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Yes, it's me again, trying to hammer out an acceptable ethical position for speaking one's mind in the workplace. These are serious (and real) questions, and I would appreciate DU's feedback.
I work for a small company. I'm a department manager. 2 scenarios...what to do?
Scenario # 1 We have a Ms. Uptight (entry-level) who's bothered by just about everything. I have a large vocabulary and I enjoy using it. One day I used the word "didactic" in a conversation with another employee (the conversation was not political). Ms Uptight jumped in with, "I wish you wouldn't use such big words. It makes me uncomfortable." This is the 2nd or 3rd time she's picked me out for my vocabulary. The first two times I blew her off, thinking she couldn't possibly be serious...
Am I really, truly, supposed to censor ordinary speech in the interest of not making this woman uncomfortable? And even if I were to buy into this absurdist notion, how am I supposed to know beforehand if a word I use is going to bother her? How much can one reasonably be expected to extend oneself to accommodate the sensitivities of other employees?
Scenario #2 I stepped into a colleague's (also a department manager) office to ask a work-related question. She is conversing, obviously socially, with her assistant and the CEO. They are laughing uproariously over her story of encountering an unclothed, obese, African-American woman in the locker room of her gym. They (all three of them are thin as rails) are making fun of the woman, and making no effort to hide this fact. I am overweight, as are about a quarter of the people who work here. We have a couple of African-American employees who may or may have not been in earshot. I am offended, especially by the overt racism, but say nothing and leave. I think the CEO should know better, and set a better example. What to do now? This was a week ago and it still irks me.
In fact, the company has a subtle policy of discriminating against overweight people...amazing that the fat people somehow don't get promoted (I was smart...I put on the weight after I got promoted to manager!) Does anyone else experience this type of bias in the workplace?
My problem, really, is that I'm a socialist, and socialists really don't make good managers. But that is another thread for another day.
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