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How long should you wait before you say you are in love with someone? (Original Post) Gravitycollapse Apr 2013 OP
Until you are in love with that person. Aristus Apr 2013 #1
What if it's only been a few weeks. Gravitycollapse Apr 2013 #2
Don't wait! In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #3
If you have to ask . . . Moondog Apr 2013 #4
Excellent! In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #16
That's a nice turn around, but terrible advice. Bucky Apr 2013 #22
Say it when you want discntnt_irny_srcsm Apr 2013 #5
3 - 5 seconds Tribalceltic Apr 2013 #6
. pintobean Apr 2013 #7
Is he saying "foy fer"? Bucky Apr 2013 #21
nice fizzgig Apr 2013 #25
I'm in love with you now kudzu22 Apr 2013 #8
Wait 'til you're in love with them. Iggo Apr 2013 #9
12 Parsecs dr.strangelove Apr 2013 #10
Agh parsec is a measure of distance! Gravitycollapse Apr 2013 #11
Sure it is dr.strangelove Apr 2013 #12
Don't wait ever . olddots Apr 2013 #13
Right before the judge signs the restraining order? NightWatcher Apr 2013 #14
I love you Ahpook Apr 2013 #15
25th anniversary rurallib Apr 2013 #17
Say it after the other person says it. Honeycombe8 Apr 2013 #18
I'm 23. Gravitycollapse Apr 2013 #19
After they see it's you lurking in the bushes, but before they shoot the mace in your eyes. Bucky Apr 2013 #20
Priceless.. agracie Apr 2013 #24
I dunno...I've never said it and meant it. Chan790 Apr 2013 #23
Only until you are. No longer. talkingmime Apr 2013 #26

Gravitycollapse

(8,155 posts)
2. What if it's only been a few weeks.
Wed Apr 3, 2013, 05:13 PM
Apr 2013

Seriously, I'm scared to say it because I don't want to sound like a crazy person. But she drives me crazy.

Bucky

(53,795 posts)
22. That's a nice turn around, but terrible advice.
Thu Apr 4, 2013, 12:13 AM
Apr 2013

Unless you know exactly where someone falls on an impulsiveness-versus-risk aversion scale, and perhaps have a good understanding of the particulars of the budding relationship in question, that kind of "one size fits all" advice can either reinforce self defeating behaviors or lead to some sort of tragic old western saloon style shoot out, with smashed tables and beer bottles strewn all about the floor and the piano player being rushed to the hospital.

For Gods' sakes, man, be careful.

dr.strangelove

(4,851 posts)
12. Sure it is
Wed Apr 3, 2013, 06:31 PM
Apr 2013

While we geeks have monday morning QB'd this to justify Han's statement by claiming he meant he shaved distance off the Kessell Run by flying impossibly close to a black hole, it also clear that when the line was uttered, it was either 1) nonsense by Han trying to brag and he figured two bumpkins would not know what a parsec was, or 2) Lucas messed up and had Han refer to a unit of distance instead of time. I think its the later and Lucas just made a huge mistake. But I still think its funny to use "under 12 Parsecs" as a unit of time.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
18. Say it after the other person says it.
Thu Apr 4, 2013, 12:01 AM
Apr 2013

I know it sounds romantic to spurt it outright right away. But human nature being what it is, it can sometimes scare a person. "I love you" is pretty heavy duty.

S/he knows you have strong feelings for her, and I guess you can tell how s/he feels about you.

No harm done to wait a bit and see if the other person says it first. It won't scare YOU, since you are in fact in love.

None of the above applies if you're over 50, which I assume you're not, or you would know by now. When you're over 50, you're beyond games, and time's a wastin'. You need to know the score.

None of the above applies if you're in your teens.

And remember....it's just words. By the time you say it, the other person will already know it. You say it with your behavior.

Bucky

(53,795 posts)
20. After they see it's you lurking in the bushes, but before they shoot the mace in your eyes.
Thu Apr 4, 2013, 12:05 AM
Apr 2013

Timing is everything.

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