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I have a two-week-old baby laying in the arms of my wife here at home. I live three miles away from where this happened. I am staying put...but I want to go down there WITH EVERY FIBER OF MY BEING. I used to live a few blocks away from where the bombs went off. I have dozens of friends down there, either running or spectating or working.
This is my city. I want to go there to help, to find friends, to defy whoever did this, because fuck this shit, that's why. Fuck this shit.
But I'm staying put. God damn it to Hell, I'm staying put.
My daughter now lives in a world where her home town was bombed on Marathon Day, the best day of the year here.
dorkzilla
(5,141 posts)As a New Yorker with my ancestral roots in Boston, I totally hear you. Glad your wife and little one are safe and sound.
BeyondGeography
(39,370 posts)My heart goes out to you and to all good Bostonians.
Jersey Devil
(9,874 posts)My son's words exactly when 9/11 occurred in "my city".
femmocrat
(28,394 posts)Many of us have deep ties to Boston and are distraught right now.
Hold on tight to that beautiful baby and be grateful that she has no idea of what is going on outside.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)We're there with you in spirit.
Tien1985
(920 posts)Other people are down there helping. Stay where you need to be.
trof
(54,256 posts)We lived 45 minutes away in southern NH for 16 years.
Loved going into the city.
Miz t. knew the place like the back of her hand.
She coulda' been a cab driver.
My daughter and family now live 15 minutes away.
Stay safe, bud.
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City Lights
(25,171 posts)Wait Wut
(8,492 posts)Stay home with your daughter. Speak softly to her and tell her about the beauty of the world. It still exists. It exists in her two beautiful parents, in the compassion of those that can offer help, in the tears of strangers.
Her hometown has all those things.
redwitch
(14,944 posts)I love Boston, spent lots of time there in recent years when son #1 was at college. I know that area very well. All of our young friends have been safely accounted for so I breathe a sigh of relief.
But I remember being in NYC shortly after 9/11 and my friend Marty saying to me "This is my hometown. To the world it happened to NYC but to me, it happened to my home town. I looked out my living room window and saw the second plane hit the towers. My hometown".
My prayers and loving thoughts to everyone that their hometown stays safe. This shouldn't happen anywhere.
Kiss your little Lola Jane and work for justice and peace.
Skidmore
(37,364 posts)the Roxbury area. We are waiting to hear that all are accounted for since it is also a workday. Our thoughts are with them and you, Will.
YankeyMCC
(8,401 posts)your child's world now contains...belongs to me too, and to us all.
I'm thankful for among the "all" there are many more offering help and support than planting bombs.
DinahMoeHum
(21,784 posts)Because whoever did this doesn't want you or your fellow Bostonians to.
Baitball Blogger
(46,702 posts)Callmecrazy
(3,065 posts)OKNancy
(41,832 posts)It shakes you to the core. My other sister lost her Manhattan studio on Sept. 11th. ( destroyed and couldn't be re-occupied)
I sometimes think I'm safe here in Tulsa... but it makes one wonder.
Bernardo de La Paz
(49,000 posts)Fla Dem
(23,655 posts)The finish line used to be at the Pru Center and we (Pru Employees) would work the race. Know the area intimately and I'm very sadden for this to happen in my home town and the people there. My heart goes out to them all.
NutmegYankee
(16,199 posts)They have been concerned all day as they can't get hold of them because of the cell network overload.
WilliamPitt
(58,179 posts)to prevent phones from triggering other devices.
NutmegYankee
(16,199 posts)Does that cutoff 911 service to those who don't have landlines?
WilliamPitt
(58,179 posts)Generic Other
(28,979 posts)My father's city.
nadinbrzezinski
(154,021 posts)I went, I had no children. Stay put...
Cleita
(75,480 posts)our country.
AsahinaKimi
(20,776 posts)hang in there Will!
myrna minx
(22,772 posts)Mopar151
(9,982 posts)Mrs. Mopar has verified the well-being of our family runner, who finished noonish - and His Mom and Dad, who were there to pick him up. Dad wants to bomb somebody ("islam"?), but he's lacking a clue on his good days.
Auntie Bush
(17,528 posts)to keep you home...You and your wife would probably have been near that finish line.
It pains me to think about it. Take care!
NotThisTime
(3,657 posts)From what we know our friends are okay, however we are not sure how many of our friends were there total. Very sad day for our city. I left and am in the process of coming back. Boston is the best city in the country, it's my home.
suffragette
(12,232 posts)warrprayer
(4,734 posts)Divernan
(15,480 posts)I was relieved that my nephew & his family who live in Boston, and my brother & sister-in-law who were visiting them were not near the finish line area.
hopemountain
(3,919 posts)while holding your baby. i'm sorry for your anguish.
ljm2002
(10,751 posts)...I was thinking of you while watching the live coverage.
It must be awful for you. But you know going down there won't help anyone right now.
Keeping Boston and everyone affected in my thoughts and prayers tonight.
geckosfeet
(9,644 posts)underpants
(182,788 posts)nolabear
(41,960 posts)Or else they win. Make her wonderful, as best you can and then love her fiercely for whomever she becomes. Try not to let this overcome the joy of how wonderful and miraculous a thing this parenthood is.
Phentex
(16,334 posts)You said this so well.
