Anybody else have a lousy fucking Christmas?

[Goodheart]

Fuck that day, really.

[Sherman A1]

1. Christmas wasn't bad at all

nothing special just a quiet day at home, today.... not so much. Learned my step daughter is coming for a week. My response was a very big F.........

[Wounded Bear]

2. Won't say "lousy" but I'm not a fan of the holiday...nt

[UniteFightBack]

3. It was pretty fucking bad here too. nt

[Goodheart]

4. Well, thanks for that. Misery loves company. :)

LOL

Separated from my s.o.

[Skittles]

5. 60 hour work week

but it still sounds better than dinner with Trump Humpers

[Kath2]

6. I pretty much hated it.

Conservative relatives that I would just love to tell to fuck off. Really glad it is over.

[sarisataka]

7. Nope, had a very pleasant day

Enjoyed some relaxed time with close family and took a moment to remember those who are no longer with us.

Sorry yours wasn't better

[Demsrule86]

23. My kids all came home this year...last year our son was on his honeymoon...I cooked three huge meals

Christmas eve, Christmas Brunch and Christmas dinner...we had money for presents...hubs was laid off during the GM strike so we were not sure what would happen...we also thought about Christmas past when our parents were still here...but all in all...it was a great day.

[Pepsidog]

66. All my Trumper family behaved theselves although I did call my brother-in-law a bible Thumper. .

[samnsara]

8. actually hubby and i had no company..we didnt go anywhere and we didnt cook dinner..

...it just worked out that way for us. So we played with the toys we got each other..chatted with some close family members on the Echo Shows we bought everyone a few years back..walked the dogs in the snow and drank wine and watched all the Xmas movies on tv. It was very relaxing. There was a time when december meant attending a huge conference dec 5-12 then..spending the next week shopping, wrapping and shipping flying to my dtrs for xmas to be with the small grandkids. It was manic!! Im sorry yours sucked

(((hugs)))

[Goodheart]

16. I knew I'd be alone so I bought myself a drone to play with. Turns out

that flying a drone is pretty nerve wracking when it's not boring.

Anybody want to buy a used drone? LOL

[lunatica]

46. Does your drone have a camera?

I imagine that would be a very nice use for a drone.

It was just me and my cat and Netflix. Just the way I like it. The only people I would want to be with died, so no more Christmases for me. Don’t want them and won’t have them.

[KPN]

49. Lol. Now that was funny ... at least to me.

[samnsara]

77. sorry we have a DSL Phantom that never gets flown so Im droned out...

...but thanks anyway. They scare me too..having that thing waaaay up there and knowing that if i do the wrong thing it may drop on someones head!


Maybe get a puppy?..or better yet a gentle senior dog who is sitting all alone and scared at the shelter.

They will love you unconditionally and sometimes thats just what we need to hug on.

[mopinko]

9. yup. my life is sorta full of trauma survivors these days.

and all 3 of them had a shitty day, so...

[KPN]

51. Yikes. Hang in there mopinko. There's one of those in my family life, and he can upset the cart

for all of us in an eye-blink. Can't imagine three! "Serenity now".

[mopinko]

81. fortunately not all in the same room at the same time.

but the 3 people most important to me.
bf started melting down on friday, and walked out xmas day. i had cheese and crackers for dinner. came back the next day, like i knew he would, but...

youngest kid is a mess, quasi-adopted daughter is a mess.

oddly, tho, it is not getting to me. i am getting used to all this in a positive way.
holding space for these 3. gaining peace a bit at a time.
and not getting sucked in by my own fears.

[El Supremo]

10. I got sick with a sinus infection...

that my wife gave to me.

Couldn't eat our dinner - maybe Saturday.

[3catwoman3]

36. Just so you don't blame your wife...

...too much, sinus infections are not contagious. The colds from which they arise, however, certainly are, and are contagious before people start having symptoms.

I hope you feel better soon.

[Codeine]

11. Not too bad this year.

Watched the kids unwrap presents, made breakfast, played with an RC car, and spent the rest of the day reading my historical magazine backlog while the rest of the fam hung out with my BIL.

