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like them.
Say hello, then listen to them. Keep listening and find out who they are and what is important to them.
Repeat frequently.
NYC_SKP
(68,644 posts)What you indicate is true for both/any/all sexes/genders.
The general rule, in fact includes male-male, female-female, female-male, female-transgender, and ALL other possible combinations.
--Listen to receive.
--Be interested in what they have to say, and mean it.
--Build on what you hear from the other party.
--Let go of any agenda.
--Be in the moment.
--Serve the scene, which is making sure that positive memories are being made.
There's a lot of research on this, great research, it's not a contest.
It's not a man woman thing, MM. It's a Human Being thing.
Peace.
MineralMan
(146,192 posts)to the surprise of some people.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)women I know would be completely flummoxed by this OP. Why on earth would men not just be themselves so we KNOW why THEY are?
Some people just don't get the 'equality' thing the women's movement was all about. It was NOT about subjugating men.
Ugh, how long do we have to deal with this here. People should stay away from subjects they know nothing about.
Call Me Wesley
(38,187 posts)stalkers' cookbook. You shouldn't even talk to someone who 'tries' to listen. Okay, that's a bit subtle. What I mean is what you've said. If I have to follow guidance's and pretend something, you have the right to kick me. It's not equality, it's psycho.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,280 posts)much like yourselves.
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)and wear it when I go out.
Just kidding! I won't abandon that plan.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)myrna minx
(22,772 posts)petronius
(26,581 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)It is really that simple.
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)mythology
(9,527 posts)My problem is more discerning when (and to be honest why) some of them are interested back. It would really be helpful if they were willing to smack me upside the back of the head sometimes.
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)Talk to women like you do everyone else. After all, they ARE everyone else.
This thread is less about its stated purpose and more about the use of manipulative language.
dawg
(10,610 posts)That way, I would know which women liked me. Their tails would wag whenever I came around!
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Raine1967
(11,589 posts)Top tip for a person who want to make people
like them.
Say hello, then listen to them. Keep listening and find out who they are and what is impotant to them.
Repeat frequently.
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I do understand what you are saying.
raccoon
(31,092 posts)aren't interested in a cotton-pickin' thing about you. IME, lots of people are like that.
Old Codger
(4,205 posts)Always and ever true..
SmileyRose
(4,854 posts)Can't make anyone like you. No matter how wonderful a man treats people, and that IS important, some will like him and some won't.
MattBaggins
(7,894 posts)and make sure you have lots of wine coolers?
Luminous Animal
(27,310 posts)socialindependocrat
(1,372 posts)Like - I wouldn't belong to a club that would have me as a member...
whatchamacallit
(15,558 posts)You never fail to amaze...
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)NYC_SKP
(68,644 posts)(from the OP)
Sometimes the fingers do the thinking.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)WorseBeforeBetter
(11,441 posts)chknltl
(10,558 posts)You have our undivided attention.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)snooper2
(30,151 posts)it's cute...
Marr
(20,317 posts)Egalitarian Thug
(12,448 posts)Major Nikon
(36,814 posts)What will I do with my assortment of lupins? I thought those were the secret.
MineralMan
(146,192 posts)Heidi
(58,237 posts)You may want to factor in that many of us sense when someone is trying to "make" us do something.
Skittles
(152,967 posts)he fails miserably
olddots
(10,237 posts)but I am shy and sensitive ..you may touch my trousers and stroke my hair ...I am the LOVE GOD arrive douche
DemocraticProse
(28 posts)Choose better genes for your penis.
dawg
(10,610 posts)They're just the cheap Wranglers, but the fit is nice, while still being modest enough to leave something to the imagination.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)Women don't want to be deceived. They don't want anyone 'making' them do anything, including 'liking someone'.
Women respect honesty. They don't like tricksters. They are perfectly capable of deciding who they like and who they do not. And most women would most likely detect an 'act' like this when they saw it.
Here's a tip for you from a woman. Just be yourself, and we will decide whether we like you or not. Stop with the acting, it's a real turn-off to most women.
Oh, and like men, women are people, they are not some objects that need to be approached with caution, any more than men are. And they like sex too, just fyi and your almost guaranteed next words of advice to the community.
Lydia Leftcoast
(48,217 posts)Move on to someone else.
If you fail repeatedly (and I can't stress the importance of this enough), get a platonic female friend to give you an honest appraisal of how you come off in social situations.
It may bruise your ego, but it's extremely valuable.
And it may just be the case that you're difficult to match.
I've seen plenty of couples for whom the comment, "They each found the only other person in the world who could put up with their quirks" is extremely apt.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)"What can I make a friend out of", he thought.
So he gathered some sticks, an apple, and some nuts, and fixed them all together.
At last, he had a brand new friend, standing in front of him.
Rex
(65,616 posts)about this? This creation of the female gender? Is it magic or science or some hybrid steam-punk-magic circa 1900s looking device?
zappaman
(20,605 posts)At least that is according to textbooks in Kansas...
treestar
(82,383 posts)And never listen to you. IME, that is the bigger problem - both sexes.
madokie
(51,076 posts)Like them has been my secret.
whistler162
(11,155 posts)randome
(34,845 posts)petronius
(26,581 posts)The bra on your head is purely ceremonial, but it's a nice touch...
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)Interesting replies on this thread. I would like to see more.
Bluenorthwest
(45,319 posts)pipi_k
(21,020 posts)reasons why I seem to have trouble with personal relationships is my suspicion of anyone who tries too hard to...well, IMO...ingratiate him/her self to me.
Being too nice. I always figure the person has ulterior motives, you know?
OTOH, if someone is a shit to me in the beginning, then that is the end of any desire I'll ever have for pursuing a friendship/relationship with that person.
There has to be just the "right" mixture of distance and warmth.
So anyway, along the lines of how men can make women like them, I had read an article some years back, and I don't know how true it is or not, but social experiments suggested that one way men can get women to like them is to be standoffish at first meeting, almost (but not quite) to the point of rudeness.
Then, at each subsequent meeting, being a little nicer, and a little nicer.
yeah...head games.
Supposedly, the women will believe that the guy is someone who is discerning in his choice of women, and that they (the women) have somehow "made the grade".
Can women be manipulated like that?
Who knows. Maybe it's true. I mean, don't we all like to think that we're something...special?
anyway, just something I thought of and decided to share.
Call Me Wesley
(38,187 posts)Where we can be sprayed with the warm wisdom of questions unanswered by now.
Quick question, though. What do I repeat frequently, the listening, or the 'hello?' Because latter gives me blank stares ...
Puglover
(16,380 posts)CMW!!!! EEEWWWWWWWWW to the 32nd power!
Call Me Wesley
(38,187 posts)Obvious is obvious, dont'cha think?
cherokeeprogressive
(24,853 posts)sorely misguided.
99Forever
(14,524 posts)... droll and condescending.
But considering the source, not at all surprising.
roody
(10,849 posts)Major Nikon
(36,814 posts)mokawanis
(4,434 posts)Sweet Jeebus, does this really warrant it's own thread????
MineralMan
(146,192 posts)I leave that to others. But several people have recced the thread, so I'm OK with the sense that maybe it does.
Clearly, you disagree. That's fine, too.
mokawanis
(4,434 posts)I'm just surprised anyone feels the need to state the obvious -that women, and men, want to be appreciated and heard and respected.
I apologize for my rude reaction.
MineralMan
(146,192 posts)to everyone. If that were the case, we'd have a 100% Democratic Congress.