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Jamastiene

(38,187 posts)
Sun Apr 21, 2013, 03:43 PM Apr 2013

Boston Bombing Suspects' uncle tells of familial break



This is an interview with the uncle of the Boston Marathon bombing suspects. It is about 27 minutes long.

It is from CNN, but most of the talking is done by the uncle. So, it is interesting to watch.
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Boston Bombing Suspects' uncle tells of familial break (Original Post) Jamastiene Apr 2013 OP
Good interview. I question why as uncle LukeFL Apr 2013 #1
At least, distance, elleng Apr 2013 #2
i have a brother i love dearly, that has fucked up all his life and fucked up the kids life. seabeyond Apr 2013 #4
I have a brother I haven't seen in nearly 20 years.... DonViejo Apr 2013 #10
exactly. two of the kids get it. one does not. but, ya. that is what they were raised with also. nt seabeyond Apr 2013 #14
a lot of families are disfunctional, this is not a surprise. still_one Apr 2013 #6
You can't help people who don't want help ... Wernothelpless Apr 2013 #25
i think this man is so sincere, and such a good man. thank you for putting this up so i could hear seabeyond Apr 2013 #3
I feel exactly the same way xiamiam Apr 2013 #17
Heart wrenching....and totally honest. zeemike Apr 2013 #5
Yes, I think there's something there CJCRANE Apr 2013 #21
I don't think this uncle could be any more sincere than he has been throughout. Frustratedlady Apr 2013 #7
I find the uncle quite compelling. hlthe2b Apr 2013 #8
Thank you for finding this and sharing it with us... DonViejo Apr 2013 #9
noooo, no no. i do not think he thinks much of her. for sure. but then, seabeyond Apr 2013 #15
Me either!!! nt DonViejo Apr 2013 #16
Good interview. Worth listening to. Baitball Blogger Apr 2013 #11
Very difficult interview to watch. Triana Apr 2013 #12
He seems like a good man. Control-Z Apr 2013 #13
i wish i could rec this a thousand times..nt xiamiam Apr 2013 #18
Thanks for posting this! GitRDun Apr 2013 #19
Sincere, moving and in the end, I believe healing for Americans, better than hateful voices. freshwest Apr 2013 #20
Incredibly powerful interview. Got me to thinking. Raine1967 Apr 2013 #22
i agree. from the very beginning, this is what i felt also. seabeyond Apr 2013 #24
Poor guy. He appears to be the only sane member of the family. nt SunSeeker Apr 2013 #23
Kicking this important interview. anAustralianobserver Apr 2013 #26
Wow, such a powerful interview... dkf Apr 2013 #27

LukeFL

(594 posts)
1. Good interview. I question why as uncle
Sun Apr 21, 2013, 04:14 PM
Apr 2013

He was not more involve in those kids lives. Apparently he had not seen them since 2009. What kind of family do that?
He remembers the oldest's happy youth- why didn't he do more for them?

elleng

(130,126 posts)
2. At least, distance,
Sun Apr 21, 2013, 04:17 PM
Apr 2013

between Boston area and DC area, and family relationships. Not clear about interviewee's relationship with his own brother and sister-in-law.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
4. i have a brother i love dearly, that has fucked up all his life and fucked up the kids life.
Sun Apr 21, 2013, 04:26 PM
Apr 2013

the kids are now 18, 20 and 24. i have always been there for them. and i wont take their shit. they know it. they come to me sincerely, nad i am there. they play their manipulative games that their father taught them, they go.

i am also respected and listened to by these kids.

two of them now use me as their base. but, they had to get to a point in their lives where this is what THEY wanted. i could not do it for them.

the other is still out there fucking up. i cant make him do right. but, i am here for him when he is ready.

that is the best we can do....

as far as i know. others may be better. i am not that good. just this.

DonViejo

(60,536 posts)
10. I have a brother I haven't seen in nearly 20 years....
Sun Apr 21, 2013, 04:53 PM
Apr 2013

and had not spoken with until last Fall when he required open heart surgery. He had to be detoxed before the surgery could be performed. During this time period I spoke with his daughter, my niece, who has received a degree in psychology. In one of our phone conversations she said, "I was raised by a drunken father and a drug addicted mother, I had to pull myself up or become just like them." She's accomplished that goal.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
14. exactly. two of the kids get it. one does not. but, ya. that is what they were raised with also. nt
Sun Apr 21, 2013, 05:16 PM
Apr 2013

Wernothelpless

(410 posts)
25. You can't help people who don't want help ...
Sun Apr 21, 2013, 08:45 PM
Apr 2013

This man chose to protect his own children from his nephews ..... you can see he's torn now, but he knows as a father it is what he had to do ....

