How Many People Does Someone Have To Sleep With Before....

[THUNDER HANDS]

It would be appropriate to label them a "slut" or a "whore" ?

Lets say we start at a fixed age of 21.

By the age of 21, if you've slept with _____ people then it would be appropriate to call them those words I listed above.

5, 10, 15?

What's your slut-meter say?

(editor's note - this applies to both men and women)

[Skittles]

1. Um Magic Rat

it's not how many people you sleep with; it's the manner you do it.

[THUNDER HANDS]

2. the manner?

meaning?

[NewHampster]

3. Quality not Quantity

nt

[Skittles]

4. exactly

what makes one a 'ho is not how many partners you have but how you choose them and how you treat them. I've known many "ladies men" I would not consider 'hos but other men with considerably less partners I would consider skanks.

[TXlib]

19. For "sluts", quantity IS quality!

:evilgrin:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

5. i like the word slut

i use it only in a very sex positive way...and describe everybody i like in that manner...

[SOteric]

6. Why judge and label people based on their past sexuality?

Isn't it more an issue how they're behaving with their current partner than what or who they've done in the past?

[La Lioness Priyanka]

7. asuming slut is a judgement and not a compliment

[SOteric]

12. For 99.9% of the English-speaking world, 'slut' is a judgement

and not a compliment. That means mine isn't an assumption.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

13. maybe its cos i went to NYU

that i think people use the word slut in a positive way...everyone i know does

[TXlib]

20. My take on your assumption

If you know a word, like "slut", is generally a negative word, although you and your group use it in a positive sense, you should assume others use it in the negative sense. You'll never run the risk of needlessly offending others.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

22. i dont offend others

since i never use it on them...

[NewHampster]

25. LOL I was just thinking that my NYU daughter

says slut all the time. It must be village speak.

[ScreamingMeemie]

8. I don't think it's a number, I think it would be a lifestyle kind of thing

Although I voted for not liking the word, so choosing not to use it. Unless we're talking about my dog (thankfully fixed) who has many many many playmates. ;)

[Debi]

9. So, if in my younger years I was VERY sexually active

and then met and married my spouse and had sex with only him for the remainder of my life...would I still be a slut/whore for what I did before I entered into my monogamous relationship?

[SarahB]

10. People must judge that within themselves

Everyone has their own views regarding level of commitment or level of involvement before they would sleep with someone. While casual sex may not feel right for me overall, who am I to say someone's "bad" because they have an easier time separating their emotions from their sexuality. It's a rather subjective, personal thing. As long as someone's not being deceptive, it's very personal really.

[VelmaD]

11. That depends Rat...

how many people have you slept with? ;-)

[SOteric]

14. Oh, well...

Rat's a slut, - even if he's never slept with anyone. I mean, - we don't really need to put that to a vote or anything, do we?

[supernova]

15. I know, let's get loafie!

:think: She'll know whether Magic Rat is a slut or not.

Heh.

As for me, I'm not sayin'. ;-)

[loafie]

24. yes

Magic rat is indeed a slut.

[VelmaD]

27. This comeos as no surprise...

to anyone.

He's a slut...but he's our favorite slut. :)

[northzax]

16. well, they are two completely different terms

for a 'slut' male or female, is someone who will have sex with anyone who wants to, so any number can be correct. If only two people have wanted to have sex with you and you do them both, and regret it, you're a slut.

A whore only needs one person on their resume, as long as that person paid for it.

[DS1]

17. Forty Eight Thousand Six

My friend's use the term 'very sexual' for these cases :shrug:

[Mr. Blonde]

18. According to Buying the Cow

The appropriate number of sexual partners before you get married is twice your age, so I guess someone would have to have had sex with 43 people right?

[NightTrain]

21. I detest the words "slut" and "whore."

Most other epithets don't bother me, but for some reason those two really piss me off. Go figure.

[KinkyDem]

23. Hmmmm ... Maybe TMI

But my girl LOVES it when I tell her she's a slut and a whore.

Granted, I'd never do it front of other people and it certaily wouldn't be acceptable to go around affectionately calling her a whore in public ... but still.

I don't judge other peoples sex lives.

If they have had enough partners for me to be concerned then I simply don't play those sorts of games with them.

[VelmaD]

26. As with most things...it's all about context.

I have been called a slut by people who meant it in the best possible way and I got a huge kick out of it. But then again I knew what they meant...someone who is free-spirited and in touch with themself as a sexual being. Someone who could revel in sex and feel no shame about it.

I have also been called a slut by people who did not mean it in a nice way. In fact I think the last person I committed physical violence upon back when I was younger got punched in the mouth for calling me a slut.

[tjwash]

28. That's a derogatory remark I prefer not to use, no matter who...

...I am referring to.

[Moderator]

29. Locking

Please discuss sexual matters in a mature way.