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pinto

(106,886 posts)
Sat Apr 13, 2013, 07:41 PM Apr 2013

Hospital protocol and same sex couples.

I got lucky in a way.

My partner was admitted via the ER with what was eventually diagnosed as cryptoccocal meningitis. He was very resistant and struggled with the med staff. They and I realized he didn't get what was happening. His struggle was general not specific.

The hospital staff actually asked for my assistance. They got it. My job was to be a familiar voice, coaxing him along the initial treatment, reassuring and steady, as best I could. I was there in the ER and ICU units.

He was admitted to a private room. Probably an isolation unit but some of the specifics I've forgotten. It had two beds. I got one.

We lived there together for a month. I had to come and go and take care of things, but we shared three meals a day. And I came back to the room at the end of the day. It was my room as well. The hospital never questioned any of it.

Nor did the floor staff, from MD's to RN's, etc.

One night, a nurse stopped in on her rounds. I was up, sitting on the side of my bed. She said, "Pinto, why don't you lie down with your partner? He and you will both get some sleep."

I've never forgotten that.

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Hospital protocol and same sex couples. (Original Post) pinto Apr 2013 OP
Nurses are generally great about things like that Warpy Apr 2013 #1
Glad to hear it worked for you. William769 Apr 2013 #2

Warpy

(111,107 posts)
1. Nurses are generally great about things like that
Sat Apr 13, 2013, 07:49 PM
Apr 2013

We know that life partners are best to calm agitated patients down, gay or straight, married or unmarried. Family members the patient hasn't seen in ten years are useless.

Even bible banger nurses have surprised me by saying someone's partner was planning to stay the night. We all got used to parking the prejudices and propaganda at the door.

Thank you for staying with your partner. I'm sure the staff greatly appreciated it, too.

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