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Top tip for men who want to make women (Original Post) MineralMan Apr 2013 OP
This, actually, is not a man or woman thing, MineralMan.... NYC_SKP Apr 2013 #1
That is why it works. Women are humans, MineralMan Apr 2013 #2
Thanks, NYC_SKP this kind of thing makes me sick, as a woman. Most of the incredibly independent . sabrina 1 Apr 2013 #30
I think it serves more like a Call Me Wesley Apr 2013 #53
In other words, treat us like human beings The Velveteen Ocelot Apr 2013 #3
You guys are so complex and weird. Stop confusing men... Gravitycollapse Apr 2013 #8
Hmmm...perhaps I should abandon my plan to steal Johnny Depp's skin ZombieHorde Apr 2013 #4
HA! bettyellen Apr 2013 #41
ok - I just sprayed my coffee onto my monitor. myrna minx Apr 2013 #42
Lucky for you! I was eating potato chips when I read that... petronius Apr 2013 #51
Good idea. Thank you. smirkymonkey Apr 2013 #5
The fact that anyone needs a tip to meet women is telling. Gravitycollapse Apr 2013 #6
Some of us are a little slow on the uptake mythology Apr 2013 #21
I assume you are not a hermit. You speak to people on a daily basis? Gravitycollapse Apr 2013 #23
I wish they had tails. dawg Apr 2013 #39
i think the tail wagging would be annoyance, guys tails would wag with happiness. loli phabay Apr 2013 #45
I agree with your sentiment, MM, can I change it slightly? Raine1967 Apr 2013 #7
Except, some people, when youu do that, yak and yak about themselves and raccoon Apr 2013 #34
Absolutely Old Codger Apr 2013 #9
Sorry but you are wrong SmileyRose Apr 2013 #10
Wait it's not plan a house party MattBaggins Apr 2013 #11
There have been more than a few men who listened to me and I still didn't like them. Luminous Animal Apr 2013 #12
That has a familiar ring.... socialindependocrat Apr 2013 #13
Up next: Mineral Man's Top Tips for Breathing whatchamacallit Apr 2013 #14
Pukeworthily sanctimonious OP. nt Bonobo Apr 2013 #15
Well... "what is impotant to them"... NYC_SKP Apr 2013 #16
No comment. nt Bonobo Apr 2013 #17
That *makes me* like you. (n/t) WorseBeforeBetter Apr 2013 #18
Wait a minute, you know how to make a woman??? chknltl Apr 2013 #19
wow my first thought to. loli phabay Apr 2013 #46
LOL snooper2 Apr 2013 #20
Am I in the Lounge? Marr Apr 2013 #22
It's a form of tourette syndrome. This poster just can't help himself. n/t Egalitarian Thug Apr 2013 #29
Twilight zone Major Nikon Apr 2013 #58
Damn cvoogt Apr 2013 #24
Most people do get tired of lupins after a while. nt MineralMan Apr 2013 #54
This sounds like a means-to-an-end strategy. Heidi Apr 2013 #25
my bf tries to make women all the time Skittles Apr 2013 #26
You all know me as the LOVE GOD olddots Apr 2013 #27
And according to the latest studies... DemocraticProse Apr 2013 #28
I think my genes work with my penis pretty well. dawg Apr 2013 #48
Top Tip to men who think women want men who want to 'MAKe' them 'like them'. sabrina 1 Apr 2013 #31
And if we don't like you, there is no magic trick to make us like you Lydia Leftcoast Apr 2013 #56
"Fox Makes Friends" Warren DeMontague Apr 2013 #32
I've never wanted to make a women, how did you learn Rex Apr 2013 #33
I think you make one using a rib from a dude? zappaman Apr 2013 #38
You may actually meet a lot of people who will talk your ear off treestar Apr 2013 #35
'impotant' to them? :-) madokie Apr 2013 #36
Dang I thought this was going to be a Weird Science thread! whistler162 Apr 2013 #37
Or a 3D printing advance! randome Apr 2013 #47
Whatever you do, don't forget to hook up the doll! petronius Apr 2013 #50
K&R smirkymonkey Apr 2013 #40
OK. Is this a thread for 14 year olds? Bluenorthwest Apr 2013 #43
Probably one of the main pipi_k Apr 2013 #44
DU sure needs an ATMM forum. Call Me Wesley Apr 2013 #49
"Sprayed with the warm wisdom"........... Puglover Apr 2013 #62
;) Call Me Wesley Apr 2013 #65
Anyone who believes there is some kind of "formula" or "procedure" for making someone like them is cherokeeprogressive Apr 2013 #52
How very... 99Forever Apr 2013 #55
Also leave the toilet seat down. roody Apr 2013 #57
Except when in use Major Nikon Apr 2013 #59
What's next, breathing instructions? mokawanis Apr 2013 #60
I don't know if it warrants its own thread. MineralMan Apr 2013 #61
No, I agree mokawanis Apr 2013 #63
Not everything that seems obvious is obvious MineralMan Apr 2013 #64
 