[Demonaut]

12. I visited a friend who was in hospital, five months now with major injuries due to a car crash that

killed his brother, yeah...some people have it bad

[Goodheart]

17. Now you're making me feel guilty for whining. :)

[Phoenix61]

13. I'm sorry. The last 4 were like that in a big way but this

holiday season has been really nice. Either way, it’s over till next year. Fingers crossed next year Christmas will be better for you.

[Danmel]

14. Yeah. My husband's father died on December 17th

It's been totally depressing and sucky..

[Goodheart]

15. So sorry. I guess mine wasn't THAT bad, after all.

[stopbush]

18. I spent Xmas Eve and Xmas day til 3pm in the hospital

after suffering an SVT incident. Good doctors - everything is fine.

So, I’m wondering if anyone else really had a worse day. Don’t think so.

[Goodheart]

19. SVT? I'm sorry, I don't know what that is.

Your day was worse than mine, I'm sure. Hope you're OK.

[stopbush]

21. Supraventricular tachycardia. My heart was racing at 188bpm.

Normal is 60-100 bpm.

Caused my blood pressure to drop significantly. I fainted in the morning due to it. Scary stuff. Ended up in the cardio ward.

SVT’s are rarely life life threatening, but they are frightening to experience.

[Goodheart]

25. Sorry you went through that. I was depressed and alone, but healthy. :)

[Grasswire2]

37. what are you taking to control SVT?

....and did something in particular cause this episode? I had one like that after taking Sudafed years ago, and have never taken it again. I have learned several techniques to control episodes. And I found this article very very interesting. [link:https://thischangedmypractice.com/enhance-the-valsalva-to-actually-terminate-svt/|

[jberryhill]

22. Solid Vinyl Tile

Installing it can be hazardous.

[Demovictory9]

47. hard to pull that stuff up

[smirkymonkey]

65. I'm sorry to hear that

I hope you are feeling better! Please take care of yourself! Let us know how you are doing!

[Cartoonist]

20. Hamburgers for dinner

But I like hamburgers. I don't celebrate religious holidays.

[Freedomofspeech]

24. Had to spend it with our narcissistic daughter-in- law...

Crazy as a loon and screwing up our beautiful grandchildren.

[Goodheart]

26. I hope she doesn't read this board. :)

[Freedomofspeech]

75. Oh, hell, no...

She's too busy primping and ordering our son around.

[Kath2]

28. I feel it.

My own daughter is a total drama queen and trump supporter.

[Freedomofspeech]

76. Her only salvation is she is not a trumphumper.

Sorry about your daughter.

[safeinOhio]

27. Just another day for me.

No family and girl friend is out of town. Spent the day working on building project out back.

[HeiressofBickworth]

29. I'm still recovering

from chemo treatments for stage 4 lymphoma. So, good day or bad, I'm just glad to be around. Star of the day was my 23 month old great grandson. He was cute, funny and had lots of fun opening presents. I took a nap after they left.

[Demsrule86]

54. Best wishes for a full recovery...Lymphoma is a disease that can be beaten...I read up on it as my

daughter had a enlarged lymph node...it turned out to be benign...but I read a great deal...it can be beaten even in stage four according to what I read.

[HeiressofBickworth]

114. I've been fortunate

A scan after second chemo treatment showed tumors were gone. A scan after sixth treatment still showed tumors gone. What has me down now is that I had a tumor on my hip that broke the bone at the top of my leg next to my hip socket. At first they thought I needed a hip replacement but that has been ruled out. I have now been referred to a bone tumor specialist. Hope that's the answer because I'm real tired of being in pain all the time and not being able to walk.

[smirkymonkey]

67. Hope you feel better Heiress!

I am glad you had a visitor. Wishing you all the best and a Happy New Year!

[Freddie]

78. My brother is beating lymphoma again!

Diagnosed in 1997, had aggressive chemotherapy. Cancer-free for 22 years. Came back last spring. He recognized the symptoms right away (in his case, swollen glands in groin) and he got the state-of-the-art treatment, a different chemo regimen followed by a autologous (self) bone-marrow transplant. So far he’s doing great and all tests are NED. It’s a treatable cancer.

[tavernier]

92. Aren't they funny at that age? Wobbly!

You go, girl.

