Girl Sends Sext, Gets Kicked Out of School. Lacrosse Players Share Sext, Get Off Scot Free

[redqueen]

A 16-year-old student says she was forced to withdraw from her prestigious Catholic prep school after texting a topless photo to two of the school's star athletes, who shared it with the entire lacrosse team but received no punishment. Instead of using the incident as a teachable moment for both male and female students about trust and social media, the administration sent a clear message: girls are ungodly creatures who tempt boys into sin.

Last month, 16-year-old Alexis texted a topless photo of herself to her good friend Jason.* Jason and Alexis had known each other since middle school, and had recently become even closer since Alexis was the manager of Jason's lacrosse team at Paul VI Catholic High School, a Fairfax, Virginia school well-known for its stellar athletics.

"Basically everyone" at Paul VI sexts, Alexis said, but she didn't e-flash Jason because she had a crush on him; it was a dare. "We were texting about this girl that used to be in love with him and how she sends him photos, and he said I would never do that," Alexis recalled. "He kept saying I wouldn't, so I said, 'watch me.' It was just a joke." The duo group-texted the photo to Peter, another close friend on the lacrosse team, but Alexis trusted that it wouldn't go any further. She was wrong.

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Teenage girls are systematically shamed for sexting, even though studies show that boys are just as likely to share x-rated photos. However, young men are almost twice as likely to share those photos, as well as more likely to receive forwarded sexts. Instead of harshly punishing girls who feel pressure to send sexy photos of themselves — or even instead of punishing the recipients — why don't schools teach both sexters and sextees why it's poor judgement to send and share private information? It's similar to the abstinence vs. safe sex debate: kids are definitely going to do it, so we need to teach them how to be safe.

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http://jezebel.com/girl-sends-sext-gets-kicked-out-of-school-lacrosse-pl-471285308

Yeah, it's such a huge mystery why girls are punished and shamed, and boys aren't.

[ismnotwasm]

1. What crap.

Lets see, takes picture of breasts on a dare

Text or 'sexts' (dumb term) herself topless as a dare "to a good friend"

"Good friend" sends it everywhere else


This

According to Carol and Alexis, McGroarty told Alexis her behavior was "outrageous," especially because she wasn't dating either of the boys. Alexis was suspended for the day and told she would have a school counsel the next week to determine her future. While Alexis sat there being berated, she heard Jason and Peter called into the Athletic Director's office. "That's what my school does," she said. "They only care about sports."

Hmm, because her breasts weren't 'owned' by anyone but herself, she's "outrageous". Especially outrageous.


"Good friend" drops her as fast as his cowardly hands can manage, despite sharing the photo. "Wah! It's your fault!" He says, go away!!!

Chickenshit little bastard.

Lesson learned? Same shit different day. Jezebel found another Jezebel.

I wish we could invite that young woman to join the Sisterhood of perpetual outrage.

[BainsBane]

2. Someone

in your thread about the Canadian girl who committed suicide tried to claim that sl** applies equally to men and women, therefore asserting there are no differing cultural standards of sexuality. Tell that to these school officials.

[mercuryblues]

3. So the girl and her

family are shocked and upset that a religion known to be misogynistic and treat women as second class citizens, treated their daughter as a second class citizen. They got a wake up call, will they answer it?

Alexis said she found the questions complicated and was criticized for not answering them correctly, including one about "what justice" she felt the boys should receive; Alexis and her parents assumed the administration was referring to Jason and Peter's punishment, but they actually "wanted to know what I should do to make them feel better if they were distraught," Alexis said.

yes the boys were so traumatized that they were laughing.

Alexis said she's seen Jason since then, at a mutual friend's party — he avoided her and said "I don't have time for this" when she cornered him. "It sucks you got expelled," he said, "but what happened to you was your fault. you did this to yourself."

Yup, it was all her fault that she sent the picture to her close friends and they sent it to the team. Those poor boys had no control over their own actions. The school has taught them well. When they do something wrong blame someone else.

[BainsBane]

5. Why should rules be different for girls than boys?

That's what is at issue here.

[BainsBane]

7. They are sending pics of girls

Read the story.

[seabeyond]

9. rules being the rules, then whent he boys pass the pictures on they are doing exactly what you say

the girl should be punished for. they too should have their ass expelled. she should not have sent the picture. the boys should have deleted the pictures. rules being the rules. the end.

[seabeyond]

8. we had a thread on revenge ridicule. many posters, so many, blamed the girl. should not send a

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picture. wait a minute. some of the womens computer was hacked. ok, should not take a naked picture. what do you expect? this is boys we are talking.

now. why the FUCK arent men insulted by this one?

they want to own some of it. when it is to their advantage. and reject ownership of other, when not to their advantage.

lots of du men. she should not have taken the picture.

not.... piece of shit, creep boys sending the picture out.

isnt it nice to be a gender that totally gets a pass on responsibility.

[redqueen]

10. Yep, those two points have been raised over and over...

eventually enough people will notice this kind of thing, and it will become less and less common.