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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsBe careful what we say in response to the death of Pastor Warren's son.
We don't know what happened with this young man.
The loss of one's child is the worst thing that can happen to a person, no matter who that person is.
And the Right will be monitoring this site for insensitivity.
And WE are supposed to be the folks that DO do empathy.
Until we know MUCH more, we need to be very, very watchful as to what we post on this subject.
LittleBlue
(10,362 posts)It's always a tragedy.
Rex
(65,616 posts)make jokes about his dead son.
malaise
(268,692 posts)Rex
(65,616 posts)I notice a lot of people here do. Wait...the SON wrote that book or the father did?
malaise
(268,692 posts)The son has never been a public figure. It has nothing to do with the poor young man and I weep for him.
That just makes one sit and ponder so many different things. If you would have said the son wrote it, I would almost ask if that was a hidden message for help now that we know his outcome.
I hope the father does some massive introspection.
malaise
(268,692 posts)years ago. Lots of Fundies in these parts. It was a huge best seller.
Check this out - of course it's updated - send more cash
http://purposedriven.com/books/pdlbook/#purpose
Rex
(65,616 posts)Looks horrible.
malaise
(268,692 posts)but that should tell us who he's trying to fool
Rex
(65,616 posts)should sell like hotcakes at Wal-Mart.
mountain grammy
(26,598 posts)malaise
(268,692 posts)Amaril
(1,267 posts)Thank "God" I don't work there anymore. I finally had to block her on Facebook as well (I friended her years ago before she got uber weird). Insufferable just about sums it up.
BlueStreak
(8,377 posts)Of course it is a tragedy, but we should not ignore the obvious things any more than we would ignore it when a gay-bashing preacher is exposed as frequenting male prostitutes or the church of celibacy turns out to be riddled with perverts.
We don't know all the details, that's for sure. But there seems to be "probable cause" for some connections.
malaise
(268,692 posts)I'm not ignoring the obvious things hence my comments on the book
Hekate
(90,551 posts)... became schizophrenic.
A wonderful man who found new love, but whose troubled son cracked up and knifed his new stepmom to death. A wonderful spiritual woman whose daughter began hallucinating terribly in her teens -- fortunately she has survived, though will never be "normal." These people do not know each other, and their circumstances could not be more different: one had money to burn, and the other not two nickels to rub together, yet both tried and tried and tried to get help for their respective kids.
I will not presume to judge anyone's family on the basis of such little information as we have about the Warren family. They will live with this grief forever.
Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)White, black, brown, tall, short, rich, poor, religious, atheistic, gay, straight, female, male, Republican, Democrat, Libertarian, apolitical, politician, lawyer, sanitation worker.
MADem
(135,425 posts)Edit to add link that provides a bit of background: http://usnews.nbcnews.com/_news/2013/04/06/17632420-pastor-rick-warrens-son-matthew-commits-suicide-church-says?lite
840high
(17,196 posts)trumad
(41,692 posts)Unlike the douchebag websites on the right.
Now when Cheney kicks it...all bets are off.
Rex
(65,616 posts)when Tricky Dick II leaves this realm. A young man at 27 killed himself...that is tragic no matter who it is.
nolabear
(41,932 posts)Such a sad thing. So much pain.
There are cruel a**h**** everywhere.
Initech
(100,035 posts)I'm surprised he's still alive but when that mad man finally kicks the bucket it's fair game.
malaise
(268,692 posts)I'll be popping the cork
rhett o rick
(55,981 posts)I think there is a special place for him.
Initech
(100,035 posts)I saw a supermarket tabloid tonight with Bush's picture on it and the words "SAD LAST DAYS" ( ), and I don't care if he dies but I want him to come clean on where he was on 11/22/1963 before he does. That's all, then he can answer to Satan.
Ken Burch
(50,254 posts)I strongly suspect he's been an android since at least the mid-80's.
Douglas Carpenter
(20,226 posts)But I am said for Pastor Warren and the son and family. I have had suicides within my family and it leaves a deep darkness to everyone it effects.
RKP5637
(67,086 posts)listening to this program the other night about eventual progress in, basically, lifting ones personality and basically downloading it to a cloned body before death ... hence creating a like individual in a new body, with the same personality and accumulated knowledge.
Yep, OK, it's really creepy and thankfully far off ... but first thought to my mind was Cheney ... imagine having tyrants live on forever in some despotic place.
awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)I am going to party like it's 1999.