[brooklynite]

30. I had a lovely time, thanks for asking...

Watched our traditional THE MIRACLE ON 34TH STREET (the original version); Christmas Eve dinner. Unitarian service with the Boston Gay Men’s Chorus (we’re atheists), a Poffertjes cooking contest with my brother, presents with my brother’s family, a three course fondue dinner with my sister’s family. What’s not to like?

“I am sorry, with all my heart, to find you so replete. We have never had any quarrel, to which I have been a party. But I have made the trial in homage to Christmas, and I’ll keep my Christmas hunour to the last. So a Mweey Christmas, uncle!”

[wryter2000]

31. Fuck that day

Seriously.

I have good things through my church. Otherwise, the holiday sucks

[cwydro]

87. Why?

It’s just another day.

Don’t celebrate the holiday if you don’t want, but what makes it suck?

I enjoy the peace and quiet of that day. I choose to do what I want.

[wryter2000]

93. Some reasons

The days are short.

The weather is crappy.

I have to spend money on presents. At least I no longer have to do that for a boss I disliked.

There's nothing good on TV.

There are messages everywhere that I'm supposed to be merry.

Some year I want to spend Christmas in a non-Christian nation so it'll be just another day. Preferably in the southern hemisphere so it'll be warm.

[njhoneybadger]

32. Actually I can't wait for the day to be over

Fuck Christmas, it always seems so hollow to me

[Lexblues]

33. I had the Worst. Christmas. Ever.

None worse in my 44 years on Earth.

[renate]

40. That sounds really bad. I'm very sorry

Would you like to get anything off your chest, or is heartfelt sympathy enough? Either way, I hope things improve for you soon.

[bearsfootball516]

34. My Christmas was pretty enjoyable

My wife and 1-year old girl opened presents in the morning with The Polar Express playing in the background, then went over to my in-laws for the Christmas meal and more gifts. It was really an enjoyable time!

[trixie2]

61. Holidays are so much fun with little ones

[bdamomma]

35. My Christmas was

enjoyable, with family. Quiet day for us.

[murielm99]

38. No. We had a good day.

There was no pressure this year, because all our kids are scattered and no one came home. We gave each other presents. We made sure we sent modest gifts to our adult offspring.

We decorate the house because we enjoy it. We make cookies for a large number of friends because we enjoy that, too.

If you want to hate the day, fine. If you want to ignore it, that is okay, too. I like Christmas, whether I have several guests or none at all.

[essaynnc]

39. Decent time here.

visiting my brother and his wife in Cincinnati. a good time, thankfully we're all on the same side politically. No commercial Christmas for us, just a small stocking of gifts.

I'm giving my kids (16 and 18) coupon books of things that we will do together for little or low cost, just to spend more quality time togethertoge with them.

I know Christmas can be difficult with lots.of unreasonable expectations, doing my best to avoid that and actually interact and help out where I can.

[trixie2]

62. What a great idea!

[Polybius]

41. I got some classic video games and ate ham

Mine was good, thank God.

[ooky]

42. It was a pretty good Christmas, spent all day at my oldest son's new home.

All my kids and grandkids are here in town so we don't have to travel. Didn't have any out of town guests this year to prepare for, that's always extra work. So we just started with my granddaughter's Santa Claus and then presents, and just hanging out and eating and drinking all day long. Conversation was good, my family are all liberals, and no Trumpers visitors this year to argue with. Yeah, it was a good day.

[Runningdawg]

43. The best part was giving the pets their gifts.

The worst part is being the only sober person in a family of heavy drinkers.

[Demsrule86]

56. Our pets...love unwrapping presents...four dogs...three poms and one jack russell...

My daughter's cats are visiting also...I bought a bunch of liquor for cocktails but we all ended up drinking coffee and diet Pepsi.

[alfredo]

44. One word - Migraine

[NRaleighLiberal]

45. We had an unusual one.

Since we are packing and getting ready to move in a few weeks, no tree (well, a 1 foot tall fake one with a small set of white lights), and only a few gifts for my wife and I for each other. Nice breakfast, long dog walk - dinner at our daughter's house (which was OK - we are not a fan of her hubby). Happiest when we got home to our dogs and cats and watched a movie, then got into our warm bed.

Way too much water under the bridge - Christmas becomes a complicated holiday when much of the family has passed away (aunts, uncles, grandparents, parents, sister, brother) - and the kids are grown and out of the house - and one has evolved away from the religious part of it. All of those ghosts....

