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Children of single moms (Original Post) madokie Apr 2013 OP
K&R! PennsylvaniaMatt Apr 2013 #1
They also grew up with step fathers who were significant role models in their lives marshall Apr 2013 #3
Bill Clinton's step father PatSeg Apr 2013 #11
They still had a significant impact, no doubt for both good and bad marshall Apr 2013 #19
Obama was maybe eight years with his stepfather, but they were JDPriestly Apr 2013 #28
Absolutely! I am blessed to have an amazing step-father! PennsylvaniaMatt Apr 2013 #12
We shoudl honor Obama's grandparents as well malaise Apr 2013 #18
And also Clinton's grandmother marshall Apr 2013 #20
Yep n/t malaise Apr 2013 #21
My Granddaughter is being raised by a single mother--and was a teen Mom Horse with no Name Apr 2013 #2
Hell, yeah! silverweb Apr 2013 #4
Oh Gawd.... ReRe Apr 2013 #22
But Murphy Brown wasn't real, and the fictional character was well off. In RL, most of the time, raccoon Apr 2013 #26
What I was getting at... ReRe Apr 2013 #27
And at least one of them was subsidized by tax dollars (food stamps, medicaid) Melinda Apr 2013 #5
Unfortunately, repubs will use this to further their argument that progressoid Apr 2013 #6
Thanks for this from a single mom who raised 4 kids after my divorce. Arkansas Granny Apr 2013 #7
. lastlib Apr 2013 #9
madokie, Thank you, this is great! sheshe2 Apr 2013 #8
and may I add... lastlib Apr 2013 #10
Oh, you may! sheshe2 Apr 2013 #13
K&R! freshwest Apr 2013 #14
I could add my photo. trof Apr 2013 #15
Plenty of children who are raised by a single parent become successful. However it is true that totodeinhere Apr 2013 #16
True, and IME, raised by a single widowed mom, she was often overwhelmed by responsibilities and raccoon Apr 2013 #25
Ha! I never thought of that! Excellent post. nt Honeycombe8 Apr 2013 #17
Widowed mom here, Flora Apr 2013 #23
George Washington, too n/t Nevernose Apr 2013 #24
Many "single mothers" are in fact married marshall Apr 2013 #29

marshall

(6,665 posts)
3. They also grew up with step fathers who were significant role models in their lives
Tue Apr 2, 2013, 05:33 PM
Apr 2013

We should also honor those men who step in to help raise the children of other men, and in many cases adopt those children as their own.

PatSeg

(47,390 posts)
11. Bill Clinton's step father
Tue Apr 2, 2013, 06:46 PM
Apr 2013

was an abusive drunk.

I don't think Obama's step father was in his life for very long.

marshall

(6,665 posts)
19. They still had a significant impact, no doubt for both good and bad
Tue Apr 2, 2013, 08:00 PM
Apr 2013

Clinton's mother was married to Roger Clinton from 1950 to 1967, with a divorce and quick remarriage in 1962. That's 17 years, no insignia ant amount of time.

Likewise, Ann Dunham was married to Lolo Soetero from 1965 to 1980. That's 15 years, from the time Obama was a baby until he was a man.

Whatever the circumstances of the marriage, these two men played much more significant roles in their step sons' lives than the birth fathers, and they were there for significant parts of their young lives.

JDPriestly

(57,936 posts)
28. Obama was maybe eight years with his stepfather, but they were
Wed Apr 3, 2013, 03:58 PM
Apr 2013

important years. His stepfather was educated in the US.

Obama did not stay in Indonesia with his step-father for very many years before he came back to go to school in the US.

Obama was born in 1961. His mother married Obama''s stepfather in 1963 and moved with Obama to Indonesia in 1967. Obama would have been two when his mother remarried and about 6 years old when they moved to Indonesia.

Obama attended school in Indonesia from 6 to 10 and returned to the US. He was with his stepfather a total of maybe eight years with his stepfather.

Horse with no Name

(33,956 posts)
2. My Granddaughter is being raised by a single mother--and was a teen Mom
Tue Apr 2, 2013, 05:31 PM
Apr 2013

She just got invited to spend next summer at Harvard. She is in 4th grade.
Straight A's. Exceptionally bright.

