They finally put in my father's tombstone...they spelled his name wrong....

[joeybee12]

Kind of awful and kind of funny...needless to say, they WILL change it.

[Wait Wut]

1. Oh, man.

No, it's just awful. They did that to a friend of mine's dad...twice. He had a very long, difficult to spell Serbian name. They spelled his first and last name wrong on the first one, the last name on the second. She was just a kid (13) and it just devastated her.

I'm sorry you have to go through it all again.

[joeybee12]

3. They got his name wrong...Ben...called him Bud...

Can't get more simple than that!

Thanks.

[dembotoz]

2. measure twice cut once??? proofreading is a dying art

[joeybee12]

12. Yeah, and it was such a simple mistake, too...nt

[enlightenment]

4. If your dad would have laughed then so should you.

The alternative is to cry - and we do enough of that already.

And yes, they need to fix it!

[joeybee12]

16. I think he would have...

If they had done that to my Mom's, though, he would have been very upset...she went before him, and everything was ok with hers.

[enlightenment]

21. My dad would have reacted the same way.

Losing mom is what finally ended him - but he considered his own mortality with a much more sanguine attitude than he did mom's.

Hang in there. It sucks, but it does eventually scab over, at least.

[vankuria]

5. I'm sorry Joeybee

My Mom's birthdate was screwed up on hers and I was devastated. We were having an "unveiling" (Jewish tradition when the stone is placed) and when the cloth came off the stone and I saw it I wanted to cry. It was the weekend so there wasn't anything I could do but Monday morning when I called the place that made it they were very apologetic and promised it would be fixed asap. They kept their promise and 3 days later they made it right. I hope you're able to get it fixed as fast as I did, good luck!

[joeybee12]

7. Thanks, but I doubt they will...he was in the Navy and the govt is paying...

So, I think the red tape will be incredible!

[Purveyor]

6. That happened to a uncle of mine. Common mistake and I wish I had a dollar for everytime our

last name was misspelled as there are several common variations. Ours in not the 'common one'.

Yes, they too fixed it.

[joeybee12]

13. See, my last name is awful, too, but they got that right...it

was his first name...his name is Albert, but my Lithuianian grandmother thought she had named him Albenus, so he went by Ben, and on the tombstone it's Bud.

[Raine]

8. My aunt discovered they had buried my uncle in the wrong grave, she had to

have him reburied.

[joeybee12]

15. Yikes!

Mine is something to sort of laugh over, that situation certainly wouldn't be!

[Boomerproud]

20. My paternal great-grandparents had to be re-interred because the brother of their SIL was a jerk

and evidently had bought the plot before they were buried in it. Instead of just selling the plot and buying another one he insisted they be moved. Well, Great-Grandpa went unmolested, but Great-Grandma's casket splintered open and she fell out right in front of her daughter. One of those stories you don't hear every day...I hope she's literally resting in peace now.

[alcibiades_mystery]

9. Sue they ass!

Thoughts with your pop.

[joeybee12]

14. Thanks...

I wonder how much I could collect?

[Tippy]

10. When my mom passed

the funeral home put my sisters name on the casket instead of Moms...

[joeybee12]

11. Yikes!

That must have been awful, especially since your grief was very new at that point.

[Tippy]

23. Wrose part was the Funeral home wanted money to fix their mess

[joeybee12]

26. That doesn't surprise me...

Most companies try to see what they can get away with

[NoPasaran]

17. I'm very sorry to hear that

When my father passed a few years ago, the VA screwed up his tombstone. We eventually had to get Senator Lieberman's office involved to get things corrected. I know that Joe Lieberman is not very popular on this website (nor with my family; both my parents had voted for Ned Lamont) but I will always be grateful for his help in getting things fixed. I hope all works out well for your family.

[joeybee12]

29. Sometimes Holy Joe comes through...glad he did for you...nt

[nadinbrzezinski]

18. A little sense of humor

Helps.

With dad it was the temporary one...the dates were wrong, as well as his last name.

[Initech]

19. Why does this remind me of Curb Your Enthusiasm?

[pipi_k]

22. I'm glad

you are able to have a sense of humor about this...reading the whole thread I discovered how they managed to get his last name correct (even with difficult spelling) but screwed up on something very simple.

If your dad would laugh, then so can I.


Something similar happened when my dad died. Mr Pipi called a florist to have flowers sent in our names to the funeral home, which was in Agawam, MA.

We're not talking about a town that's in another state or anything, and the florist was local, so you'd think they would know...

anyway, the driver had to call and ask where "Waggapuff", MA was.

OK, that would have made my dad laugh...

[Iggo]

24. They're gonna get my dad's name wrong, too.

It's a common enough last name with one letter difference.

People are always trying to help us by correcting our spelling.

We've gotten used to it.

And you're exactly right: it's kinda awful and kinda funny.

[joeybee12]

25. Thing is the got last name wrong, and that was the hard part...

Instead of Ben they put Bud...so far off it is amusing.

[Iggo]

28. Ha!

[Eleanors38]

27. Pretty rotten. When our family submitted my Dad's obit...

They printed the entire thing in lower case. He accomplished many things, but being e.e. cummings was not one of them.

[Shrike47]

30. We had a case in Oregon where a bunch of remains turned up in a mortician's garage.

He hadn't gotten around to dealing with them... Horrible shock for families.

[DainBramaged]

31. It's hard to say sorry for stupidity

but I'm sorry anyway.

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