Mostly it was nice to take a break from decluttering and packing!

[spike jones]

48. Now that my grandchildren are older they know to greet me this time of year with, "Fuck Christmas."

[Rstrstx]

50. I've had worse, at least nobody died this year

[Upthevibe]

52. I'm so sorry your day sucked....

I'm very fortunate in that I've had the tradition for many years of spending Christmas Eve. and Christmas Day with close friends (we're all single and live in California - our families live in other states so we don't have to deal with unpleasant dynamics). We watched Christmas movies, ate, exchanged gifts (that are within all of our budgets - so we don't have that pressure), and had great conversation.

We're COMPLETELY like-minded progressives and our main discussion this year was, of course, the impeachment and what we think may happen next. We're jazzed because California's primary has been moved up to March 3rd. We talked about what we feel are the pros and cons of the candidates. None of us has a real favorite right now but all of us are leaning toward feeling good about a Warren/Pete Buttigieg ticket....

[Dukkha]

53. The worst for sure

Christmas was always a special happy time spent with my wife and kids. The week before Thanksgiving out of nowhere she said she wants a divorce. I was early retired so I'm no unemployed trying to get back in to workforce at 50. I voluntarily stayed in a dump hotel on the 24th and 25th so she could have a nice day with the kids. Their young adults now on their own. I spent the day still nursing a broken heart while watching movies and eating middle eastern food. The 24th was the dreadful family gathering which is almost all Trumpsters. I was like a silent ghost that haunts the background of other people's happy lives. I just kept telling myself it's one day you got to get through then back to the usual.

[Goodheart]

58. I've been there. I feel your pain.

[RandySF]

55. Mine got better after I arrived in Michigan

[marble falls]

57. Very nice Christmas, my MiL and SiL had not a thing to say about Trump for once.

[trixie2]

59. This is how I look at it - I am not a child

So my expectations are nil. Most years I will go to whoever is having dinner and have gifts for the grands. This year it was at a house with a pit bull and I don't like/scared of dogs. My bf and I went to a college party and we have not been in college in 30 years. It was a blast!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We did this on Christmas Eve and hung out in pjs all day on Christmas. I had previously made a roast chicken with veggies. We got up early on Christmas eve and ran around to all the grands who don't have dogs and dropped off presents, played with the kids and left the one kid with the dog present with another family to take to dinner.

This may be a new tradition. It was nice to spend time with individual kids at their houses. Detroit was in the 50s and so we took walks with the little ones and played on the swings. Our family doesn't celebrate Christmas eve and most of us don't attend church. So it was great not to have to go to a packed house on Christmas day with all the cousins running around. Many in the family say Happy Festivus or Saturnalia.......................

[broiles]

60. I had a great Christmas, and I'm an atheist.

[StarfishSaver]

63. I spent the day in the hospital with a dearly loved one

And was grateful for every moment of the day.

So my Christmas was absolutely lovely.

[cilla4progress]

64. Nice one here!

Our small family - adult daughter and husband and I - have really been enjoying each other's company! Playing games, snow-shoeing, skiing, walks, cooking together. Delicious meals with a few friends - Christmas bonfire! Going to sweet mother in law's tomorrow (5 hour drive) for a couple days.

It's funny how suited we are to each other! Our small family (only child) is unusual - and it works for us! We love our furry family, too - esp. Jagger the rescue Rottsky. He will come with us to Grandma's tomorrow.

Happy New Year, hugs and love to all!

[JoeOtterbein]

68. Agreed. We all need to understand that many x-mas memories are not happy.

(tears)

[marlakay]

69. Yes sick most of month

I caught my older moms cold on thanksgiving and was sick from bad cold coughing for over two weeks. I thought well at least I won’t be sick for Christmas.

I had one week where I felt fine and of course had to do all my shopping that week. In Target last Saturday I passed a few people that sneezed right next to me, ugh! I stayed home while sick at least!

By Monday I had the scratchy throat and it was like the same thing all over again. Woke up super sick Christmas eve, was in bed most of day cancelled our dinner reservations, Christmas other than getting up for short time to open gifts was in bed too. I sent hubby to movies alone yesterday we had tickets to 3D Star Wars. Last night coughed so bad it scared me but steam in bathroom helped.

