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harassment encounter at work. Some you can handle, others need to have their asses in a sling.
I went to work for a small bank several years ago. Two men, president and vice president (natch) and the rest were approx. 20 women - 16 - 60 (we had two high school co-op students to come in file, etc.)
On my very first day of work I was in the President's office filling out the necessary employment forms, signing up for benefits and getting the "glad you are here pep talk." Small place - the president was only about 30 years old (family owned) handle this stuff himself. Anyway, toward the end of the little visit the President of the bank told me in a very casual way as escorting me out of his office, "Oh, by the way. Don't get caught alone with Mr. H." Said it again, "Don't get caught alone with Mr. H." Took me a few days to ask one of the other employees what he meant. And of course, they all accepted that it was part of their job description NOT TO TEMPT Mr. H. Don't get caught in the break room (he seemed to watch to see if anyone was left by herself, don't work late alone, don't go looking for old records in the attic. He would appear with wandering hands and a lot of influence over your career. It was our responsibility for our own safety by the owner of the business. He seem to feel it would be easier to get us to watch out for ourselves than get this pervert to behave. (Pervert was a upstanding, churchgoing, married, Rotary Club and Chamber of Commerce bigwig, important member of the community.)
One day he trapped one of the co-op teens alone in the vault during an extremely busy Friday payday. The lobby was full and all of a sudden you hear this high pitched scream coming from the vault from the young lady - "Mr.H don't! Everything came to a dead stop. You could have heard a pin drop. She came running out crying and the vice president came out after her with a very red face (good English farce theater!). The next morning this girl's parents were standing outside waiting for the doors to the bank to open. After a very brief, loud, and threatening meeting the parents left, the President was pissed and the Vice President learned to keep his damn hands to himself.
I always wonder why this bunch of women allowed themselves to be terrorized by this jerk and one young teen came in and took him out with one scream. Maybe knew it was because we all needed our jobs and this child had a little more wiggle room.
There is harassment in today's work place and no one should have to endure it. Tell your friend to document that they are "blacklisting" her and then go for their pocketbook. I cannot speak authoritatively on whether men are harassed or not but I do know there has been very few jobs I have had over the years there wasn't some type of harassment going on. Hopefully women are smarter, stronger and can handle the situations where it calls for a deft touch to get it to stop but can also know what to do when it takes stronger actions. First and foremost - document, document, document. Just carrying a small voice activated tape recorder in a pocket can go a long way toward supporting a claim.
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