y
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