LGBT
Related: About this forumI came out to EVERYONE
via Facebook. I don't live in the small, religious community that I once did. But I am still friends with many on Facebook, so I came out there. And do you know, I had mainly positive results. I lost one friend (who I didn't even really know). It felt good. Times are changing my friends. I always thought my mom didn't want me to come out because she teaches there, but she was just trying to protect me. I now know we were both wrong about our community and family. As much as I have doubts about people, they are generally good. Carry on, dear friends of DU, carry on.
Behind the Aegis
(53,833 posts)Welcome to the club! Your toaster is on the way!
blur256
(979 posts)And I love toast. I just bought some jelly at Trader Joe's that is delicious.
redwitch
(14,933 posts)Congratulations!
blur256
(979 posts)Smarmie Doofus
(14,498 posts)>>>> As much as I have doubts about people, they are generally good.>>>>
....seems to me what they are is generally friggin' *puzzling*,
but "I'm so happy you're happy."
K and R
blur256
(979 posts)I question my mother's I'm happy if you are happy on a daily basis. It's hard for her. But I need to be me. She's tenured. She is secure.
Summer Hathaway
(2,770 posts)the anti-LGBT people have done over the years is to cause gays/lesbians to believe that coming out will automatically lose them friends, the support of family members, the camaraderie of their coworkers, etc.
I don't know anyone who's come out who WASN'T initially astounded by the fact that the people who loved them, admired them, respected them, and treasured their friendship continued to do so without reservation or hesitation - in fact, maybe even a little more so than before.
As for the few who sever the relationship on-the-spot as a result of the truth being made clear - well, you don't really want people like that as 'friends' anyway. In fact, you don't need them anywhere near your life.
"As much as I have doubts about people, they are generally good."
Yes, they are.
blur256
(979 posts)You are correct. Thank you again. I have good people that love me. That's all that matters.
Summer Hathaway
(2,770 posts)And the love of those who love us as we are should be not only treasured, but rejoiced in.
blur256
(979 posts)family is awesome. But my partner is another.
Summer Hathaway
(2,770 posts)I hope you mean "another awesome person"! (And I assume that's what you meant.)
Finding a perfect partner is always awesome - for gays and for straights, for young and old, for anyone and everyone.
And we should all be able to rejoice in that discovery equally - wherever, whenever, and with whomever we find it.
azurnoir
(45,850 posts)and it's sad that you had to do that too, being Gay IMO doesn't change who you are, what kind of person you are, it doesn't automatically make you good or bad, it's just one aspect of who you are and IMO shouldn't really mean more than what color your eyes are , hopefully that time is coming
I feel like I am a good person. Thank you.
Fearless
(18,421 posts)Remember to always be true to yourself.
Fearless
(18,421 posts)Deep13
(39,154 posts)It could have been very different... Luckily I have surrounded myself with good people.
Zorra
(27,670 posts)Jasana
(490 posts)I'm glad you had so many positive results. Good luck!
SwissTony
(2,560 posts)No, seriously, congratulations to you. Well done for coming out. You've made it just a tad easier for someone else. I wish you and your partner every happiness in the world.
blur256
(979 posts)And honestly, that's why I did it. I know there are other people in my community like myself that are scared. I do hope it helps them.
Spitfire of ATJ
(32,723 posts)As a former Marine he didn't know how they would react and was surprised to see universal acceptance.
tblue
(16,350 posts)Congrats! You are SO not alone.
Tien1985
(920 posts)barbtries
(28,702 posts)and you got to find out immediately who wasn't your friend in the first place.
i long for the day that coming out is not fraught with trauma.
Not Me
(3,398 posts)I came out about 13 years ago after hearing Judy Shepard speak. One of the most poignant things she said is that coming out is one of the most empowering things you can do...not only for yourself, but for others. Once people know a gay person, they change their attitudes. This has clearly been my experience. Good luck to you.
Go forth and be fabulous!
William769
(55,124 posts)BeeBee
(1,074 posts)closeupready
(29,503 posts)who surprised me by not only not unfriending me, but she seemed to be totally fine with it. She even asked me if I had a significant other. That was sweet.
blur256
(979 posts)As I said before, the world is changing for the better. Whether we can see it with the media or not. I think the media is very damaging in a lot of ways. The world is not as we see it on TV. Nor as the rethuglicans would have you believe. Some of the people that have accepted me are Mormon, Assembly of God, Baptist, etc... I think people are tired of the hate.
lilithsrevenge12
(136 posts)My 22 year old friend just came out to his mother.
I know it's difficult even in an accepting community.
Proud that you were able to say it out loud
swimboy
(7,279 posts)It will be well worth it!