Reply #139: Why did it take so long [View All]

[pipi_k]

for her to get serious treatment?


For one thing, even though the incidents of molestation had happened a few years earlier there was no really unusual behavior on her part except for the one time we were visiting my sister and my BIL wanted to take her to the store with him and she very quickly said, "NO". This in itself was unusual, because she loved everyone and had no trouble going places with anyone else in the family. That was the first clue, and it wasn't long afterward when I found out what had happened. I made sure she never had contact with him again, and it was a couple of years later that law enforcement got involved. Even that didn't trigger her running away. It only happened AFTER the whole thing exploded in our faces, my family dumped us, and my ex husband was dying from cancer.


Do you actually think a family can go much beyond just trying to survive from day to day when there's that much shit going on?

When she started seeing a therapist after her treatment, the therapist copped some serious attitude with me...much like yours, but when she found out everything that was going on, she actually apologized to me.

There was absolutely nobody in the system who wasn't kind and compassionate to both of us.

And these people had a more complete file of information than you do now.

Your attitude is much like that of some long-time cops I know who have, they claim, seen the "scum of the streets" and end up bringing that attitude with them everywhere they go. In their minds, everybody is a scum. Oh, unless they've mainly worked with a narrow group of people...people of a certain race or color or culture. Then it's only "them" who are scum. And they feel just as justified to judge anyone they meet based purely on the people they've dealt with in the past.

Don't even give me shit about foster homes. A couple of my in-laws had been foster parents for a long time before the wife got a brain tumor and couldn't do it anymore.

My child was returned to me because I wanted her back, and there was NO evidence that she was being mistreated, by myself, or anyone else in my home. The foster home she stayed at was not overcrowded. There was only one other kid besides herself. She could have stayed as long as she wanted to...or as long as I wanted her to.

The kids my in-laws were dealing with were placed there as a last resort because their parents didn't want them anymore. And when they turned 18, the kids were kicked out to fend for themselves.


People I dealt with on a personal level during that time were kind and compassionate.


You read a handful of posts on an internet discussion board and all of a sudden decide you have a right to judge me.

How very...professional.

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