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blur256

(979 posts)
Thu Apr 11, 2013, 01:41 AM Apr 2013

I came out to EVERYONE

via Facebook. I don't live in the small, religious community that I once did. But I am still friends with many on Facebook, so I came out there. And do you know, I had mainly positive results. I lost one friend (who I didn't even really know). It felt good. Times are changing my friends. I always thought my mom didn't want me to come out because she teaches there, but she was just trying to protect me. I now know we were both wrong about our community and family. As much as I have doubts about people, they are generally good. Carry on, dear friends of DU, carry on.

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I came out to EVERYONE (Original Post) blur256 Apr 2013 OP
Congrats@!!! Behind the Aegis Apr 2013 #1
Thank you!! blur256 Apr 2013 #2
That is good to hear. redwitch Apr 2013 #3
Thank you!! blur256 Apr 2013 #10
I'm not so sure about this part: Smarmie Doofus Apr 2013 #4
Fair enough blur256 Apr 2013 #6
One of the most insidious things Summer Hathaway Apr 2013 #5
Thank you, blur256 Apr 2013 #7
In the end, that IS all that really matters Summer Hathaway Apr 2013 #14
So true, blur256 Apr 2013 #18
Another what? Summer Hathaway Apr 2013 #19
Good for you azurnoir Apr 2013 #8
Yep blur256 Apr 2013 #9
Congratulations! Fearless Apr 2013 #11
Thanks! blur256 Apr 2013 #13
Of course! Fearless Apr 2013 #16
Good for you. Glad it went well. nt Deep13 Apr 2013 #12
Me too! blur256 Apr 2013 #15
Congratulations! Zorra Apr 2013 #17
Congratulations! Jasana Apr 2013 #20
So, Facebook does have its uses. SwissTony Apr 2013 #21
Thank you... blur256 Apr 2013 #31
I have a friend who's partner came out at his local VFW.... Spitfire of ATJ Apr 2013 #22
That just makes me so happy. tblue Apr 2013 #23
Congrats! Tien1985 Apr 2013 #24
i'm glad it worked out well for you. barbtries Apr 2013 #25
Good for you!!!! Not Me Apr 2013 #26
Welcome to the out crowd. William769 Apr 2013 #27
Congratulations! n/t BeeBee Apr 2013 #28
I also came out to an old female classmate of mine, closeupready Apr 2013 #29
Thank you all very much blur256 Apr 2013 #30
Good for you! lilithsrevenge12 Apr 2013 #32
Congratulations! swimboy Apr 2013 #33
Hearty congrats from Arizona!! dbackjon Apr 2013 #34
Congratulations! Bertha Venation Apr 2013 #35
 

Smarmie Doofus

(14,498 posts)
4. I'm not so sure about this part:
Thu Apr 11, 2013, 02:01 AM
Apr 2013

>>>> As much as I have doubts about people, they are generally good.>>>>

....seems to me what they are is generally friggin' *puzzling*,

but "I'm so happy you're happy."


K and R

blur256

(979 posts)
6. Fair enough
Thu Apr 11, 2013, 02:13 AM
Apr 2013

I question my mother's I'm happy if you are happy on a daily basis. It's hard for her. But I need to be me. She's tenured. She is secure.

Summer Hathaway

(2,770 posts)
5. One of the most insidious things
Thu Apr 11, 2013, 02:07 AM
Apr 2013

the anti-LGBT people have done over the years is to cause gays/lesbians to believe that coming out will automatically lose them friends, the support of family members, the camaraderie of their coworkers, etc.

I don't know anyone who's come out who WASN'T initially astounded by the fact that the people who loved them, admired them, respected them, and treasured their friendship continued to do so without reservation or hesitation - in fact, maybe even a little more so than before.

As for the few who sever the relationship on-the-spot as a result of the truth being made clear - well, you don't really want people like that as 'friends' anyway. In fact, you don't need them anywhere near your life.

"As much as I have doubts about people, they are generally good."

Yes, they are.




Summer Hathaway

(2,770 posts)
14. In the end, that IS all that really matters
Thu Apr 11, 2013, 02:23 AM
Apr 2013

And the love of those who love us as we are should be not only treasured, but rejoiced in.

Summer Hathaway

(2,770 posts)
19. Another what?
Thu Apr 11, 2013, 02:47 AM
Apr 2013

I hope you mean "another awesome person"! (And I assume that's what you meant.)

Finding a perfect partner is always awesome - for gays and for straights, for young and old, for anyone and everyone.

And we should all be able to rejoice in that discovery equally - wherever, whenever, and with whomever we find it.

azurnoir

(45,850 posts)
8. Good for you
Thu Apr 11, 2013, 02:18 AM
Apr 2013

and it's sad that you had to do that too, being Gay IMO doesn't change who you are, what kind of person you are, it doesn't automatically make you good or bad, it's just one aspect of who you are and IMO shouldn't really mean more than what color your eyes are , hopefully that time is coming

SwissTony

(2,560 posts)
21. So, Facebook does have its uses.
Thu Apr 11, 2013, 03:04 AM
Apr 2013

No, seriously, congratulations to you. Well done for coming out. You've made it just a tad easier for someone else. I wish you and your partner every happiness in the world.

blur256

(979 posts)
31. Thank you...
Thu Apr 11, 2013, 11:16 AM
Apr 2013

And honestly, that's why I did it. I know there are other people in my community like myself that are scared. I do hope it helps them.

 

Spitfire of ATJ

(32,723 posts)
22. I have a friend who's partner came out at his local VFW....
Thu Apr 11, 2013, 03:05 AM
Apr 2013

As a former Marine he didn't know how they would react and was surprised to see universal acceptance.

barbtries

(28,702 posts)
25. i'm glad it worked out well for you.
Thu Apr 11, 2013, 06:28 AM
Apr 2013

and you got to find out immediately who wasn't your friend in the first place.

i long for the day that coming out is not fraught with trauma.

Not Me

(3,398 posts)
26. Good for you!!!!
Thu Apr 11, 2013, 08:24 AM
Apr 2013

I came out about 13 years ago after hearing Judy Shepard speak. One of the most poignant things she said is that coming out is one of the most empowering things you can do...not only for yourself, but for others. Once people know a gay person, they change their attitudes. This has clearly been my experience. Good luck to you.

Go forth and be fabulous!

 

closeupready

(29,503 posts)
29. I also came out to an old female classmate of mine,
Thu Apr 11, 2013, 11:08 AM
Apr 2013

who surprised me by not only not unfriending me, but she seemed to be totally fine with it. She even asked me if I had a significant other. That was sweet.

blur256

(979 posts)
30. Thank you all very much
Thu Apr 11, 2013, 11:15 AM
Apr 2013

As I said before, the world is changing for the better. Whether we can see it with the media or not. I think the media is very damaging in a lot of ways. The world is not as we see it on TV. Nor as the rethuglicans would have you believe. Some of the people that have accepted me are Mormon, Assembly of God, Baptist, etc... I think people are tired of the hate.

lilithsrevenge12

(136 posts)
32. Good for you!
Thu Apr 11, 2013, 11:45 AM
Apr 2013

My 22 year old friend just came out to his mother.
I know it's difficult even in an accepting community.
Proud that you were able to say it out loud

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