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You have a couple of ideas here that SOUND good but are dangerous. They're dangerous for society and they're dangerous for children. Please give some serious thought to this because I consider some of your beliefs dangerous for YOUR children.
In my opinion, the problem is with parental reaction to sex. By masking it from children for 10-15 years, you give sex an "underworld" type luster that becomes overwhelmingly popular to an adolescent. In this way, people who grow up in the US start out shielded from sex (giving 'sex' a power and seduction quality), then they become adolescents and not only seek sex (like all adolescents naturally do) but they take it underground, knowing their parents think it should be hidden. Finally, in a full circle fashion, the adolescents become parents and emulate the "sex should be hidden from children" fallacy.
50 cent is appealing to the adolescent phase of this development.
Well, there's a point at which that whole "forbidden" scenario probably kicks in, I'll grant you that. But not until their own hormones start to kick in. In the meantime, IT IS INCREDIBLY IMPORTANT not to prematurely sexualize children who would have no natural interest in sexual content (because they're simply too young! they don't -- or wouldn't if left to their own devices -- have any knowledge, frame of reference or interest). To a very large extent, if I read the excerpt above correctly, this is partly what the pornographer is talking about (and if he isn't doing it consciously, he's doing it subconsciously).
It is HARMFUL to children to force-feed sexual content to them -- even if they're not fully aware of what that sexual content is. I can't tell you how horrified I am over Britney Spears and her overly sexualized impact on pre-pubescent girls. This (and so much more similar which is rufe thorughout our society) is societal sexual abuse. Trust me.
As a parent, perhaps a better path would be to de-mystify sex by acknowledging its intrinsic beauty. The child who does not think sex is something to be hidden from the light of day may become an adolescent who feels the same way.
NOT UNTIL THEY'RE READY -- IOW not before it's age-appropriate. PLEASE. This is so important.
Sex might become more apparent in our culture, but it would also become less stigmatized as evil, improper and sinful. If adolescents stop seeking sex as the end-all of our human existence and embrace it as a natural part of our lives, performers like 50 cent won't have an audience.
I don't know that you'll be able to wage a one-man (or two-parent) campaign like this and win, not with all of society ganged up working real damn hard against you.
The child singing those lyrics has no idea of what s/he is saying. The only ones offended by it are the parents who can identify the full meaning. Just get the child interested in other music. Then, when s/he is adolescent, the opaque double entendre will have far less emotional value.
Just my opinion. Take it for what it's worth. :)
Well, knowing something about child abuse, I can tell you that there's a very, very good chance that some day, when this "child" is an adult, she will feel deeply harmed -- violated -- by having been forced to sing lewd lyrics at the innocent age of 3 or 4 or whatever.
The very definition of child abuse, including child sexual abuse, is to use a child to satisfy your own needs, or to put any child's needs below your own. Having a child sing lewd lyrics IS child sexual abuse and if she's VERY lucky, there'll be a time when she resents it deeply consciously level and is able to get therapy or other help for having been used and abused this way (and do we REALLY think this is the only "abuse" she'll be enduring? I don't. It's probable if not likely that anyone who thinks that's cute or harmless is going to think it's also harmless to have her act out those lyrics -- after all, she won't remember, will she?).
Or, she may be just a common prositute by that time, society having done enough of its harm to her to turn her into fodder (willing worker) for the sex industry. At that point she may say and even believe she doesn't give a damn. She may have so little ability to connect with any small remnant of self-respect that on the surface she may even say she thinks it was cool or funny.
It is HARMFUL to children to force-feed sexual content to them --
-- the best you can do for your children is to fill them with SO MUCH rock-solid, innate, to the core self-respect that they will never be conned into being overly and prematurely sexual, that they'll respect sex as soemthing special between people who care about one another, not as just another cheap commodity and one's partner(s) as equally cheap commodities, which is what our popular culture has turned all of it into.
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