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H2O Man

(73,308 posts)
19. One of the things
Sat May 9, 2020, 05:04 PM
May 2020

I've noticed while talking to pro-Trump people is that their level of hostility rises rapidly, actually as soon as I offer a differing view point. (I can only think of one exception.) Over the decades, I've noticed that most people do not process incoming information well when they are experiencing anger .....much less, rage. And so I attempt to lower those levels of hostility. I do that by patiently listening to them, rather than immediately pointing out where they are wrong. When things have calmed down a bit, and they are relaxed enough to recognize that I'm not their enemy -- I'm merely a friend who thinks differently -- I get started. That includes taking various things they have said that are important to them, agreeing at least in part, and then simply re-arranging them in a manner that may reach a different conclusion.

An Odd End [View all] H2O Man May 2020 OP
"I do not believe they are stupid or bad" is a good stance Kitchari May 2020 #1
I agree. H2O Man May 2020 #11
A Very Interesting Read Me. May 2020 #2
Yes, most of H2O Man May 2020 #12
We Disagree Me. May 2020 #16
I think the opponents of the cult may be reaching the point of no return. kentuck May 2020 #3
I've been H2O Man May 2020 #13
So What Do You Think Is The MOst Effective Way To Strike At The Puppeteer? Me. May 2020 #18
I wonder what Malcolm would think of today's circumstances? kentuck May 2020 #29
Great question. H2O Man May 2020 #38
The typical rw approach to climate change Mosby May 2020 #4
Right! H2O Man May 2020 #14
MAGA's live in the Rear Fear Lobe Brain Period! Or, maybe not all... MartyTheGreek May 2020 #5
I hear you! H2O Man May 2020 #15
In that view, nobody is stupid or bad. ananda May 2020 #6
Respectfully disagree. H2O Man May 2020 #17
WaterMan how do we communicate with these people? malaise May 2020 #7
One of the things H2O Man May 2020 #19
You are way more patient than me malaise May 2020 #20
Well, I don't know H2O Man May 2020 #23
Very interesting malaise May 2020 #24
Right. H2O Man May 2020 #31
Bookmarked! kentuck May 2020 #35
I bookmarked that one malaise May 2020 #36
"They are not stupid or bad" depends on a particular point of view I suppose ismnotwasm May 2020 #8
Great point. H2O Man May 2020 #21
I am fascinated with the way humans can compartmentalize areas of their lives malaise May 2020 #26
Eugenics is not a good look Steelrolled May 2020 #9
Eugene, Oregon is nice. H2O Man May 2020 #22
I've never been to Eugene Oregon Steelrolled May 2020 #25
I haven't, either. H2O Man May 2020 #28
blather on old friend. mopinko May 2020 #10
Thank you! H2O Man May 2020 #27
There is another kind of Trump supporter: religious zealots Kitchari May 2020 #30
Absolutely. H2O Man May 2020 #33
They are not stupid or bad; they just believe alternative facts Martin Eden May 2020 #32
Very well said! H2O Man May 2020 #34
Well, you know those wacky Buddhists say there's no such things as good or bad. blogslut May 2020 #37
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