Janecita
(86 posts)Initech
(100,035 posts)I'll hit the alert button left and right if I see it, despite what I feel.
BlueStreak
(8,377 posts)awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)we are all board monitors.
BlueStreak
(8,377 posts)"Don't threaten anyone"
"Don't do anything else which is similarly disruptive."
I may have to open an alert on the threat to open alerts on the basis of that being threatening and disruptive.
Or maybe we can all just mind our own business. How about it?
awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)The poster who said he would alert on inappropriate posts, or me for pointing out that the alert feature is part of the monitoring process? If you think either is a threat then you must not be able to have any human interactions.
Initech
(100,035 posts)Rick Warren may be an evil, hateful, bigoted man but something like this people shouldn't be grave dancing. Man, talk about what I said being blown out of proportion.
awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)I don't think you posted anything threatening. I was responding to someone who thought either you or I were somehow threatening them. There was nothing wrong on your post.
notadmblnd
(23,720 posts)russspeakeasy
(6,539 posts)enough
(13,254 posts)kills himself or herself?
Bluenorthwest
(45,319 posts)suicides by gay youth and the connection to Evangelical attacks on them. He was extremely dismissive and self serving when asked about it on CNN. So I hope we are better toward them than they have been toward others.
W_HAMILTON
(7,835 posts)n/t
99Forever
(14,524 posts)... because it's the decent way to act, but I don't give a damn that some freakin' righties might be "monitoring this site" and might say bad things about us. Like those scumbags have ever had anything good to say about DU anyway.
Ken Burch
(50,254 posts)99Forever
(14,524 posts)... to be assholes.
Dude, I couldn't care any less what they say about ANYTHING.
tblue
(16,350 posts)It's a personal tragedy that I wouldn't not wish on anybody. I have no idea what their relationship was like. I hope he felt his parents loved and stood by him. It would be the most terrible thing if he didn't.
Marrah_G
(28,581 posts)The father.... sorry, got nothing for him. Maybe he will learn from this and become a decent human being.
jimlup
(7,968 posts)As we probably see in the desperation of the son. A sad story for sure.
onpatrol98
(1,989 posts)There's nothing like losing a child. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. When you bring these frail little beings home with you from the hospital, you don't ever expect to lose them this way. His young son is gone. It is his family and friends that I wish solace for. They are the ones still here who must go on without him. Always wondering what they could've done, but never knowing. I pray they find peace.
liberal_at_heart
(12,081 posts)DinahMoeHum
(21,774 posts)This situation he faces sucks big time, and there's no way around it.
BlueStreak
(8,377 posts)It is a terrible loss, but I don't give a damn about that guy's feelings. It is very sad that a young life won't be lived. Rather than sorrow, I hope that Pastor Warren uses this as a time to examine who he is and gets out of the religious fraud business. Mr. Warren, do something deserving with the rest of your life.
amuse bouche
(3,657 posts)Kowtowing to the evil right is against my 'religion'
babsbunny
(8,441 posts)My Sister committed suicide on 1/16/13. I feel their pain...........
beveeheart
(1,368 posts)Maraya1969
(22,461 posts)Hekate
(90,551 posts)Mnemosyne
(21,363 posts)Le Taz Hot
(22,271 posts)How terrible for you and your family. My deepest condolences.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)don't say anything at all."
SteveG
(3,109 posts)Having lost an adult son to Leukemia a number of years ago, I have full sympathy for the Warren family. It appears that the son had a history of mental health issues, and I suspect the family has been dealing with the issue for some time. Be at peace young man.
UnrepentantLiberal
(11,700 posts)catbyte
(34,332 posts)the kids of cops & preachers have a special burden. To have a smarmy con man disguised as a "Man of God" for a father must have been just awful. May he now rest in peace.
kestrel91316
(51,666 posts)My dad turned out very well and was always close to his parents.
Not all cops are asshats. My grandfather AND grandmother were lifelong registered Democrats in spite of their rural ranching and law enforcement lives.
catbyte
(34,332 posts)him. You're just expected to act better than the other kids. My dad was awesome and I miss him every day of my life--he was a Marine Raider in WWII, a police officer and a good Democrat.
JI7
(89,239 posts)this isn't Rick WArren himself in which case we could criticize things he has said and done .
Spitfire of ATJ
(32,723 posts)You are talking about the people that did this:
Apophis
(1,407 posts)Skip Intro
(19,768 posts)might think of our comments.