NYC_SKP

(68,644 posts)
1. This, actually, is not a man or woman thing, MineralMan....
Sat Apr 13, 2013, 08:38 PM
Apr 2013

What you indicate is true for both/any/all sexes/genders.

The general rule, in fact includes male-male, female-female, female-male, female-transgender, and ALL other possible combinations.

--Listen to receive.

--Be interested in what they have to say, and mean it.

--Build on what you hear from the other party.

--Let go of any agenda.

--Be in the moment.

--Serve the scene, which is making sure that positive memories are being made.



There's a lot of research on this, great research, it's not a contest.

It's not a man woman thing, MM. It's a Human Being thing.

Peace.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
30. Thanks, NYC_SKP this kind of thing makes me sick, as a woman. Most of the incredibly independent .
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 03:46 AM
Apr 2013

women I know would be completely flummoxed by this OP. Why on earth would men not just be themselves so we KNOW why THEY are?

Some people just don't get the 'equality' thing the women's movement was all about. It was NOT about subjugating men.

Ugh, how long do we have to deal with this here. People should stay away from subjects they know nothing about.

Call Me Wesley

(38,187 posts)
53. I think it serves more like a
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 03:20 PM
Apr 2013

stalkers' cookbook. You shouldn't even talk to someone who 'tries' to listen. Okay, that's a bit subtle. What I mean is what you've said. If I have to follow guidance's and pretend something, you have the right to kick me. It's not equality, it's psycho.

ZombieHorde

(29,047 posts)
4. Hmmm...perhaps I should abandon my plan to steal Johnny Depp's skin
Sat Apr 13, 2013, 08:48 PM
Apr 2013

and wear it when I go out.

Just kidding! I won't abandon that plan.

 

mythology

(9,527 posts)
21. Some of us are a little slow on the uptake
Sat Apr 13, 2013, 09:57 PM
Apr 2013

My problem is more discerning when (and to be honest why) some of them are interested back. It would really be helpful if they were willing to smack me upside the back of the head sometimes.

Gravitycollapse

(8,155 posts)
23. I assume you are not a hermit. You speak to people on a daily basis?
Sat Apr 13, 2013, 11:02 PM
Apr 2013

Talk to women like you do everyone else. After all, they ARE everyone else.

This thread is less about its stated purpose and more about the use of manipulative language.

dawg

(10,610 posts)
39. I wish they had tails.
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 10:50 AM
Apr 2013

That way, I would know which women liked me. Their tails would wag whenever I came around!

Raine1967

(11,589 posts)
7. I agree with your sentiment, MM, can I change it slightly?
Sat Apr 13, 2013, 08:52 PM
Apr 2013

Top tip for a person who want to make people

like them.

Say hello, then listen to them. Keep listening and find out who they are and what is impotant to them.

Repeat frequently.

==========================



I do understand what you are saying.


raccoon

(31,092 posts)
34. Except, some people, when youu do that, yak and yak about themselves and
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 07:46 AM
Apr 2013

aren't interested in a cotton-pickin' thing about you. IME, lots of people are like that.



SmileyRose

(4,854 posts)
10. Sorry but you are wrong
Sat Apr 13, 2013, 08:59 PM
Apr 2013

Can't make anyone like you. No matter how wonderful a man treats people, and that IS important, some will like him and some won't.

Heidi

(58,237 posts)
25. This sounds like a means-to-an-end strategy.
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 02:00 AM
Apr 2013

You may want to factor in that many of us sense when someone is trying to "make" us do something.

 

olddots

(10,237 posts)
27. You all know me as the LOVE GOD
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 02:24 AM
Apr 2013

but I am shy and sensitive ..you may touch my trousers and stroke my hair ...I am the LOVE GOD arrive douche

dawg

(10,610 posts)
48. I think my genes work with my penis pretty well.
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 11:49 AM
Apr 2013

They're just the cheap Wranglers, but the fit is nice, while still being modest enough to leave something to the imagination.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
31. Top Tip to men who think women want men who want to 'MAKe' them 'like them'.
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 03:54 AM
Apr 2013

Women don't want to be deceived. They don't want anyone 'making' them do anything, including 'liking someone'.

