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WilliamPitt

(58,179 posts)
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 05:49 PM Apr 2013

My city.

I have a two-week-old baby laying in the arms of my wife here at home. I live three miles away from where this happened. I am staying put...but I want to go down there WITH EVERY FIBER OF MY BEING. I used to live a few blocks away from where the bombs went off. I have dozens of friends down there, either running or spectating or working.

This is my city. I want to go there to help, to find friends, to defy whoever did this, because fuck this shit, that's why. Fuck this shit.

But I'm staying put. God damn it to Hell, I'm staying put.

My daughter now lives in a world where her home town was bombed on Marathon Day, the best day of the year here.

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My city. (Original Post) WilliamPitt Apr 2013 OP
Totally understandable... dorkzilla Apr 2013 #1
This New Yorker knows exactly how you feel BeyondGeography Apr 2013 #2
deja vu Jersey Devil Apr 2013 #3
I'm so sorry, Will. femmocrat Apr 2013 #4
Sorry, Will. Warren DeMontague Apr 2013 #5
I'm so sorry William Tien1985 Apr 2013 #6
Mine too, kinda. trof Apr 2013 #7
So sorry, Will. City Lights Apr 2013 #8
There are others that can help. Wait Wut Apr 2013 #9
I am so sorry Will! redwitch Apr 2013 #10
My husband has nephews and nieces and lots of friends in Skidmore Apr 2013 #11
And that defiance, that anger, that sadness for what YankeyMCC Apr 2013 #12
Just keep on keeping on. DinahMoeHum Apr 2013 #13
You are where you should be right now. Baitball Blogger Apr 2013 #14
I second that. Callmecrazy Apr 2013 #69
I'm sorry Will. My sister was in the next building over from the Murrah Building in OKC. OKNancy Apr 2013 #15
Kudos to you, Mr. Pitt. That's the British spirit during the Nazi bombing blitz on London. nt Bernardo de La Paz Apr 2013 #16
Worked right there on Bolyston St at the Pru Center for 20 years. Fla Dem Apr 2013 #17
My co-workers brother in law and family was at the Marathon. NutmegYankee Apr 2013 #18
The network is shut down WilliamPitt Apr 2013 #19
Got it. NutmegYankee Apr 2013 #20
Probably WilliamPitt Apr 2013 #22
My family lives there Generic Other Apr 2013 #21
Been there, done that. nadinbrzezinski Apr 2013 #23
So sorry Will. I hope this is resolved quickly, for you, your family, your city and Cleita Apr 2013 #24
This San Franciscan sends her hugs AsahinaKimi Apr 2013 #25
. myrna minx Apr 2013 #26
Life is rough as a cob... Mopar151 Apr 2013 #27
Will! Did you realize...If you didn't have that 2 week old baby Auntie Bush Apr 2013 #28
I agree best day of the year in Boston, we had several very good friends at the finish line... NotThisTime Apr 2013 #29
No words, just suffragette Apr 2013 #30
silent warrprayer Apr 2013 #31
Here's a google link/people finder re the Boston explosions. Divernan Apr 2013 #32
remember the love hopemountain Apr 2013 #33
Stay safe Will... ljm2002 Apr 2013 #34
Stay safe Pitt. geckosfeet Apr 2013 #35
+ underpants Apr 2013 #36
Yes. Our babies come into a hard reality. Teach her beauty and fearlessness, Will. nolabear Apr 2013 #37
This is lovely... Phentex Apr 2013 #43
We went through that here in NYC on 9-11 Dorian Gray Apr 2013 #38
I grew up in Southie nahant Apr 2013 #39
So sorry Will. defacto7 Apr 2013 #40
I'm so sorry Will! Sissyk Apr 2013 #41
Congratulations on the new baby! Blue_Roses Apr 2013 #42
The people who do these things did NOT vanlassie Apr 2013 #44
Take care of your daughter, stay safe. Jennicut Apr 2013 #45
It's terrible to think about... Phentex Apr 2013 #46
May you, your daughter, and your wife stay safe. Liberalynn Apr 2013 #47
I was sickened when 2naSalit Apr 2013 #48
we live just 5-6 blocks from there, William. we can hear the sirens... everything is closed off, secondwind Apr 2013 #49
What can we say to our children, our grandchildren? mountain grammy Apr 2013 #50
I'm so sorry. Terra Alta Apr 2013 #51
So sorry. October Apr 2013 #52
Our hearts go out to those lost, those injured, and the families of the victims RyanThomas Apr 2013 #53
right there with ya Marrah_G Apr 2013 #54
I am so sorry for you situation. It is so sad to hear of your little girl. smirkymonkey Apr 2013 #55
. shireen Apr 2013 #56
I'm proud of you Will Phlem Apr 2013 #57
Be there for your raptor_rider Apr 2013 #58
I just found out about it an hour ago, WillPitt. loudsue Apr 2013 #59
Love that Dirty Water... wonderbread_wizard Apr 2013 #60
I know how you must feel lillypaddle Apr 2013 #61
Kick and R... NealK Apr 2013 #62
I brought my baby girl into the world, and a few murielm99 Apr 2013 #63
And to think that you were accused of overreacting rocktivity Apr 2013 #64
self serving blather Onlooker Apr 2013 #65
The Self Serving Blather Belongs To You HangOnKids Apr 2013 #70
Will, there's a time when... ReRe Apr 2013 #66
Boston. My second "home" city. The best of America. David Zephyr Apr 2013 #67
Same here (well, tied with DC and NYC) DFW Apr 2013 #68