The reason to be respectful about this is because we're decent human beings.
Adsos Letter
(19,459 posts)So they say.
cherokeeprogressive
(24,853 posts)Man oh man I remember feeling vibrations through my feet from all the grave dancing DUers were doing.
Odd that people would be more respectful of Warren's feelings given the general distaste for religion here.
MADem
(135,425 posts)Rick Warren, a homophobic preacher, is not dead. His CHILD is dead.
There's a difference when a public figure who has had plenty to say about politics passes, and when the private citizen offspring of public figures dies.
I'm sure plenty of people, not just the father of this young man, are mourning his death.
amuse bouche
(3,657 posts)Uganda's "Kill the Gays Bill'
These pigs can't even keep their bigotry out of other countries.
He deserves no respect
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)It's about remebering who WE are and practicing intelligence and empathy--the qualities that define Liberalism.
Intelligence--the poor kid has *nothing* to do with who the father is.
Empathy--poor kid deserves some. It probably was not pleasant growing up.
amuse bouche
(3,657 posts)Clearly, you believe otherwise
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)Sorry if I sounded like I was getting on your case when I posted. I didn't mean it personally at you.
And no, I don't feel phony about my viewpoint here.
amuse bouche
(3,657 posts)He doesn't hear a damn word anyone says
And apology accepted.
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)about his family.
hfojvt
(37,573 posts)this LBN thread is split 50-50 or maybe even 60-40 http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=102x3392237
a thread in GD seemed to be mostly positive or neutral, except perhaps for 3 deleted messages. Maybe from trolls, who knows what they said now? Anyway, they were not approved by the moderators.
So far, I am not seeing all that much respect for Warren. Perhaps the same 50-50 split or maybe even 40-60.
JI7
(89,239 posts)i was sad. i thought he was an ok guy. i disagreed with him but didn't find him hateful. plus we watched him as he was getting closer to death since he was on tv discussing his illness and life. i remember reading i think his mother had died of the same thing.
Niceguy1
(2,467 posts)Not a time for politics, time to take the moral high ground.
MarcoS
(64 posts)in this case would be to ask Rick Warren if Matthew was gay, and then ask him if he believes or disbelieves the Biblical edict that people who engage in homosexuality are to be put to death. Both questions require simple yes or no answers.
Did anyone happen to catch Rick Warren's comment, that his son "chose" to not be "healed" of his depression? Somebody needs to explain how it's possible for anyone to choose to have a mental illness.
Niceguy1
(2,467 posts)Bully to me.
amuse bouche
(3,657 posts)But the family is saying the son was mentally ill since birth. That seems absurd
These people are assholes
Thinkingabout
(30,058 posts)There are a lot of answered questions for the family. At one service the minister explained that unless you have had feelings of suicide yourself you do not understand what this person felt in their life. It us so important to respond to those around you, and always let all your loved ones know they are loved and have a very special place in your heart.
Festivito
(13,452 posts)Even big Ed took a few years to get that some of his entrenched ideas no longer held together.
deutsey
(20,166 posts)also had a son who killed himself back in the '60s.
Terrible shit happens whether you're conservative, liberal, moderate, theist, atheist, whatever...what's needed here with Warren is basic, decent humanity.
IrishAyes
(6,151 posts)with great fondness. He had feet of clay like the rest of us, but he earned his time on this earth.
Adsos Letter
(19,459 posts)As a father who loves his own family: I hope they can find some comfort for their grief.
Walk away
(9,494 posts)and I was suffering, I would kill myself as well. He was a consenting adult so I respect his decision. The only tragic thing would be if he was brainwashed by religion into expecting that he would be in Heaven. That would be really sad.
zeemike
(18,998 posts)I will say nothing about him but that I am sorry for his death...even to his father...Well really especially to him...he should know, love them that hate you said the master.
That is something those right wingers do all the time, and if you do it to get even with them then you legitimize it...
Two wrongs makes a war.
riverbendviewgal
(4,252 posts)It is sad for someone to kill themselves.
Let us be kind. and comforting. It is the right way/
valerief
(53,235 posts)The Second Stone
(2,900 posts)this is an awful tragedy.
IrishEyes
(3,275 posts)May he rest in peace.
Hekate
(90,551 posts)I would not wish this grief on my worst enemy.
Rob H.
(5,349 posts)No parent should have to bury their child.
mainer
(12,017 posts)So sad.