Today still sick in bed slept a bit and feel tiny better but just walking to bathroom tires me out.

If it wasn’t for step daughter having her baby Christmas morning I would say horrible Christmas. We weren’t planning to visit baby till later next month anyway we live out of state from her.

I have been doing my gratitude journal though 3 things daily, mostly lately thankful for comfy bed, my sweet dog loving me and hubby taking care of me.

[smirkymonkey]

83. Sorry to hear that marlakay.

I have also been sick since thanksgiving with a few good days here and there and I just woke up coughing and congested and I am angry at how long this is dragging on. Taking Mucinex, Benadryl, Vicks hot compresses, etc, but it just seems to linger. I just bought a saline nasal rinse and am going to try that later today when I am feeling a little better.

It seems to be going around and it's a bad one. I do love my comfy bed though. I just wish I had a sweet dog to cuddle with!

[marlakay]

89. Sorry its lasting so long for you

I swear by the nasal rinse and i also pour boiling filtered water over fresh crushed garlic in a filter and use that with the packets they give you. Just don’t let the garlic get to strong.

The garlic has many natural healing properties. I can keep from or get rid of sinus infections that way.

I still feel sick today but fever is gone and a bit better.

[smirkymonkey]

90. Oh, the garlic is a good idea! Thanks for the suggestion!

I have swallowed pieces of garlic whole before, but never tried it in the nasal rinse. It is a natural antibiotic.

I hope you feel better soon - at least in time to start the New Year healthy!

[marlakay]

96. Same to you!

Hope you feel better soon to rock the New Year in! 😁🥳

[flotsam]

70. Christmas day is a day just like the other 364

Look into yourself for why it was lousy.

[mvd]

71. Yes

This was the first Christmas without my dad, who died of cancer earlier this year. Still having money problems, and my mom and I get lonely. I am a Christmas person, but my last couple would test even the most festive.

[Itchinjim]

72. If your mother doesn't pass away on Christmas day as mine did in 1997,

Then it's a good Christmas.

[malaise]

74. Yep

[malaise]

73. We had an absolutely lovely Christmas

Sorry yours was really bad.

[lark]

79. Our day was pretty good, average in fact, which is totally wonderful & extraordinary for us.

For once, we were all there and all the immediate family members that want them have jobs. I am happily retired and like it that way.

Holidays have tended to be sad for the last 7 years since my son started having addiction issues. He finally kicked the habit and has been clean 9 months. Was quite worried that when he started having money again, he'd backslide, but he didn't!

So average or normal was so far up from what we've been experiencing that it was totally wonderful to me. Yes, my daughter was snarky as usual, and son disorganized as heck, but I didn't even let it affect me this year. Woohoo for normalcy in the family!

My 2020 be a year of positive change for this country and all of us.

[sl8]

80. "Death Toll Reaches 28 as Philippines Recovers From Christmas Typhoon"

[winetourdriver01]

82. yeah

It was pretty bad, worse one I've ever had.

[KatyaR]

84. Just a quiet day at home, me and the dog, but

I had a wreck on Christmas Eve, so I've spent a lot of time since then worrying about my car. I'm fine, the other party is fine, too, wasn't my fault, but the right front of my car got smashed. So I'm currently without transport, and it seems like it'll be next week before anything starts to happen to resolve the situation. #anxiety

[redstatebluegirl]

85. I had so many awful ones as a kid, I refuse to allow my holiday to be ruined any longer.

I love Christmas, I love the sounds, the smells, the food! I love the music, the tree and all the decorations. My husband and I both had difficult childhoods, we don't have children due to that. With that in mind we have made our own holiday traditions and we keep them. We have a great time.

Christmas is what you make it. Not everyone has a Hallmark Christmas family or marriage, you just have to make the best of it.

[DFW]

86. It was like the UN General Assembly was being held at our house

Germans, Russians, Americans, Austrians, phones in from France, Switzerland, a few others.

[MicaelS]

88. NO!!!!!!!!

I had a great Christmas Day. Spent the day with my closest friend

[tavernier]

91. No!! All of the kids and grands are together this year for

my oldest grandson’s wedding on New Year’s Eve. All are healthy and happy and smart and beautiful, some richer, some poorer, all generous and loving.

