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Hey all.
I am in a strange dilemma. The girl I have been seeing seems to be a (gulp) Bush supporter. However, she is NOT a hard-core winger, rather she is one of those apolitical naive type of supporters. She believes that we did a great thing by 'freeing' the Iraqi people from Saddam (hard to argue with on some levels) and that Bush is generally a 'caring' man. I haven't gotten in to many details with her because she is so timid that I know it would turn her off to come at her guns blazing trying to explain why Bush is horrible and Kerry MUST be elected. She seems to only respond to positive 'feel-good' rhetoric. Something which, after 4 years of shrub is hard to think of.
Instead what I'm trying to do is give her bits of information while at the same time not demonizing every Republican. I try gently tell her why the republican way is unwise and not positive but at the same time I try to not make her feel stupid for feeling the way she does. Anyway, i'm not sure if I am changing her mind, but it is really hard to deal with because I really like her, but this is just one area that obviously makes me (and her) really uncomfortable.
We have planned to watch F9/11 on DVD together when it comes out (she has not seen it) - So, I am hoping that can open her eyes to some extent. Again, I think she may feel that it is over the top and too 'heavy handed' - If this is the case, I think I may say "yes it may heavy handed, but even if you don't believe the 'opinion' parts of the movie, you really can't argue with the parts that speak for themselves can you?"
Anyway, what I am really interested in is discussing EFFECTIVE ways of changing peoples minds. NOT telling them how stupid they are for supporting Shrub, NOT ranting about Shrub in a way that will turn people off, but rationally and respectfully giving a person information that will allow them to CHANGE THEIR OWN MIND. That is the key. I think that people really do need to feel that they haven't been 'talked in' to changing a deeply held position but they must feel that their 'heart' changed.
Has anybody had success doing this consistently? Has anybody lost relationships over things like this?
Thanks so much!
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