My Mom is dying. She has been under Hospice Care.
Last 2 days she's been comatose and won't eat. Nurse thinks she had stroke.
I've had complicated relationship throughout the years. Wonderful Mom when I was little, terrible during teenage years. In my 20's I avoided her. Through the years we sorta healed but she developed Alzheimers and became crazy. Moved in with her in 2010 to take care of her after Dad died. Recently broke hip and became bed-ridden for last 2 months. I'm relieved her suffering is almost over and not really grieving.
Sorry she didn't get to enjoy the wonderful Spring.
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My mom got hit by an automatic door (at the town senior center, of all places) knocked over, broke her hip the day before she turned ninety. Spent 5 years in a diminishing way, had been active until this happened. She told me, after she had a couple of seizures due to low blood sodium, that she wished a seizure would send her to the great beyond as one had done to a friend of hers.
Do you have any siblings or other close relatives?
You have a big heart, I can tell.
Alzheimer's has affected my family, too, and it's tough. I was relieved when my Mom passed...it was a blessing.
I lost my Mom last May - went through the home hospice, and the whole non-eating, meds etc...My thoughts are with you.
Peace to you and your family. May her passage be serene.
and hoping your mother's passage is peaceful and painless.
Is there any chance you could get a daffodil flower and hold it close to her face to smell the fragrance? It's possible her sense of smell still works, and it would let her experience a bit of Spring
Relationships with moms can be so complicated. When I lost my mom it was a relief and release, but it was still a loss.
- hug her a lot. hold her hand. spend quiet time with her. kiss her cheek. you will not regret it.
It has been one stunner of a Spring.