I am proud. Of both of them.

silverweb

(16,402 posts)
4. Hell, yeah!
Tue Apr 2, 2013, 05:35 PM
Apr 2013

[font color="navy" face="Verdana"]ReTHUGs have been trying to blame the country's ills on single moms since the '60s, but these guys blow that argument to hell -- and I've got two of my own to add to the "To Be Insanely Proud Of" list!

ReRe

(10,597 posts)
22. Oh Gawd....
Tue Apr 2, 2013, 08:16 PM
Apr 2013

Do you remember what Dan Quale said about single Mom's? I think it was a reaction to TV show "Murphy Brown," (Candice Bergan) wasn't it? I can't remember exactly what he said, but it raised a giant hullabaloo.

raccoon

(31,110 posts)
26. But Murphy Brown wasn't real, and the fictional character was well off. In RL, most of the time,
Wed Apr 3, 2013, 08:45 AM
Apr 2013

that is not the case.



ReRe

(10,597 posts)
27. What I was getting at...
Wed Apr 3, 2013, 10:20 AM
Apr 2013

... was how he derided all "single Moms". Didn't matter that her fictional character was well off. Functional families come in all sizes and shapes, all socio-economic levels, where there is only one parent, two parents, or two parents of the same sex. As long as there is love and encouragement, and critical needs are met, including an education, those kids are going to be fine.

Melinda

(5,465 posts)
5. And at least one of them was subsidized by tax dollars (food stamps, medicaid)
Tue Apr 2, 2013, 05:46 PM
Apr 2013

Had to add this since there is another thread wherein someone is upset that their tax dollars are being used to fund Medicaid for those who are apparently able bodied and able enough to find a job, dammit!!

The things that chap this liberal ass anyway!!

Great thread, thanks madokie - ya old fart

Arkansas Granny

(31,514 posts)
7. Thanks for this from a single mom who raised 4 kids after my divorce.
Tue Apr 2, 2013, 06:01 PM
Apr 2013

They are all grown now and every one of them makes me proud.

trof

(54,256 posts)
15. I could add my photo.
Tue Apr 2, 2013, 07:44 PM
Apr 2013

They divorced when I was three.
Circa 1944.
We were 'a casualty of the war'.

Never saw or had any contact with him since.
They're both dead now.
She at 50 with breast cancer.
I learned a few years ago that he died in his mid 50s.
Cause unknown.

She instilled in me a concern for my fellow human beings.
The Golden Rule was her guide.
We were liberals before I knew what that was.
In Birmingham, Alabama.
In the 40s and 50s. and 60s.

I owe her a lot.

After her death I went on to make a career as an airline pilot, married a wonderful woman, had a magnificent daughter, who married a great guy, and now we have two really amazing grandchildren. He's 10 and she is 5.

Life is good.
Thanks, Mom.



totodeinhere

(13,058 posts)
16. Plenty of children who are raised by a single parent become successful. However it is true that
Tue Apr 2, 2013, 07:48 PM
Apr 2013

statically children from single parent households are more likely to grow up in poverty.

raccoon

(31,110 posts)
25. True, and IME, raised by a single widowed mom, she was often overwhelmed by responsibilities and
Wed Apr 3, 2013, 08:44 AM
Apr 2013

having to do everything and no spouse to help---KEEP READING--And I realize that sometimes, even if you have a spouse, they are no help and/or are actually a liability, especially if they are an active alcoholic/drug user, etc.






Flora

(126 posts)
23. Widowed mom here,
Tue Apr 2, 2013, 08:17 PM
Apr 2013

and still a "single mom" by choice! I decided years ago that it was too hard to try and "date", run a small business, and concentrate on raising my children. My oldest just started grad school while keeping his job within our Louisiana state capitol, and my youngest is making his way through junior high on the honor roll.

marshall

(6,665 posts)
29. Many "single mothers" are in fact married
Sun Apr 7, 2013, 08:53 AM
Apr 2013

As Michelle Obama pointed out when she referred to herself as a "busy single mother," oftentimes fathers are drawn away from the family by high powered jobs or other personal reasons, and mothers carry the brunt of raising children. Thanks heaven for those strong mothers!

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