Last week I lambasted Rabbi Adam Jacobs who wrote an “open letter to the atheist community”. As someone else has astutely observed, the rabbi’s letter was practically a model for how not to address serious atheists. In hopes for better future discussions between believers and non-believers, I decided to give some advice to believers who would like to reach out to us in the future, whether publicly or personally. In some cases I will use examples that assume the reader is a Christian since I live in America and in America seemingly 99.99% of would-be proselytizers are Christians of some sort. But most of the principles will be valuable to Muslims and those rare proselytizing Jews too.
I completely understand if you do not want this advice or refuse to abide by it. I am fine with you not even trying to reach out to me. But if you would really like to try to reach out to atheists for some reason, I think I can speak for a lot of atheists when I offer these tips for how to make us like you and not be as insulted and unimpressed as many of us were by the Rabbi Jacobs’s letter.
(Note from cleanhippie: there are several paragraphs for each of these "tips". I urge you to read the article)1. Do not “share the Gospel” with us.
2. Do not lie.
3. Do not assume you are either morally better, spiritually more attuned, or happier than we are simply because you belong to your faith.
4. If you decide to debate us about God and employ a strategy to convince us, stick with the topic you raise and address our counter-arguments without constantly changing the subject.
5. Do not try to offer us reasons to change our minds while refusing to open your own mind.
6. Do not try to tell us what we really must think about ethics or metaphysics or assume you know what any given atheist thinks about these issues.
7. Do not scold us for abandoning the faith.
8. Explicitly embrace political secularism.
9. Do not change your evidence criteria in self-serving ways.
10. Turn the other cheek by being a good sport about criticism and jokes about your religion (even unfair forms).
http://freethoughtblogs.com/camelswithhammers/2011/02/22/top-10-tips-for-reaching-out-to-atheists/-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
The author has recently started a Top 10 Tips For Reaching Out To Religious Believers here ===>
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