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(27,630 posts)A lot of it has to do with maintaining a good attitude. I think to myself about this person in my life who does nothing but complain, that I would have killed myself long ago if I were like that, if I did not know how to do anything but complain. What kind of a shitty existence is that? Maybe she wants to drag other people down? If so, it often works. I've gotten better at fighting off a negative attitude, but a person like that makes it tough.
I'm the opposite. I'd much rather make someone else feel better from an interaction than feel worse. I don't need to bring people down if I'm feeling low, or attack people who may be better off than I am, prettier, luckier, has nicer things, or whatever. I don't want to be THAT person.
One really helpful thing for me, something I read a couple of years ago, is to be thankful for challenges in life because they make you a better person. Maybe it's BS, but I have to believe it if I want to keep wanting to live another day. It's like that asian (Chinese maybe?) word that crisis and opportunity are the same word. Instead of whining and feeling miserable, the idea is to be thankful for whatever you have, and to work on changing or improving things instead of complaining. It was all in some book I read about 4 years ago, and it does help my attitude. I am still be as cynical as hell and sometimes I think everything is rotten, but even so, I try to appreciate whatever there is to appreciate. I have to if I want to keep going.
Peace and happiness to you as well!