dorkzilla

(5,141 posts)
1. Totally understandable...
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 05:51 PM
Apr 2013

As a New Yorker with my ancestral roots in Boston, I totally hear you. Glad your wife and little one are safe and sound.

femmocrat

(28,394 posts)
4. I'm so sorry, Will.
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 05:52 PM
Apr 2013

Many of us have deep ties to Boston and are distraught right now.

Hold on tight to that beautiful baby and be grateful that she has no idea of what is going on outside.

trof

(54,256 posts)
7. Mine too, kinda.
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 05:54 PM
Apr 2013

We lived 45 minutes away in southern NH for 16 years.
Loved going into the city.
Miz t. knew the place like the back of her hand.
She coulda' been a cab driver.
My daughter and family now live 15 minutes away.
Stay safe, bud.
shit

Wait Wut

(8,492 posts)
9. There are others that can help.
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 05:54 PM
Apr 2013

Stay home with your daughter. Speak softly to her and tell her about the beauty of the world. It still exists. It exists in her two beautiful parents, in the compassion of those that can offer help, in the tears of strangers.

Her hometown has all those things.

redwitch

(14,944 posts)
10. I am so sorry Will!
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 05:54 PM
Apr 2013

I love Boston, spent lots of time there in recent years when son #1 was at college. I know that area very well. All of our young friends have been safely accounted for so I breathe a sigh of relief.

But I remember being in NYC shortly after 9/11 and my friend Marty saying to me "This is my hometown. To the world it happened to NYC but to me, it happened to my home town. I looked out my living room window and saw the second plane hit the towers. My hometown".

My prayers and loving thoughts to everyone that their hometown stays safe. This shouldn't happen anywhere.

Kiss your little Lola Jane and work for justice and peace.

Skidmore

(37,364 posts)
11. My husband has nephews and nieces and lots of friends in
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 05:55 PM
Apr 2013

the Roxbury area. We are waiting to hear that all are accounted for since it is also a workday. Our thoughts are with them and you, Will.

YankeyMCC

(8,401 posts)
12. And that defiance, that anger, that sadness for what
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 05:55 PM
Apr 2013

your child's world now contains...belongs to me too, and to us all.

I'm thankful for among the "all" there are many more offering help and support than planting bombs.

OKNancy

(41,832 posts)
15. I'm sorry Will. My sister was in the next building over from the Murrah Building in OKC.
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 06:00 PM
Apr 2013

It shakes you to the core. My other sister lost her Manhattan studio on Sept. 11th. ( destroyed and couldn't be re-occupied)

I sometimes think I'm safe here in Tulsa... but it makes one wonder.

Fla Dem

(23,655 posts)
17. Worked right there on Bolyston St at the Pru Center for 20 years.
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 06:01 PM
Apr 2013

The finish line used to be at the Pru Center and we (Pru Employees) would work the race. Know the area intimately and I'm very sadden for this to happen in my home town and the people there. My heart goes out to them all.

NutmegYankee

(16,199 posts)
18. My co-workers brother in law and family was at the Marathon.
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 06:03 PM
Apr 2013

They have been concerned all day as they can't get hold of them because of the cell network overload.

