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Why do you care if someone has you on ignore? (Original Post) Llewlladdwr Mar 2013 OP
Basic human instinct...for the most part, we like to be liked, and, especially NRaleighLiberal Mar 2013 #1
Interesting... Llewlladdwr Mar 2013 #3
You are correct about that! And the anonymity of the internet makes it all the easier! NRaleighLiberal Mar 2013 #6
It's their loss. liberal N proud Mar 2013 #2
That's the truth. Llewlladdwr Mar 2013 #4
I ignored my first person today... Agschmid Mar 2013 #13
I care because of why they ignore me. CaliforniaPeggy Mar 2013 #5
If you weren't such a hell raiser that probably wouldn't happen Major Nikon Mar 2013 #9
Something I'll never pipi_k Apr 2013 #16
I don't care so much as I find it interesting. rrneck Mar 2013 #7
I ignore my ignore list Major Nikon Mar 2013 #8
Thread win. Agschmid Mar 2013 #14
Agreed. nt Llewlladdwr Mar 2013 #15
Quite honestly... pipi_k Apr 2013 #17
I think knowing who has someone on ignore would be a very bad thing. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #10
What other people think of me is none of my business. n/t Lil Missy Mar 2013 #11
Absolutely correct. 840high Mar 2013 #12
I disagree - that's why I do not use the ignore button. ConcernedCanuk Apr 2013 #20
There is a certain satisfaction derived Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #18
I don't! - and I do not use the ignore button ConcernedCanuk Apr 2013 #19
The first one bothered me a little, polly7 Apr 2013 #21
I don't. talkingmime Apr 2013 #22

NRaleighLiberal

(59,940 posts)
1. Basic human instinct...for the most part, we like to be liked, and, especially
Sun Mar 31, 2013, 10:49 PM
Mar 2013

if we don't go looking for it, it can be quite surprising to find yourself ignored, I suppose.

Llewlladdwr

(2,165 posts)
3. Interesting...
Sun Mar 31, 2013, 10:57 PM
Mar 2013

It might be my age (50+) but I don't find it particularly surprising that I sometimes irritate people. I've found that almost anything you do or say , no matter how innocuous, will irk someone.

liberal N proud

(60,300 posts)
2. It's their loss.
Sun Mar 31, 2013, 10:51 PM
Mar 2013

I am not hurt by it.

Don't like to piss anyone off to that point. Sometimes it doesn't take much though.

Agschmid

(28,749 posts)
13. I ignored my first person today...
Sun Mar 31, 2013, 11:33 PM
Mar 2013

It was just a conversation that was going to go nowhere, I plan on un-ignoring them in a week but for now... I'm good.

Sometimes the naivety burns.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,297 posts)
5. I care because of why they ignore me.
Sun Mar 31, 2013, 11:05 PM
Mar 2013

They just plain do not like me, and that bothers me.

It's personal.

I wouldn't care if it were over political things, but it's not.

pipi_k

(21,020 posts)
16. Something I'll never
Mon Apr 1, 2013, 10:07 AM
Apr 2013

be able to figure out...how people can like or dislike someone they only "know" from limited interaction on a discussion board. I mean, it's not like these people know the whole person or anything.

If they ever met you in RL without knowing who you were, they might actually like you.

Some years ago I was posting on a discussion board for people with certain disorders. Anybody who thinks this place is crazy would think it's pretty normal compared to the other place, but anyway...

One of my friends decided to do a little experiment. She and another person with a strong personality didn't get along, so my friend created an alter ego and interacted with the other person in a totally different way. The other person "liked" this new alter ego and they got on well until the truth came to light, and then the other person was all whooping and hollering and feeling betrayed because the other person "made" her like someone she actually hated (the person behind the alter ego).

Which goes to show, I guess, that it's not really ourselves people dislike (on a discussion board, anyway), but what we say or how we say it, or how what we say is perceived by others.

But in the end, it still hurts...




rrneck

(17,671 posts)
7. I don't care so much as I find it interesting.
Sun Mar 31, 2013, 11:13 PM
Mar 2013

I almost never set out to annoy people. Really. But there are about twenty or so people who don't want to know I exist here. It is fascinating to wonder what I could have possibly have said that would make them want to metaphorically blink someone out of existence.

pipi_k

(21,020 posts)
17. Quite honestly...
Mon Apr 1, 2013, 10:08 AM
Apr 2013

I do too.

Ignore my own ignore list, I mean.

I just don't want/need to know things like that

 

ConcernedCanuk

(13,509 posts)
20. I disagree - that's why I do not use the ignore button.
Mon Apr 1, 2013, 11:05 AM
Apr 2013

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.
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If someone wants to bad-mouth me, Id prefer to know.

I just don't respond in kind.

It's good to know who is bad-mouthing me I think, -

then I know not to respond to the threads they participate in even if it interests me.

There are those that hide and do not post, just using the PM system to back-stab you.

I been here ten years, and yeah, pissed a few off - can't be here that long and not rub someone the wrong way

200 thousand plus members here - I don't expect all of them to agree with me or like me.

Expectations otherwise would be plain foolish.

CC

Sekhmets Daughter

(7,515 posts)
18. There is a certain satisfaction derived
Mon Apr 1, 2013, 10:36 AM
Apr 2013

from knowing you are being 'ignored' by people you, yourself, consider to be assholes. As in "Good, I won't have to deal with that twit ever again" Particularly, I think, for those of us who have no one, or very few on our own ignore list.

 

ConcernedCanuk

(13,509 posts)
19. I don't! - and I do not use the ignore button
Mon Apr 1, 2013, 10:54 AM
Apr 2013

.
.
.

I can read insulting inflammatory posts and ignore it without a button.

One of the benefits of getting older -

many of us don't give a shit what some think about us!

I'm one of them.

CC







polly7

(20,582 posts)
21. The first one bothered me a little,
Mon Apr 1, 2013, 11:38 AM
Apr 2013

I was sad to know I'd offended someone that much.

Now, I don't care at all. And knowing some of those who've got me on theirs ... it's almost a badge of honour.

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