Daughter and I shed a tear over a toast as we both said at the same time, “We are so blest.”

Truly sorry to all who had a bad year and holiday... I fervently hope your fortune changes in the coming year.

[Ilsa]

94. I used to.

A certain person in the family get-togethers would always pick a fight. Always set to mess up someone's Christmas, even when everyone else was trying so hard not to upset the drama-king. A real turd in the punchbowl. So, everyone just decided not to spend Christmas with them ever again, and we are all much happier for it.

[CTyankee]

95. No, my ex husband and his shrieky wife were sidelined due to health issues and I liked my Xmas

better without them.

[LiberalFighter]

97. Not a problem for me.

Stayed home alone.

Didn't have to travel anyplace long distance.
Didn't have to fly anyplace.
Didn't have to deal with any bad weather.
Didn't have to deal with fake Christmas at a church.
Didn't have to deal with bad conversation at the dinner table.
Didn't have to deal with any murders or bad fights.
Didn't have to fight for what to watch on tv.

Probably a lot more to be thankful.

[hauweg]

98. Worst Christmas ever

with my wife at the end of her chemo and radiation therapy. All the side effects showing up including a very weak immune system which prevented us from having anybody at our house out of fear to catch a infection. No budget for any gifts as medical bills ate away savings and missing a complete income. There are other things on top and I just wish to never have a Christmas like this one again.

[malaise]

111. That was rough

[a la izquierda]

99. Yeah...

Mine was emotionally very challenging.

[frogmarch]

100. My son and his family drove 500 miles

to spend Xmas with us, but when they got to our town, my son was sick (flu, I guess) so they stayed in a motel and went home the next morning. They are all sick now but getting better. My husband has COPD, so they didn't stop here and expose him to whatever it is.

On the bright side, for once the weather was good and they didn't have trouble with snow or slick roads.

[MFM008]

101. My son worked

Hard and spent alot of money to help the rest of us deal with the first Christmas without my mom.
Im so greatful for him.

[Goodheart]

102. Nice!

[DBoon]

103. our favorite deli ran out of pastrami!

The horror. The horror!

Fortunately their turkey club sandwich was very good.

[Habibi]

104. Mine was nice. Spent the day

home alone, reading books and eating junk food.

My sympathies to all who had a tough time, though.

[calimary]

105. Just wanted to add in here

a timely reminder:

DU is a WORLD-CLASS place to vent, and to get shit off your chest.

I’ve found that sometimes it’s really helpful to write this stuff down. And then there it is. On paper or in a post. It’s been let out from where you’ve been holding it in, and it is separate from you.

Then you can look at it with a little distance and maybe thereby with a different perspective. A shorter distance than the present-moment slogan about “the view from 30,000 feet...”

And others can and will see it (if you post about it) and maybe weigh in. Then you’ll discover how much sympathy, empathy, and compassion there is here. We’ve got some genuine wise ones here.

[VOX]

106. Very true, and very nicely said.

I’ve often thought that DU served as an outstanding “pressure-relief valve” to express oneself when the daily events and issues get heated and/or just plain crazy.

You expressed this process as it pertains to DU very nicely. Well done!

[calimary]

112. Awwww... thanks, VOX.

Thanks for the kind words.

The mood I’m in at the moment is a wee bit down. Just put our boy & his girlfriend on a plane back home. That is always a rough one for me. But it was really nice having them both up here all week.

So at least there is that.

[VOX]

107. Mnire's disease flare-up: Three episodes of knock-down vertigo.

On the 25th and 26th. Put a crimp in the festivities.

But I keep it in perspective. Far too many people have it much worse in a multitude of ways, so my lone medical complaint is really small stuff.

[UTUSN]

108. I just cocoon from Thanksgiving to new years!1

[JesterCS]

109. Mine was alright

Didn't go anywhere. Was just another day, but did get some computer parts i needed so that's a plus.


But i hear you. I have much the same feeling about Valentine's Day. I despise it, because I've been single for every one of them I've lived. Lol

[diva77]

110. This thread reads like a variation of "A Christmas Carol" as Goodheart

learns to appreciate his situation as he learns of others far worse off than himself.

[Blue_true]

113. Mine was blissful. The secret is to treat it like any other day. nt