Dorian Gray
(13,493 posts)My daughter wasn't yet born, but I could imagine that it would magnify the feelings immensely. I watched it all go down around me, but my husband and I just needed to be with each other. The feelings of helplessness, desire to get out there and help, etc. all overwhelmed us. But your baby and your wife need you. You are doing the most to help the two closest to you in life right now. Be strong for them. And I hope your wife gives you strength. I'm heartbroken that this happened in Boston. (I went to BC, and I love that city so damn much!)
nahant
(93 posts)so I truly know your pain William.. I have a huge family there.. I was a regular at the Copley Sq Library during my high school years... But St Paddys is the best day of the year..
defacto7
(13,485 posts)I know you want to protect all the babies and people. The rage is understandable. Only love your own for now.
Sissyk
(12,665 posts)Please hug your wonderful wife and beautiful daughter close and stay home!
Blue_Roses
(12,894 posts)I know there are a flood of emotions going through your mind right now, but you are in the right place. You're a father now and your wife and daughter need you, but I can definitely relate to you feelings.My daughter was born two weeks AFTER Columbine--in fact, I had a doctor's appointment that day. I remember telling my doctor about my fear of bringing a child into the world and how I wish I could protect this child forever. Almost fourteen years later, as she sits and watches the coverage of this horrific tragedy,I find myself thinking those same thoughts again.
Take care and know you're not alone. Many thoughts and prayers...
vanlassie
(5,670 posts)have sweet moms and dads meeting their needs at a young age. Of this I will swear. You do more than you know to make the world a kinder and gentler place when you lovingly care for your young, especially in the early years. Be well.
Jennicut
(25,415 posts)I am still trying to wrap my head around a mass shooting in my state of Connecticut that happened 4 towns away from where I live. I have two girls as well, 7 and 8. It's understandably shocking to see any kind of mass violence closeby to where you live. I am sort of in shock months later. From a fellow New Englander, hang in there. My first memory of Boston was a school field trip when I was a kid in the late 80's. It has always been a great city.
Phentex
(16,334 posts)please keep us posted.
Liberalynn
(7,549 posts)Hopefully they will catch whoever is responsible and bring he/she/they to justice.
2naSalit
(86,577 posts)I saw the news on my work computer, I was born about three Kilometers from the scene of interest and have always had sense of "home" about Boston, spent my first two decades in coastal NE between southern ME and Cape Cod. I, too, am dealing with mixed feelings about this, none of them positive.
My thoughts and prayers for all of you there, but glad you have the self control to stay with your family in a safe location (I hope)...
I may be 2800 miles away but it's a "home" place for me and I am deeply troubled by this series of events. I hope the culprit(s) is/are found soon.
secondwind
(16,903 posts)the Back Bay and I think South Station are both closed now...
mountain grammy
(26,619 posts)We live in a world where bad people do bad things, as it's been since the beginning. We go on and try our best to protect our rights to live our lives and teach our children to not be afraid. Living in fear isn't living.
Terra Alta
(5,158 posts)Prayers for you, your newborn daughter and all Bostonians right now.
October
(3,363 posts)I understand, completely.
RyanThomas
(23 posts)Whoever the attackers were, and whenever or however they are caught and brought to justice, we will never bring back those lost today nor erase the scars of terror and horror from those injured. Nor the legacy of pain and suffering that will stain this day for the people of your great city for years to come, a lingering remnant of suffering and evil perpetrated on the innocent.
Marrah_G
(28,581 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)It's my city now too. I am in tears over this tragedy today. Peace and love to you and your family.
shireen
(8,333 posts)Phlem
(6,323 posts)You are now in the group that have dependents. You hurt for your city and your friends but you also know your new, perfect, daughter now impacts your actions.
A daughter needs her dad period end of story.
You feel a new different pain that is agonizing and tormenting and that is a revelation that pulls you ever deeper into life and it's meaning.
Hang in there bud, keep your family safe, go out of town and stay at a relatives and give yourself some respite.
This is just the beginning, you might yourself making even more different choices as the new life you have plays out.
Your going to do just fine.
-p
raptor_rider
(1,014 posts)Daughter and your wife. They are you new family now. I ne'er stand how this is! Believe me, I know. You are in the best p,ace for your family. If you ave a basement, I'd suggest to set up camp there for a few days. Just have supplements for everyone. I'm so sorry this is happening!! Much love from the New Mexco.
loudsue
(14,087 posts)And, as my husband went off to bed, I told him I had to come to DU to see how my Boston & marathon friends were.
Glad you're ok, and glad you have a wife and baby to keep safe and close-by. Staying home is sometimes good.
wonderbread_wizard
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lillypaddle
(9,580 posts)I have an 11 month old granddaughter, and it terrifies me that she will have to face this world.
NealK
(1,866 posts)And sad.
murielm99
(30,736 posts)short weeks later, hostages were taken in Iran. I felt helpless to protect my child, too.
All I could do was go on, be the best parent, citizen, human being I could be, to make this world a little less bizarre and evil for my child. But you know all that. You already do those things, too.
rocktivity
(44,576 posts)to that Aqua Teen movie publicity stunt...
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Onlooker
(5,636 posts)When so many people are doing things to help, why are you even bothering to post this? It's not your city, it's our city.
HangOnKids
(4,291 posts)ReRe
(10,597 posts)... you have to think of your family first. You would give your life for your friends and fellow Bostonians, but where would that leave your wife and new baby daughter? Alone. I notice that you posted this yesterday evening. Hope you have heard or been able to contact all your friends. Hugs to you and yours!
David Zephyr
(22,785 posts)K&R.
DFW
(54,369 posts)I lived in or near Boston for a few years after college and before my overseas posting.
When I go for my summer vacation, it's always to Cape Cod, and always with a night in Boston on either end.
No bomb is gonna change that unless it blows me up with it.