All kinds of wrong.

[ismnotwasm]

Teenager exposes India's 'one month wives' sex tourism

Campaigners for Muslim women's rights said while short term 'contract marriages' are illegal in India and forbidden in Islam, they are increasing in Hyderabad, in southern India, where wealthy foreigners, local agents and 'Qazis' – government-appointed Muslim priests – are exploiting poverty among the city's Muslim families.
The victim, Nausheen Tobassum, revealed the scale of the problem when she escaped from her home last month after her parents pressurised her to consummate a forced marriage to a middle aged Sudanese man who had paid around £1,200 for her to be his 'wife' for four weeks.
She told police she had been taken by her aunt to a hotel where she and three other teenage girls were introduced to a Sudanese oil company executive. The 'groom', Usama Ibrahim Mohammed, 44 and married with two children in Khartoum, later arrived at her home where a Qazi performed a wedding ceremony.
According to Inspector Vijay Kumar he had paid 100,000 Rupees (around £1,200) to the girl's aunt Mumtaz Begum, who in turn paid 70,000 Rupees to her parents, 5,000 Rupees to the Qazi, 5,000 Rupees to an Urdu translator and kept 20,000 Rupees herself. The wedding certificate came with a 'Talaknama' which fixed the terms of the divorce at the end of the groom's holiday.
"The next day he came to the house of the victim girl and asked her to participate in sex but she refused. She is a young girl and the groom is older than her father," Inspector Kumar told The Telegraph.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/asia/india/9993453/Teenager-exposes-Indias-one-month-wives-sex-tourism.html

[niyad]

1. apparently there is no limit to the ways in which females are victimized.

[BainsBane]

2. This is really awful

Somehow it seems worse to me because of the marriage. What happens to these women after they divorce?

[Arcanetrance]

3. I really wish we as men could spend a day experiencing the life of women

Than maybe we would stop these horrific crimes against humanity

[Sandra Dee]

4. But men face violence too mostly at the hands of other men, right?

Is it not possible to simply worry about the amount of damage men do to each other and do something about that first without having to live in a woman's body for a day?

[uppityperson]

5. Are you saying why "walk a mile in her shoes because my shoes are painful enough"? Why empathize or

learn or worry about what happens to the other half of the world's population?

[Little Star]

6. Now there is a good question.

[redqueen]

10. This should help.

...

I grew to resent my father's dominance in the household, even though I loved him as dearly as I loved my mother. His anger and intimidation shut down my mother, sister and me from freely expressing our opinions whenever they didn't sit well with his own. Something about the inequity in their relationship felt unjust to me, but at that young age, I couldn't articulate why.

...

As I grew older and got into my own relationships with girls and women, I sometimes behaved as I saw my father behave. I, too, became defensive and verbally abusive whenever the girl or woman I was dating criticized or challenged me. I would belittle my girlfriends by scrutinizing their weight or their choices in clothes. In one particular college relationship, I often used my physical size to intimidate my petite girlfriend, standing over her and yelling to get my point across during arguments.

I had internalized what I had seen in my home and was slowly becoming what I had disdained as a young boy. Although my mother attempted to teach me better, I, like a lot of boys and men, felt entitled to mistreat the female gender when it benefited me to do so.
...

Not one man, including myself, could quickly answer the question. Finally, one man raised his hand and said, "Nothing." Then Katz asked the women, "What things do you do to protect yourself from being raped or sexually assaulted?" Nearly all of the women in the room raised their hand. One by one, each woman testified:

...


http://www.theroot.com/views/why-i-am-male-feminist?page=0%2C0

Read the rest.

[CrispyQ]

11. Very nice!

Thank you for sharing. Loved this part:

I decided that I loved feminists and embraced feminism. Not only does feminism give woman a voice, but it also clears the way for men to free themselves from the stranglehold of traditional masculinity. When we hurt the women in our lives, we hurt ourselves, and we hurt our community, too.

[redqueen]

12. I should have posted a h/t to Sheldon

who posted it here
http://www.democraticunderground.com/125520624

[Arcanetrance]

7. We do face violence from other men but you don't hear about shit like this happening as often

A majority of the man on man violence isn't sexual it's just violent

[tblue]

8. Some of the most brilliant, accomplished

and well-compensated people I know are Indian nationals or Indian Americans, women and men. And I'm talking maybe a thousand families. Surely they can come up with a way to get help to more poor women back home. I know there is massive devastating poverty in India and the population is so enormous that they literally do not track the poor's birth records and don't even keep a national census, one woman told me. Shocking, I know. It's a profoundly depressing situation for the poor. But the brain power coming out of that country is second to none. I don't know what's being done to assist Indian women in these sex-slave situations, but I'm gonna ask next chance I get. I refuse to believe it's impossible to fix this.