Reply #9: Hmmmm [View All]

[tkmorris]

I really don't know what to tell ya. I am married and it DOES work for me, though I am well aware that my marriage is as unlike most peoples as the Wright brothers plane is to a B-2 bomber.

What do I get from it? The same she does, a partner. We are the best of friends and we support each other. Often my weaknesses are her strengths, and vice versa, so we complement each other well.

We are both kind of anti-social, but we need human companionship. We find it in each other. We share common goals, and we strive to achieve them. As a team.

As I grow older I fear many things, not the least of which is the process itself of growing older. She shares this with me. I will never be alone, and neither will she. There is ENORMOUS comfort to be found in this.

I have learned something in this marriage. It only works if we have absolute faith in each other to always be there for each other. We have sometimes doubted that but I doubt we ever will again. We have each been tested, and passed. I care more for her well-being than I do for mine own, and she reciprocates.

I'll tell you something else we both realize. We have both been through the wars. We have both been married before. We know that what we have found is unusual. Most people will NEVER have a partner the way we do. We are extremely lucky. We have indeed found the holy land, the shangri-la of relationships. It IS possible, though I have to admit it isn't the norm. All I can say is reject the notion of "settling", never accept a bad relationship. If you are lonely I don't blame you for having a relationship with someone you don't feel totally comfortable with but NEVER accept it as good enough. Soulmates do exist. Find yours.