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seabeyond

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18. attractive girls and women had better get a handle on it. in ways i think it is harder being
Sun Apr 28, 2013, 09:59 AM
Apr 2013

attractive in a really odd kinda of way. i think that being totally unattractive (and we are talking purely shallow physical criteria) there is a freedom in that. and allows for a woman to age more gracefully in ways. they may not have the advantage at the younger age, and this is true of all unattractive (go back to my clarification) people, but they are not "losing" that advantage or self worth as they age in the same manner of an attractive woman.

so, i think women had better let go of the pressures and worth of attractiveness, let go of ego, in the 30's to take the next decades more gracefully.

it is interesting in the psychological perspective of self.

step one one: quit using makeup nt msongs Apr 2013 #1
Teaching individual women how to stop self-objectifying is great. It's necessary. redqueen Apr 2013 #3
That's an interesting observation.... Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #4
Yes, women internalize these rules. redqueen Apr 2013 #5
Sadly, too true. Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #7
Also I just have to add that you reminded me of this particular part of a video... redqueen Apr 2013 #6
I wish they would stop wearing ridiculous shoes Skittles Apr 2013 #9
The shoes thing totally stumps me MadrasT Apr 2013 #11
sorry, I don't laugh: it makes me CRINGE Skittles Apr 2013 #13
You're really quite worked up about shoes aren't you? redqueen Apr 2013 #14
YES Skittles Apr 2013 #16
Step Two: Stop comparing yourself to anyone else. Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #2
Some disturbing articles there. CrispyQ Apr 2013 #8
As she said, we hardly address it... hell, most hardly notice it. redqueen Apr 2013 #10
Awesome MadrasT Apr 2013 #12
Soraya Chemaly is fantastic. redqueen Apr 2013 #15
A young women in nursing school was showing me the Dove "you're more beautiful than you think" ismnotwasm Apr 2013 #17
attractive girls and women had better get a handle on it. in ways i think it is harder being seabeyond Apr 2013 #18
I could write a book on the difference between being slender & fat. CrispyQ Apr 2013 #21
Yes, many men look good in eyeliner. redqueen Apr 2013 #19
I've always wondered why men accept the restrictions of what's considered 'professional' wear. CrispyQ Apr 2013 #20
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