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
3. i think this man is so sincere, and such a good man. thank you for putting this up so i could hear
Sun Apr 21, 2013, 04:23 PM
Apr 2013

it all.

i really like this man. liked him from day one. integrity. it means something.

from all i read, i see it exactly as he says it.

now... shame on cnn. not giving this man a kleenex immediately. that drove me mad. i wanted to hand him a kleenex.

xiamiam

(4,906 posts)
17. I feel exactly the same way
Sun Apr 21, 2013, 05:55 PM
Apr 2013

he brings authentic thoughtful human to the situation re his nephews. I'm glad he's done these interviews including his anger the other day. He is powerful in a very good way. Maybe its the honesty and compassion and sorrow and understanding combined. I don't know but I think he is right when he says that Tamerlan was influenced right there in Cambridge in 2009.
Thanks for posting this.

zeemike

(18,998 posts)
5. Heart wrenching....and totally honest.
Sun Apr 21, 2013, 04:31 PM
Apr 2013

This is more relevant than all the TV shows on the air...and more revealing as to the motive...
The one person I would like to talk to is that "new convert to Islam" he talked about.

CJCRANE

(18,184 posts)
21. Yes, I think there's something there
Sun Apr 21, 2013, 06:35 PM
Apr 2013

some kind of ideology or concept or preaching technique that changed the older brother.

Frustratedlady

(16,254 posts)
7. I don't think this uncle could be any more sincere than he has been throughout.
Sun Apr 21, 2013, 04:42 PM
Apr 2013

It has to be defeating to see what you think might be going on with the nephews being led astray, but not to be able to do anything about it. I think we have all had some member of the family or extended family head down the wrong path and wish we could turn them into a detour to the right road, so it doesn't take much to understand what he is saying.

Listen to the entire interview. He is a broken man, but still willing to do what he can to convince his nephew to tell everything and to make amends to those who lost so much.

DonViejo

(60,536 posts)
9. Thank you for finding this and sharing it with us...
Sun Apr 21, 2013, 04:46 PM
Apr 2013

While the Uncle has made his feelings clear about the older brother, I have a feeling he doesn't have much regard/respect for his SIL, the mother of the boys

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
15. noooo, no no. i do not think he thinks much of her. for sure. but then,
Sun Apr 21, 2013, 05:19 PM
Apr 2013

what i have read separately about her, i do not either.

 

Triana

(22,666 posts)
12. Very difficult interview to watch.
Sun Apr 21, 2013, 04:58 PM
Apr 2013

The man is clearly sincere and clearly very upset about what has happened with his nephews. I don't think there was any more he could do. You cannot raise your brother's children for him or guide or babysit them when they are in another state or town -- and when they are by all rights grown men.

And yes, why didn't the CNN schmucks give him a tissue or something.

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
20. Sincere, moving and in the end, I believe healing for Americans, better than hateful voices.
Sun Apr 21, 2013, 06:22 PM
Apr 2013

Thanks for posting this.

Raine1967

(11,589 posts)
22. Incredibly powerful interview. Got me to thinking.
Sun Apr 21, 2013, 07:06 PM
Apr 2013

The family broke --

I know that there appears to be an element of radical religiousity here, but I am starting to believe that this might be a case of the Older brother not meeting the standards expected of him -- watching his brother do well -- and then being let to care for him after the parents fled--

The older brother, by almost every account sounds like he has been pretty angst ridden for years -- listen to the part where the Uncle talks about his wanting to go to harvard. He never got the scholarship for boxing. His brother got one for wrestling.

Then his parents leave the USA and tell him to watch out for the younger brother. All this happens after both Uncles appear to have stopped communication with this part of the family.

I think this is more about a depraved man who may have some serious failures in life than religious extremism. He himself said -- in a photo essay about his dreams to be a boxer -- that he had 'no friends' in America -- this was a year an a half after the person he called his best friend was killed in nearby Waltham. He didn't have friends because by every account I've read, he wasn't friendly.

This Uncle is talking about serious family fissures -- He knows more, and seeing him as a prideful man, he is only saying what he can. He reminds me of some members of my family.

I wonder if the younger brother even knew what he was involved in. This kid -- this 19 year old wasn't hiding in a boat in order to die for a cause. He was hiding. It was his brother that went out like James Cagney in White Heat. No one ever called him a martyr.

-- and yes, I just wonder.

There is a part of me that thinks we might see that this case is more like what happened in DC with the sniper -- or maybe columbine -- than anything terrorist related.



 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
24. i agree. from the very beginning, this is what i felt also.
Sun Apr 21, 2013, 08:26 PM
Apr 2013

at 26 not having accomplished what he felt he deserved and turning to extremism to justify his failings.

 

dkf

(37,305 posts)
27. Wow, such a powerful interview...
Mon Apr 22, 2013, 04:03 AM
Apr 2013

It is so sad that Tamerlan didn't listen to his uncle's advice and did not realize how wise he is. What a waste.




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