Mopar151

(9,982 posts)
27. Life is rough as a cob...
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 06:21 PM
Apr 2013

Mrs. Mopar has verified the well-being of our family runner, who finished noonish - and His Mom and Dad, who were there to pick him up. Dad wants to bomb somebody ("islam"?), but he's lacking a clue on his good days.

Auntie Bush

(17,528 posts)
28. Will! Did you realize...If you didn't have that 2 week old baby
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 06:40 PM
Apr 2013

to keep you home...You and your wife would probably have been near that finish line.
It pains me to think about it. Take care!

NotThisTime

(3,657 posts)
29. I agree best day of the year in Boston, we had several very good friends at the finish line...
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 06:45 PM
Apr 2013

From what we know our friends are okay, however we are not sure how many of our friends were there total. Very sad day for our city. I left and am in the process of coming back. Boston is the best city in the country, it's my home.

Divernan

(15,480 posts)
32. Here's a google link/people finder re the Boston explosions.
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 06:56 PM
Apr 2013
http://google.org/personfinder/2013-boston-explosions/query?role=seek

I was relieved that my nephew & his family who live in Boston, and my brother & sister-in-law who were visiting them were not near the finish line area.

ljm2002

(10,751 posts)
34. Stay safe Will...
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 07:06 PM
Apr 2013

...I was thinking of you while watching the live coverage.

It must be awful for you. But you know going down there won't help anyone right now.

Keeping Boston and everyone affected in my thoughts and prayers tonight.

nolabear

(41,960 posts)
37. Yes. Our babies come into a hard reality. Teach her beauty and fearlessness, Will.
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 07:10 PM
Apr 2013

Or else they win. Make her wonderful, as best you can and then love her fiercely for whomever she becomes. Try not to let this overcome the joy of how wonderful and miraculous a thing this parenthood is.

Dorian Gray

(13,493 posts)
38. We went through that here in NYC on 9-11
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 07:17 PM
Apr 2013

My daughter wasn't yet born, but I could imagine that it would magnify the feelings immensely. I watched it all go down around me, but my husband and I just needed to be with each other. The feelings of helplessness, desire to get out there and help, etc. all overwhelmed us. But your baby and your wife need you. You are doing the most to help the two closest to you in life right now. Be strong for them. And I hope your wife gives you strength. I'm heartbroken that this happened in Boston. (I went to BC, and I love that city so damn much!)

nahant

(93 posts)
39. I grew up in Southie
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 07:32 PM
Apr 2013

so I truly know your pain William.. I have a huge family there.. I was a regular at the Copley Sq Library during my high school years... But St Paddys is the best day of the year..

defacto7

(13,485 posts)
40. So sorry Will.
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 07:36 PM
Apr 2013

I know you want to protect all the babies and people. The rage is understandable. Only love your own for now.

Blue_Roses

(12,894 posts)
42. Congratulations on the new baby!
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 07:38 PM
Apr 2013

I know there are a flood of emotions going through your mind right now, but you are in the right place. You're a father now and your wife and daughter need you, but I can definitely relate to you feelings.My daughter was born two weeks AFTER Columbine--in fact, I had a doctor's appointment that day. I remember telling my doctor about my fear of bringing a child into the world and how I wish I could protect this child forever. Almost fourteen years later, as she sits and watches the coverage of this horrific tragedy,I find myself thinking those same thoughts again.

Take care and know you're not alone. Many thoughts and prayers...

vanlassie

(5,670 posts)
44. The people who do these things did NOT
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 07:48 PM
Apr 2013

have sweet moms and dads meeting their needs at a young age. Of this I will swear. You do more than you know to make the world a kinder and gentler place when you lovingly care for your young, especially in the early years. Be well.

Jennicut

(25,415 posts)
45. Take care of your daughter, stay safe.
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 07:49 PM
Apr 2013

I am still trying to wrap my head around a mass shooting in my state of Connecticut that happened 4 towns away from where I live. I have two girls as well, 7 and 8. It's understandably shocking to see any kind of mass violence closeby to where you live. I am sort of in shock months later. From a fellow New Englander, hang in there. My first memory of Boston was a school field trip when I was a kid in the late 80's. It has always been a great city.

 

Liberalynn

(7,549 posts)
47. May you, your daughter, and your wife stay safe.
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 07:58 PM
Apr 2013

Hopefully they will catch whoever is responsible and bring he/she/they to justice.

