Reply #80: Sorry, but you ARE "rocking the boat" [View All]

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Probably in his eyes and possibly in the eyes of your mother and other guests. This is not a bad thing, though, so don't be afraid of it. The best people this world has ever known have been boat-rockers, through and through.

But do be prepared to take shit for it. People don't like boat-rockers - not the bullies, and sometimes not bystanders who want to be ostriches (i.e. sticking their heads in sand). But, like I said up-thread, nobody ever changed anything bad in the world by ignoring, keeping the peace, or being nice. Don't get mad or upset, just set your boundaries about acceptable behavior and stick to them. So what if he calls you names or tells you you're being sensitive? You don't give a shit about what he thinks anyway, right? Or you can just kick him out if he gets too out of line.

I think you should stand right up in that boat and start jumping up and down. If your mother and her boyfriend fall overboard, good! A nice cold dunking might be just the refreshing wake-up call she needs.