Terri Shiavo Cremated

[kerrywins]

Personally....I don't see the harm in letting her family give her a catholic funeral. The husband is with another woman...what harm would it have been?

[greatauntoftriplets]

1. Catholics can be cremated.

Was the service following the cremation non-Catholic?

[kerrywins]

2. her parents did not want her cremated

ui'm saying...whats the big deal in letting them have that wish?

[greatauntoftriplets]

3. What was done with her was up to her husband....

in death as in life.

Was the service following her cremation non-Catholic?

I have heard that both the husband and the parents are having funeral services.

[kerrywins]

4. her husband is with another woman

has been for a while...legally he maybe her husband...but spiritually he's not....just my opinion.

[greatauntoftriplets]

6. So?

He was still legally responsible for her.

:shrug:

[ltfranklin]

10. Let me answer that Q with a Q

Let's say that you are married, and your husband dies.

You bury the husband, then a few years later, you remarry.

You find out a few years later that his parents, who own a carnival, want to dig up his body and use it in a sideshow exhibit, saying that he was raised in the carnival, and would have wanted to "remain with the carnival" in this way.

Would you allow it? After all, you're not still his wife, spiritually.

[merh]

14. Welcome to DU!

I like your hypothetical question. It makes the point nicely.

Welcome to DU! I believe you will like it here. :hi:

[ocean girl]

16. ITF - what a fantastic reply

You summed it up perfectly - I kept saying that the whole thing was a sideshow - and the parents are definitely freaks.

BTW, welcome to DU!

[ltfranklin]

18. Thanks

I just read this kind of stuff (not the original poster...she seems to be sincerely curious) and I wonder. Do they know nothing about love? Do they think a person is incapable of loving more than one person at a time? Do they really think that finding a new love after your first love is lost, that the feelings for your first love should be forever subsumed? How sad.

Perhaps we're just no using the proper terminology to explain it to them...here, let's try something they might:

Ok, now, you hated John Kerry...but did that mean you didn't Hate Bill Clinton anymore?

See, they should understand THAT!

[DFLforever]

8. He wants nothing more to do with these people

and who can blame him?

[Individualist]

5. See discussion from earlier today

www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=104&topic_id=3409756&mesg_id=3409756

[sandnsea]

7. They were on tv the day she died

The father was at a memorial service broadcast on tv. Don't you think something for this poor woman should be private?

A truly Catholic family would never put the parents over the marriage, not in a million years. These people are obviously consumed with hatred, not love for Terri.

[cidliz2004]

9. The parents shamelessly exploited their daughter on National T.V.

and dragged their family tragedy through the mud besides not honoring Michaels wishes and honoring his claim that Terri didn't want to be kept in a vegetative state.

The parents really put Michael Schaivo through Hell.

After all of that, there really is an abundance of reasons why there were hard feelings and I personally don't blame Michael Schaivo one bit. They totally dishonored Terri and Michael for their own selfish reasons. They got wrapped up in their own little psycho drama.

When a man and a woman get married they leave their parents behind. Terri married Michael and left her parents behind. She was an adult and her "spokesperson" became Michael PERIOD. Michael only entered into another relationship YEARS after valiantly trying to help Terri.
He even went to nursing school to better understand how to help take care of her. He turned down 1 million dollars to divorce her. His actions were made from as much integrity and dignity as a person could have in this unbearable situation.

The parents can "use" this "not being able to bury Terri" in their unending drama. It should get them another 15 minutes of fame.

Michael did the right thing.

[Connie_Corleone]

11. Who cares??

It's none of our business.

[SW FL Dem]

12. Her mother refused to see her for the last several days of her life

She lost whatever sympathy I had for her, at that point. I was 3000 miles from my Dad when he died, I would have given anything to have been at his bedside. The Schindlers knew it was inevitable, yet they preferred to spend time with their spiritual advisers and in front of the cameras.

[johnaries]

13. According to Michael, it was her wish to be cremated.

I think he would know better than her parents. I never told my parents I wanted to be cremated, but I did tell my ex when we were married.

[karlrschneider]

15. I've thought it would be cool if Michael gave them a tablespoon of

the ashes. They can bury it anyplace they want. But I guess I have to defer to his legal authority. When I croak, I'm having my ashes tossed around indiscriminatly.

[CatWoman]

17. you people who keep harping on Michael's relationship

really, really annoy me.

It is unrealistic and just plain stupid to expect someone to stop living because their spouse has.

He devoted his life to Terri until the doctors made him see the truth. The final truth: Terri wasn't coming back. EVER.

[Yupster]

19. Just my opinion of course, but

I think before you move in with a new woman and start having kids with her, you should divorce your first wife first.