The high incidence of dowry-related violence despite the Indian Penal Code’s anti-dowry provisions—stringent enough, as Delhi High Court said—reveals that the root of the problem is not the law....The recent case of Nisha Sharma, who created a stir by declaring that she wouldn’t marry a man who insisted on dowry, is an indication of the real problem. In the photographs taken before she became a “rebel” and was splashed across most newspapers, she could be seen in the foreground with her father, with the background full of cardboard boxes containing a television set, music system, washing machine, and other “gifts”...
And we all know, Nisha, a hero in her own right today, had not said “no” to the marriage till her family could no longer afford to pay the “additional dowry.” Nisha was fortunate that the demand for additional dowry was made just before the marriage, and because her family couldn’t afford it, the prospective groom’s parents said “no” first....not all brides are as fortunate as Nisha. According to the National Crime Records Bureau, 6,995 dowry deaths were reported in the year 2000...45,778 incidents of torture by husbands or in-laws were eported...increase of 195.9 per cent and Hyderabad, 200 percent.
Yet, girls like Nisha continue to agree to be sold in the marriage market...plagued with the dilemma of giving in to the demand for dowry, risking further abuse. Or...risk a lifetime of humiliation that comes with spinsterhood.
Unfortunately, such behavior is prescribed in Hindu scriptures. Manushastra, for example, states in 5:154: “The wife should treat the husband as god, (even) if he is characterless, sensual, and devoid of good qualities.”...The best dowry any parents can give their daughter is a good education, healthy self-esteem, and the values of sacramental marriage. Society needs to wake up to its responsibility of building and nurturing responsible human beings, for even now it is the village that raises the child.
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