Reply #13: Yes, I have some experience. Some thoughts... [View All]

[moc]

First, make sure you are working with a board-certified reproductive endocrinologist, not just an OB/GYN who "dabbles" in fertility treatment. Doing the latter can waste a lot of unnecessary time.

Try and see if your wife can get some support from other women in the same boat. Dealing with infertility is an unbelievably gut-wrenching experience that I'm not sure a man can understand. Yes, producing your "sample" is no picnic, I know, but compared to what the woman goes through, it's a piece of cake - the needles, the tests (oh God, that HSG can be a real bitch, especially if a woman had endo), the every-other-day transvaginal sonos and bloodwork monitoring follie development, being petrified that you'll trigger at the wrong time, becoming obsessed with every twitch (could I be pg?!), the surge of hope, then the crushing depression when you discover it didn't work...again. Month after month after month. You start obsessing about pregnant women. You can't go out in public without seeing pregnant women everywhere it seems. It is incredibly isolating for a woman.

It's been over six years since we were blessed with our second child, and the pain of those years has mostly faded. Still, dealing with infertility is something that changes you forever.

If you have any specific questions, or if your wife does, let me know. We were successful conceiving our first with unmedicated IUI. #2 was pergonal/IUI.

:hug: