Terri Schiavo...LOVING is knowing when to LET GO.

[ScreamingMeemie]

Knowing when you are doing things more for your own self than for the good of that which you love. Putting that person's wants and needs in place of your own...when making decisions regarding them. If you love somebody, let them go...

Mr and Mrs Schindler, If you LOVE Terri, let her go...and she will be restored to you, in memory, as the girl you used to know and adore, not the wasted woman in need of peace.

[fleabert]

1. Great post. wish they would read it. nt

[madrchsod]

3. somehow i don`t think they understand or

do not want to. my mom and dad is with me everyday even though they left this earth for somewhere else.

[SammyBlue]

2. In a way I feel empathy for her parents

15 years and grasping at straws. Tragic figures. I wish all American families showed this much love and devoation. I wish all American husbands did the same.

In part, I wish my ex-wife did too.

[ScreamingMeemie]

4. Love and devotion equals letting go...I would not want my parents to drag

me through this and call it love. I'm sorry.

[FreedomAngel82]

5. Me either

I wouldn't either. They are so far gone from the reality of the aspect it's turned into an obsession.

[SammyBlue]

6. I feel the same way. Believe me.

It's unbelievable. But, I am, in some small way glad that they care. But, you're right, they do need to let go.

[guinivere]

7. A lovely post, MrsGrumpy nt

[Tamyrlin79]

8. Her parents seem completely pathological to me...

They simply cannot accept the reality of death, their daughter's death, even though for all practical purposes she is already dead and has been for a long time. That they are still willing to keep her alive no matter how grotesque her continued "existence" (I hesitate to call such a state "life") might be, clearly shows the parent's pathology to me. It might be a hard lesson, particularly for parents, but they really need to learn to let go.

[ernstbass]

15. I agree that the parents have lost contact w/ reality

when it comes to their daughter. And the sad thing is that they are being fueled to think this way by all of the anti abortion activists that are financing this battle. They need to go spend time w/ Terri and work on letting go. Perhaps their faith can help them cope.

[mattclearing]

9. Amen.

Love is allowing freedom. If you love something...

[DearAbby]

11. I could not imagine what it is like for those people...

but I know I would wish to set her free, after 15 long yrs, It would break my heart to think of her in some kind of limbo. I would have to set her free. Trust in faith

[Just Me]

10. Yes. Please, set her free. Show love for her by setting her free.

The Schindlers and their circle should also seek professional help, immediately. Their obsession is infecting their ability to love.

Thank you SOOOO MUCH for posting this, Mrs. Grumpy!!!

[ScreamingMeemie]

14. I cannot imagine looking upon my daughter in that state and just letting

her lay there. It would break my heart and damage all of the wonderful memories of her reality.

[Catchawave]

12. Very nice....I wonder why they haven't been counseled by

now? An understanding doctor? Priest? Grief Counselor?

There's a huge part of this puzzle missing because I don't know of any parent who would want to continue this fight after all this time with such a hopeless prognosis.

[ScreamingMeemie]

13. This is what has bothered me as well. When my Aunt and Uncle made

their decision with a young infant, it was days of counseling and then overwhelming peace. There is no peace here...for anyone. Keeping a dead woman alive isn't ever going to bring them that.

[bitchkitty]

16. This post is not in reply to any particular

post, but I can't believe what assholes some people are.

I think they should disconnect Terri's feeding tube. But that doesn't stop me from feeling compassion for her parents, and being grateful to God that I don't have such a horrendous decision to make.

Calling her parents pathological, and the self-righteous sniffs that they should just "let go" makes me want to puke. They sit with her every day, they brush her hair, they talk to her, sing to her. She's their baby, for God's sake.

WTF is wrong with some of you?

[ScreamingMeemie]

17. She is gone. I haven't called them pathological. But it disturbs me that

those who claim to love are not willing to face up to what has happened to their daughter.

[bitchkitty]

18. Sorry, I did not mean

to come on so strong.

Love is almost never reasonable. Carry someone for 9 months inside your body, I guess you get attached. I don't have children, but I know how it feels to lose someone.

[ScreamingMeemie]

19. I've carried two children to term, lost three to late term loss and if

that were my daughter in the bed, I hope to GOD I'd have the sanity to let her go.

[bitchkitty]

21. Exactly - you hope, but you don't know -

none of us can. I would hope that I would too, but putting my old dog to sleep a few months ago was one of the hardest things I ever had to do - I cannot imagine how it would feel if I had a brain dead child who was still breathing, there but not there.

It's all such a mess - I just with this could have been a strong lesson on eating disorders and what it is about our society that makes women hurt themselves to be "pretty".

I'm sorry for your losses.

[ScreamingMeemie]

22. Correction. I pretty much know. I did not have the need to see the babies

I had lost. I let them go and keep the sweet memory of their kicks with me. They have had 15 years to say goodbye...a lot more than many of us have.

I agree, it is a mess. :(

and thank you.

[Left Is Write]

20. I agree with you.

It's sad, and keeping her here doesn't seem the best way to show their love for her.