2naSalit

(86,577 posts)
48. I was sickened when
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 08:01 PM
Apr 2013

I saw the news on my work computer, I was born about three Kilometers from the scene of interest and have always had sense of "home" about Boston, spent my first two decades in coastal NE between southern ME and Cape Cod. I, too, am dealing with mixed feelings about this, none of them positive.

My thoughts and prayers for all of you there, but glad you have the self control to stay with your family in a safe location (I hope)...

I may be 2800 miles away but it's a "home" place for me and I am deeply troubled by this series of events. I hope the culprit(s) is/are found soon.

secondwind

(16,903 posts)
49. we live just 5-6 blocks from there, William. we can hear the sirens... everything is closed off,
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 08:03 PM
Apr 2013

the Back Bay and I think South Station are both closed now...

mountain grammy

(26,619 posts)
50. What can we say to our children, our grandchildren?
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 08:04 PM
Apr 2013

We live in a world where bad people do bad things, as it's been since the beginning. We go on and try our best to protect our rights to live our lives and teach our children to not be afraid. Living in fear isn't living.

RyanThomas

(23 posts)
53. Our hearts go out to those lost, those injured, and the families of the victims
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 09:41 PM
Apr 2013

Whoever the attackers were, and whenever or however they are caught and brought to justice, we will never bring back those lost today nor erase the scars of terror and horror from those injured. Nor the legacy of pain and suffering that will stain this day for the people of your great city for years to come, a lingering remnant of suffering and evil perpetrated on the innocent.

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
55. I am so sorry for you situation. It is so sad to hear of your little girl.
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 09:59 PM
Apr 2013

It's my city now too. I am in tears over this tragedy today. Peace and love to you and your family.

Phlem

(6,323 posts)
57. I'm proud of you Will
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 10:58 PM
Apr 2013

You are now in the group that have dependents. You hurt for your city and your friends but you also know your new, perfect, daughter now impacts your actions.

A daughter needs her dad period end of story.

You feel a new different pain that is agonizing and tormenting and that is a revelation that pulls you ever deeper into life and it's meaning.

Hang in there bud, keep your family safe, go out of town and stay at a relatives and give yourself some respite.

This is just the beginning, you might yourself making even more different choices as the new life you have plays out.

Your going to do just fine.

-p

raptor_rider

(1,014 posts)
58. Be there for your
Mon Apr 15, 2013, 11:10 PM
Apr 2013

Daughter and your wife. They are you new family now. I ne'er stand how this is! Believe me, I know. You are in the best p,ace for your family. If you ave a basement, I'd suggest to set up camp there for a few days. Just have supplements for everyone. I'm so sorry this is happening!! Much love from the New Mexco.

loudsue

(14,087 posts)
59. I just found out about it an hour ago, WillPitt.
Tue Apr 16, 2013, 12:52 AM
Apr 2013

And, as my husband went off to bed, I told him I had to come to DU to see how my Boston & marathon friends were.

Glad you're ok, and glad you have a wife and baby to keep safe and close-by. Staying home is sometimes good.

lillypaddle

(9,580 posts)
61. I know how you must feel
Tue Apr 16, 2013, 05:50 AM
Apr 2013

I have an 11 month old granddaughter, and it terrifies me that she will have to face this world.

murielm99

(30,736 posts)
63. I brought my baby girl into the world, and a few
Tue Apr 16, 2013, 11:22 AM
Apr 2013

short weeks later, hostages were taken in Iran. I felt helpless to protect my child, too.

All I could do was go on, be the best parent, citizen, human being I could be, to make this world a little less bizarre and evil for my child. But you know all that. You already do those things, too.

 

Onlooker

(5,636 posts)
65. self serving blather
Tue Apr 16, 2013, 02:07 PM
Apr 2013

When so many people are doing things to help, why are you even bothering to post this? It's not your city, it's our city.

ReRe

(10,597 posts)
66. Will, there's a time when...
Tue Apr 16, 2013, 03:40 PM
Apr 2013

... you have to think of your family first. You would give your life for your friends and fellow Bostonians, but where would that leave your wife and new baby daughter? Alone. I notice that you posted this yesterday evening. Hope you have heard or been able to contact all your friends. Hugs to you and yours!

DFW

(54,369 posts)
68. Same here (well, tied with DC and NYC)
Tue Apr 16, 2013, 05:07 PM
Apr 2013

I lived in or near Boston for a few years after college and before my overseas posting.

When I go for my summer vacation, it's always to Cape Cod, and always with a night in Boston on either end.
No bomb is gonna change that unless it blows me up with it.

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