Women respect honesty. They don't like tricksters. They are perfectly capable of deciding who they like and who they do not. And most women would most likely detect an 'act' like this when they saw it.

Here's a tip for you from a woman. Just be yourself, and we will decide whether we like you or not. Stop with the acting, it's a real turn-off to most women.

Oh, and like men, women are people, they are not some objects that need to be approached with caution, any more than men are. And they like sex too, just fyi and your almost guaranteed next words of advice to the community.

Lydia Leftcoast

(48,217 posts)
56. And if we don't like you, there is no magic trick to make us like you
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 03:45 PM
Apr 2013

Move on to someone else.

If you fail repeatedly (and I can't stress the importance of this enough), get a platonic female friend to give you an honest appraisal of how you come off in social situations.

It may bruise your ego, but it's extremely valuable.

And it may just be the case that you're difficult to match.

I've seen plenty of couples for whom the comment, "They each found the only other person in the world who could put up with their quirks" is extremely apt.

Warren DeMontague

(80,708 posts)
32. "Fox Makes Friends"
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 04:16 AM
Apr 2013


"What can I make a friend out of", he thought.

So he gathered some sticks, an apple, and some nuts, and fixed them all together.

At last, he had a brand new friend, standing in front of him.


 

Rex

(65,616 posts)
33. I've never wanted to make a women, how did you learn
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 05:24 AM
Apr 2013

about this? This creation of the female gender? Is it magic or science or some hybrid steam-punk-magic circa 1900s looking device?

zappaman

(20,605 posts)
38. I think you make one using a rib from a dude?
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 10:42 AM
Apr 2013

At least that is according to textbooks in Kansas...

treestar

(82,383 posts)
35. You may actually meet a lot of people who will talk your ear off
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 07:58 AM
Apr 2013

And never listen to you. IME, that is the bigger problem - both sexes.

petronius

(26,581 posts)
50. Whatever you do, don't forget to hook up the doll!
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 03:10 PM
Apr 2013

The bra on your head is purely ceremonial, but it's a nice touch...

pipi_k

(21,020 posts)
44. Probably one of the main
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 11:17 AM
Apr 2013

reasons why I seem to have trouble with personal relationships is my suspicion of anyone who tries too hard to...well, IMO...ingratiate him/her self to me.

Being too nice. I always figure the person has ulterior motives, you know?

OTOH, if someone is a shit to me in the beginning, then that is the end of any desire I'll ever have for pursuing a friendship/relationship with that person.

There has to be just the "right" mixture of distance and warmth.

So anyway, along the lines of how men can make women like them, I had read an article some years back, and I don't know how true it is or not, but social experiments suggested that one way men can get women to like them is to be standoffish at first meeting, almost (but not quite) to the point of rudeness.

Then, at each subsequent meeting, being a little nicer, and a little nicer.

yeah...head games.

Supposedly, the women will believe that the guy is someone who is discerning in his choice of women, and that they (the women) have somehow "made the grade".

Can women be manipulated like that?

Who knows. Maybe it's true. I mean, don't we all like to think that we're something...special?

anyway, just something I thought of and decided to share.


Call Me Wesley

(38,187 posts)
49. DU sure needs an ATMM forum.
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 03:09 PM
Apr 2013

Where we can be sprayed with the warm wisdom of questions unanswered by now.

Quick question, though. What do I repeat frequently, the listening, or the 'hello?' Because latter gives me blank stares ...

 

cherokeeprogressive

(24,853 posts)
52. Anyone who believes there is some kind of "formula" or "procedure" for making someone like them is
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 03:16 PM
Apr 2013

sorely misguided.

MineralMan

(146,192 posts)
61. I don't know if it warrants its own thread.
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 04:13 PM
Apr 2013

I leave that to others. But several people have recced the thread, so I'm OK with the sense that maybe it does.

Clearly, you disagree. That's fine, too.

mokawanis

(4,434 posts)
63. No, I agree
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 04:18 PM
Apr 2013

I'm just surprised anyone feels the need to state the obvious -that women, and men, want to be appreciated and heard and respected.

I apologize for my rude reaction.

MineralMan

(146,192 posts)
64. Not everything that seems obvious is obvious
Sun Apr 14, 2013, 04:21 PM
Apr 2013

to everyone. If that were the case, we'd have a 100% Democratic Congress.

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