Reply #10: I think telling is the honorable thing to do. [View All]

[Rabrrrrrr]

Not that one needs to be a snitch, but better to hurt the spouse now than to risk the far greater hurt that would come later.

Also, by lying and not saying anything, one becomes complicit in the affair.

If the friend was dumbfuck enough to bring you into it, then he/she is dumbfuck enough to pay the piper tomorrow.

If it were my friend, I'd give him/her one day to tell the spouse, because in 24 hours, I'm telling.