Deep13
(39,154 posts)But then under most versions of Christianity suicide is the end result of despair which constitutes a rejection of the Holy Spirit: the one unforgivable sin.
IrishAyes
(6,151 posts)Never.
TimberValley
(318 posts)etherealtruth
(22,165 posts)I have nothing but compassion for this family.
This is a horror and loss no one should have to endure.
Kalidurga
(14,177 posts)Too many young people kill themselves with guns. I would hope at some point Pastor Warren could address that issue, but I somehow doubt he will. That shouldn't stop us from addressing the issue though and I have seen it addressed here occasionally. It is tragic what happened and I don't know how avoidable it was. But, we should be diligent in reducing the risk of our young people killing themselves like this, it's no less tragic than homicide.
And I do feel for his family. A friend of my children killed himself and they were all very shook up about it and saw first hand how much grief it caused his family as well.
elfin
(6,262 posts)That sad young man was so deeply depressed for so long with longing to be released from his pain.
Why have a gun around in those circumstances?
Yes, if really determined, he could choose another method, but a gun makes what may have been a transitory impulse so much easier.
he was obviously loved by his parents. Why didn't they take that one extra step to keep him as safe from himself as they could?
Adsos Letter
(19,459 posts)okasha
(11,573 posts)in his own home, not his parents'. They may not have known he had a weapon.
AnnieBW
(10,409 posts)A lot of evangelicals are still of the opinion that mental illness is caused by possession by demons. Seriously.
I'm very sad to know that Rev. Warren's son was mentally ill, and that he took his life. I hope that he finds the peace that he needs in the next life.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)How sad for their family.
IrishAyes
(6,151 posts)How can I expect the other side to behave any better than I do? Well, actually I usually CAN'T expect much from them, but I don't want to wallow in the mud with them either.
Especially since I'm one of too many to lose a child, that's a tragedy I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. It's a biblical injunction to weep with those who weep, after all.
TimberValley
(318 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)the family feels.
The death of a child is horrible, no matter who your family is.
RoccoR5955
(12,471 posts)Can we NOW have restrictions on guns?
How many will STILL say that guns don't kill people until we realize that without guns there would be fewer deaths like this one?
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amuse bouche
(3,657 posts)All this empathy for an asshole is vile. Would they feel the same way about the death of a family member of their mom's rapist? No, they would probably believe the rapist had something to do with the death
G_j
(40,366 posts)cordelia
(2,174 posts)amuse bouche
(3,657 posts)amuse bouche
(3,657 posts)Truth is nasty? That's your interpretation.
vankuria
(904 posts)anyone that loses a child. I don't care what their political persuasion or religion, because we are all bonded by our common humanity. And if this family did perhaps make some mistakes in raising their son, show me a parent that hasn't. I'm certainly not going to pass judgement on them, they are experiencing every parents worst nightmare.
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LWolf
(46,179 posts)a mother of sons, mock or make light of ANYONE's loss? "Supposed to be?" I DO empathy, and, unlike way too many Americans of all political orientations, it crosses political boundaries.
broadcaster75201
(387 posts)nt
Paladin
(28,243 posts)But I would never be constrained by any sort of right-wing insensitivity monitoring, much less any expectation that we're supposed to be the side that does empathy. Conservatives threw away the rule book long ago, and I see no point in adhering to good conduct handicaps in day-to-day matters.
Thanks for the common humanity.
alfredo
(60,071 posts)secondvariety
(1,245 posts)been a believer in the "sins of the father" crap. Let the poor guy rest in peace.
Sander
(137 posts)No Man Is An Island
No man is an island,
Entire of itself.
Each is a piece of the continent,
A part of the main.
If a clod be washed away by the sea,
Europe is the less.
As well as if a promontory were.
As well as if a manor of thine own
Or of thine friend's were.
Each man's death diminishes me,
For I am involved in mankind.
Therefore, send not to know
For whom the bell tolls,
It tolls for thee.
John Donne
Ken Burch
(50,254 posts)southernyankeebelle
(11,304 posts)cry for no reason. In and out of the best hospital in the world. They even took her to Lourdes. Nothing but death could finally put her out of her pain. She couldn't even tell you why she was the way she was. She had loving parents and came from a upper middle class family. When mental illness hits it hurts the family to see because they really don't have the power to help them because they can't even help themselves. He is out of his pain.
Safetykitten
(5,162 posts)Apophis
(1,407 posts)He doesn't care about my LGBT brothers and sisters, why the hell should I care about him?