Reply #10: Hugs, Nikia [View All]

[LynzM]

I have a similar situation, but with my dad. He and my mom would fight, he'd pick her arguments to death, and I'd leave. For years and years. Hence I learned my only coping mechanism: leaving. Doesn't work well when actual problems need to be actually addressed in constructive ways. Sigh. Took me a long time to work on un-learning that. I still get a lot of anxiety from dealing with conflict.

I'm sorry that you guys are having a hard time figuring out how to deal with fighting with each other. Have you talked to anyone outside of your relationship about it? I know it's cliche, but sometimes someone who is removed from the relationship is able to give good advice to each person on how to change their responses, make the communication better and less 'fight-like' :hug: