What would be a better protocol

[mercuryblues]

When a person has obviously had a traumatic experience in their life and say something you and many people would disagree with; would it be better to

A/ Realize that the person has been through a trauma and be compassionate towards them. In hope that the person will be able to move forward in coping with the trauma.

B/ Repeat what the person said to everyone you know and encourage them to throw stones at the person along with you.

[hlthe2b]

2. I have no clue of the context, but I can certainly understand & appreciate the OP's point. n/t

I hope whoever was targeted in this way realizes that there are supportive DUers here.

[mercuryblues]

4. I should have added

c/ If I am not sure what is going on, I would follow the old addage: I you have nothing good to say, say nothing at all.

[Little Star]

7. Bingo.

[seabeyond]

5. D) not knowing what is up, sit in silence and listen. nt

[redqueen]

6. E) Not only throw stones and encourage more to join, but also

project whatever they said onto everyone else who disagrees with me, and use it as an excuse to keep pretending that I'm not simply refusing to listen to anyone I disagree with.

[mercuryblues]

13. +1

[seabeyond]

8. i will sit with answer i gave. now that i know what you are talking about. sit quietly and listen

or reach out and hold hands.

i do not need to make a point on anothers pain.

[Sheldon Cooper]

9. Wow. I just figured out what was going on here.

I had to log out to do so, as I have the offending posters on Ignore. I am speechless at the level of callous disregard for the pain of others - it is stunning in it's cruelty. Stunning. And yet it stands. Unbelievable. What a shithole this website is. Complete and utter shit.

[BainsBane]

14. I'm not going to read it.

I can imagine it already.

[Sheldon Cooper]

15. I think you already did.

[BainsBane]

18. If some members are taunting or making fun of

A rape victim, someone should bring that to the administrators attention.

[gollygee]

10. I have no idea what this is about.

I would say there should be compassion involved.

[mercuryblues]

11. I was horrified

when I followed the links.

It was outright bullying.

[BainsBane]

12. oh, I thought you meant something someone did in this group

Which I had no awareness of. I would have said that needs to explained better so everyone understands because I would never want to engage in such behavior.

But I think I understand now what you're referring to. Some people will always bully because they enjoy it. They are cruel, even sadistic. They don't care someone might have been through trauma. If fact, they may even get a perverse pleasure from causing further emotional pain. That is who they are.

[mercuryblues]

16. I have

noticed when the bullpucky is directly mentioned, threads in here get hidden.

Besides in general terms it is alway better to listen before responding in an outlandish way.

I admit, I don't always do that. I try.

[BainsBane]

17. I understand

It took me a while to figure it out, but I understand your caution.